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my daughter had to choose whether or not to see her dad again she lives w/ me but visits her dad on weekends. well her stepmom lets call her angie hates both me and my daughter lets call my daughter ashley. ashley and angie are always ignporing eachother when ashley goes over there ashley has also made it very clear to everyone that she DOESN'T WANT ME AND HER DAD BACK TOGETHER angie and joe (dad) have been together for 7 years now. ashley knew o matter how much she tried that angie would never accept her so she decided to never come back i have to go have my lawyer draw up papers thursday and i want to make sure it's what she really wants (she can see her dad whenever she wants vut then the child support will start back up again
this has nothing to do with what i feel i just want to make sure it's what ashley wants even though she says it is
P.S. this isn't a trust thing

2007-08-20 04:36:01 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Family

2 answers

your daughter "hates" her stepmother for typical reasons -- she feels angie has taken her father from her, and there is some competition going on there... apparently angie doesn't have much in the way of maturity, understanding or compassion. and your daughter is still going through quite a lot of emotional pain over your divorce, even though she doesn't want you and your ex back together.

divorce is distressing for everyone, especially the kids.


i don't know how the courts would look upon this arrangement, but i'd like to say a 13 year old has the option to make her own decisions about visiting her father or not in most states today.

maybe you could discuss this further with your attorney? your daughter can probably tell her father she's no longer interested in visiting.

if her father and angie are too stupid to realize that your daughter is emotionally distressed, and haven't offered to compromise or help her with the issues she has with the step mother, then why would they object to your daughter discontinuing visits?

2007-08-20 04:50:52 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0 1

Cutting ties with a parent, legally, at 13? Not a good idea. This other woman, forget her! This is about the relationship between a father and daughter. No way! Too young to take this drastic a step.
Nobody is forcing her to go over there! She does not HAVE to visit him at his home! They can make lunch dates, together, alone. They can do plenty of things as father and daughter, without including the other woman.
This area should be explored before any legal papers are drawn that could damage this relationship forever.
Good luck!

2007-08-20 11:46:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous 2 · 0 0

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