I don't have a boyfriend, but I really want one. My problem is that all of my friends have boyfriends, but all they do is fool around, while I want adventure and excitement (you know, theme parks, camping, and my fav, watching Theatre plays). I don't want to fool around, I want to have fun. I also and have a nice figure to be proud of, but I am very tall, not strong at all, and I'm cute not Hot. Do guys want a Hot girlfriend or a Cute Girlfriend? And I don't drink or smoke like alot of my friends, I'm completely different. Am I a turn-off.
2007-08-20 04:42:34 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
nonsense. The way you described yourself, I can see you are a mature and beautiful woman. Your friends are fooling around, that's about it. What else can you say about them that's good. Nothing. You seem like a kind person with a good head on your shoulders. Don't worry. You'll find your Prince Charming. Don't have such high expectations on having a boyfriend. The right guy will enter your life when you least expect it. Good luck....
2007-08-20 04:57:59 · answer #1 · answered by Choppinsumwood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please dont try to be like them to get a guy. You are great the way you are and probably too young to have a boyfriend. You have terrific qualities. It saddens me that you write and ask if you are a 'turn-off'. You need to be proud of yourself the way you are. It sounds that you are way superior in every important way( liking the theatre, no drinking or smoking, no fooling around) . If I were you I would try to not look sideways( not look at peers who are inferior) and just be the very best you can be in academics for now and the rest will follow. If you have too much spare time, then volunteer or take a fun class in some hobby you like and youll meet people there. Years from now all those persons you call your friends will be spent and you will only just be beginning to have a full, rich and successful life.
2007-08-20 04:51:45 · answer #2 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be turning them off, but you don't need to change any of the things you listed--having fun, being cute not hot, not fooling around--none of those will stop you from getting a boyfriend.
But what will turn them off is when you tell everyone you won't fool around, act jealous of people with a boyfriend, look down at what your friends are doing and generally be a stick in the mud for their brand of sitting around drinking and having fun. If you can hang out with them without complaining about their habits, it will help. If you really can't stand what they waste their time with, quit wasting time with them and make new friends. Otherwise, have fun while you are with them--you don't need to join them, but you do need to stay fun.
2007-08-20 04:52:33 · answer #3 · answered by wayfaroutthere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T WORRY ABOUT YOU!!!!
From the description it sounds like you're happy with the way you live your life, except you don't have a boyfriend. If you're happy, then don't change yourself just to get a boyfriend. You'll find a guy that will fall in love with your personality.
I'm not sure how old you are, but in college, you'll find guys that are interested in the same things as you. You sound like a girl that I would be interested in. You sound ALOT like my current girlfriend.
Basically, don't worry about whether or not you're a turn-on to a guy or not. I mean, you want to be YOU right? So don't change. If you have to change yourself to turn a guy on, then that guy isn't right for you.
Another thing, don't look so hard. Try not to worry about getting a boyfriend. And it's a proven fact that if you stop looking and stop thinking about it, that's when you find the person of your dreams. So relax, be you, have fun, and I think you'll be surprised on how many people you really turn on.
2007-08-20 04:51:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not! Well I'm a guy myself and its kinda difficult to say every guy is different sometimes a guy might want a girl to show off to his friends, or to fool around with like what you just said. At my school use ally the guys boss their girls around and just plain use them in other words they treat them like crap. Just be yourself that's all it takes. That's what most guys want in a girl, no sassy, show off just a regular nice girl and cute or hot it doesn't matter! Its just two different words to describe their girlfriend that all. Don't worry you'll do fine!!!
2007-08-20 04:57:09 · answer #5 · answered by ComputerWhiz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not a guy but i would like to answer your question and im not gay i just think i have a answer fo everything.
your not a turn off see people who have realtionships where all they do is fool around usually dont last long at all.
your the type who rather wait and see if you like them enough fool around maybe 1 or 2 times a week or maybe wait longer because you want to go out and have fun.
you rather enjoy the persons company and be happy with knowing your man wants you for you and not sex. your what i like to call a wifey chick like me
boyz wife us becuz we dont give it up easy were fun and were some one who we can bring home to their mother unlike your frineds (sorry)
2007-08-20 04:51:22 · answer #6 · answered by ~*[AnD]*~ 4 lyfe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not a turn-off. Trust yourself to be who you are. There is no rushing romance although I know it hurts to wait. It sounds as if you are willing to be thoroughly committed to a relationship and look for it to be growing, sharing experience. Many people would prefer it be just a chance to "fool around" and don't see the nature of the partnership. You will make someone a very lucky man.
2007-08-20 04:50:34 · answer #7 · answered by riderpops 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you sound very cute and guys like cute. The problem is that most guys under 21 just want girls to fool around with and im guessin you under 21. If they want to have fun they usually do it with their guy friends at that age.
2007-08-20 04:50:43 · answer #8 · answered by Frankie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need a good guy friend to just "kick it" with. Ive had guy friends like this before, yall give each other advice, hang out and go have fun together. Maybe after a while of just hanging with a guy your enjoy spending time with your feelings will change. Just make sure your honest with him about what your looking for-Most guys are looking for the same companionship-Good Luck
2007-08-20 04:49:28 · answer #9 · answered by DJowithlove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not at all your into more things than a fling relationship and it seems like your have very good morals. Most guys would love a relationship like that. Keep those morals strong, it's just in this phase of your life that's what everyone's doing. There's a guy out there for you just smile and stay positive, he'll come to ya.
2007-08-20 04:47:55 · answer #10 · answered by bm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋