I work in a doctor's office that has two locations and we have around 40 people employed combined. All the females here are clicky and etc. SOme i get along with and others i really don't. Do I have to invite everyone? Or should i not invite anyone at all? I have worked at my job for almost 8 years now.
2007-08-20 04:46:51 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I used to work at a doctors' office with over 50 employees so I know where you're coming from.
When it came out that one of the girls would be getting married, she'd usually simply put one of her invitations on the bulletin board making it clear that all were invited, but you don't have to come if you don't want to. Of course, this may be pretty tricky if you need RSVPs from everyone, but that's what putting RSVP at the bottom of the invitation is for! At my old office, the same ten or so girls went to the baby showers and weddings and such so I know what you mean about cliques.
Good luck!
2007-08-20 04:55:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem. These people that i work with have become my family though. I work at a HUGE company.... Sam's Club, so there is a whole lot of people. I dont have the kind of money to invite everyone to my wedding, so I invited just a few and told them not to say anything about while at work. It all blew up in my face *sigh* I have people coming up to me asking me why they weren't invited and why 'so and so' was. And I feel SO SO SOOOOOO bad. I have people not talking to be anymore, that were really good friends of mine, and people staring at me, it's not a good feeling. I would suggest not do it if you know some people will get upset if you dont invite them.
I ended up telling everyone the situation and what I decided to do was to invite everyone to a HUGE party (that they of course get to throw for me) after the wedding. Kind of like a second reception all on the same day. Maybe you can do something like that
2007-08-20 06:14:26 · answer #2 · answered by Kasandra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Co-workers are just that, co-workers. You shouldn't feel like you have to invite anyone you don't want to. I worked at my company for 6 years. I didn't invite anyone in my department, not even my boss! I did invite a few people on the floor that I had come close with. I'm sure some people's feelings were hurt, I know my boss's was, but it's your day, it's not a circus. I'd only invite the people who you really feel close to and want to share an intimate event in your life.
Oh and by the way, be prepared for people to flat out ask if they are invited! I told them up front no. Sure it was awkward, but how rude to ask. You can make it sound better by telling them it's a very small ceremony with just family and a few close friends.
2007-08-20 05:08:37 · answer #3 · answered by PhantomRN 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When I got married I became staff at my new job just months before the wedding. I was freelance for 2 years and really needed the job to pay for the wedding. I owed alot to people that were pushing for me to be a staffer.
I invited maybe 10 people with their spouses. My new boss started and I barely new him, so I didn't invite him. I heard he kept asking people if they were going. He would make digs like I'll have the filet. I'm not working there anymore, and left after I got maried. Sometimes I wonder if I invited him would he have called me back to freelance??
It's a tough call.
2007-08-20 05:06:56 · answer #4 · answered by Lyla 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The rule about inviting people from work is that you don't need to invite everyone but the the people you do invite should be people that you are so close to that when others here that person is invited they should not be surprised at all since they know that you and that person are quite close.
2007-08-20 05:02:23 · answer #5 · answered by Luv2Answer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is your special day. Invite only the co-workers you like and care enough to and want to go. Remember people go to work to make money not make friends. There will always be clicks at work and many won't like you regardless if you invite them or not.
If you really want to make sure you invite everyone you could have a special office party for co-workers, invite the 40 people to it so no one won't feel left out and let everyone meet your future spouse.
2007-08-20 05:00:31 · answer #6 · answered by C C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Invite just the ones that you are close with and send them personal invites to their homes. You can even talk to them seperately and ask them not to make a big deal out of it, and not talk about the wedding at work. 40 is a lot of people to invite if you actually only want 5 or so!
2007-08-20 04:53:22 · answer #7 · answered by LSU_Tiger23 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I have worked at a small company for almost 8 years also. We have only about 7 employees and some I do not get along with 3 of them so I refuse to invite them. I don't feel I should have to pay for ppl that I don;t like. If I don;t like working w. them why would I invite them to my wedding??
I say invite only those that u want to be there on your sepcial day and don;t feel bad about it.
2007-08-20 08:54:04 · answer #8 · answered by jamitha99 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's up to you but I was invited by one of my good Friends to be in her wedding and my boyfriend was invited to the wedding as well since we are both good friends with the bride and groom. The thing was that all four of us worked at the same place. When people found out she was getting married they expected an invite since my boyfriend and I got one. Some people made comments to me about how they didn't get invited and when she gave me the engagement invite at work people would come over and pick it up then read it and sigh. One lady even said, "Well I'm glad you got invited and they didn't even invite me." I'm appalled by peoples rudeness. Especially since we're all younger (20's) and these were older people saying this. We didn't get invited bc of our age, we were the only people that they talked to outside of work and we are close with.So be prepared some people will be rude about it.
But if there are people you want to invite that your close with then invite them. I'd rather have someone I'm not close with be alittle mad at first then have a close friend not getting an invite just bc you didn't want to hurt others. You'll just end up hurting those close to you. So invite those that you are close to and do things with outside of work and even those that you are close to inside of work. Good luck and Congrats.
2007-08-20 05:08:38 · answer #9 · answered by Jessica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You invite only who you want to see at the wedding.
My office only has about 20 people, and its an out of the area wedding, so I'm not inviting anyone from work.
2007-08-20 07:11:10 · answer #10 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋