doesn't this turn out to be a never ending cycle, and at what point would you become a Sl*t for trying to find a good a man?
2007-08-20 04:45:37 · 25 answers · asked by DizziDazi 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe it's the men you are choosing. Not all cheat.
2007-08-20 04:49:55 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you don't have to sleep with a guy in order to find one. How about trying this: Next time you meet a man you want to date and get to know, date and get to know him. Leave out the intimacy. Really get to know him for several months. If you and he mutually decide that you want to spend the rest of your lives together, have him get you a ring and show some real signs of making a commitment. Men who cheat know how to trick us into thinking they love us and it's "forever". Become better at the game than they are. Make them commit. The true and good ones will commit. The cheaters will not. End of heartbreak.
2007-08-20 11:51:25 · answer #2 · answered by Sassie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're in a seemingly endless cycle of ending up with men who cheat or treat you badly, you need to ask yourself: "what is it in ME that keeps attracting me to these guys?" Attraction is a very psychological thing - there are definite reasons behind why you seem naturally drawn to these kind of guys. Usually it's the way you grew up or self-esteem issues of not feeling truly worthy for a great guy.....so you end up going after guys you know will treat you horribly. Of course you don't do this on a conscious level. I don't know if there are ANY women who get with a guy they KNOW will treat them badly - but it's something you do subconsciously and until you address why you do that, then you will remain in this cycle. If I were you, I would seek out professional therapy to better understand what draws you to these kind of men so you can BREAK the cycle and move on with your life....and hopefully go on to find a great guy!
2007-08-20 11:52:47 · answer #3 · answered by bestadvicechick 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If every man that you have dated has cheated on you than you are not picking the right type of man. There are good men out there you have just got to look for the right man keep looking.
best of luck
2007-08-20 11:51:02 · answer #4 · answered by mmurray001 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you will not become a SL*t for trying to find happiness. You just need to stop going after the bad boys.... re-look the kinda of guy you want.
2007-08-20 12:16:26 · answer #5 · answered by MOs fishin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'd suggest that if you're sleeping with all these cheaters, that you keep your legs closed until you've met a good man. Good men will not force your legs open. Stop having sex with everyone and try to date nice guys! We do exist!
2007-08-20 11:51:17 · answer #6 · answered by bluedevil1642 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There would be no point when I would become a slut to try to find a good man.
I would look at why I'm attracted to those men in the past and LISTEN to my friends instead of ignore them.
2007-08-20 11:50:31 · answer #7 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The rules of dating are quite simple and totally unethical. A woman sleeps with 10 guys, she gets labeled. A man could do the same thing, and he's the hero. Maybe you should take a break, focus on yourself, and let somebody find you for once...
2007-08-20 11:52:27 · answer #8 · answered by sara p (hugs trees) 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I guess u have to ask yourself why have they all cheated on you?
I don’t want to accuse anyone of anything but…..Is it maybe because you have picked jerks for boyfriends? You know the smooth talking, rich, handsome guys. Perhaps it’s time to give the shy guys a chance. You know the ones that appear overly nervous talking to you, the ones that r not quite sure what to say, the ones u usually blow off!
2007-08-20 11:50:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
One need not become a sl*t to find the right guy, the right guy always comes at the right time, thats wat most people doesnt know, they end up going for the bad guys when the guys r supposed to come for u......
2007-08-20 11:52:05 · answer #10 · answered by Chelsuz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it means you are normal.
im a little confused by the last part, if you are using sex to get a man, thats why they are cheating, you are being used. its a guy thing, give it up too soon, make it too easy, and we cheat. we see you like a sex slave.
men are like children, you have to be the adult, slap his hand and say no. dont give it up until you know the guy cares about you.
2007-08-20 11:53:56 · answer #11 · answered by Jr. is angry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋