Overly flirtatious guy?

Question

I just started talking to this guy, so far he seems nice, and funny. We have some things in common and he seems to have his s**t together. The question is his very flirtatious nature. He's always mentioning how pretty he thinks I am or when I asked him what he liked in a woman, he responded with "look in the mirror". While I find this very flattering, I would like to know what he is REALLY looking for, without him constantly getting back to my looks. Is this guy just looking for a piece of a** or what? I am really looking for guys' opinions here, but women if you've had a similar situation please feel free to answer! Thanks in advance!

Answer 1

I know you wanted a male point of view, but I am going to answer anyways. I think you should not be so skeptical- maybe you are the picture of his perfect woman.

I think you should date this guy- if he seems too pushy, tell him to back off a little bit. Maybe you guys will realize you can be friends but not date.... or maybe you will really hit it off.

Good Luck! And have fun dating!

Answer 2

That's some guy's style. At some point, a guy has to recoginize that you are sexy, or he slips into the friend zone. Most guys will wait until you are comfortable talking with them before they start complimenting your looks (the best way I think--that way you know there is something else I like about you), but others want you to know that they want to have sex with you right up front, and are confident that they are charming enough that you won't run away.

"What are you looking for" is a tricky question--usually you don't seek out someone who meets your criteria, you meet someone and try to figure out if you can get along and be a positive force in each other's lives. So he could have just been ducking a tough-to-answer-truly question with a compliment. I know qualities I don't want in a woman, but as for what I want--I usually just know if she seems great when I meet her, there are so many intangibles, and attraction just happens. As long as I'm not seeing red flags, I see where it leads.

Answer 3

I agree with the date him and see comment.

To add to that. Those responses are very insecure, but typical of most guys. What do you say? You seen all those TV shows and movies where the question, "Do I look fat is in this?" never turns out positive? He's of course is trying to dodge the question because he doesn't want to F' things up with you yet.

The reason things got this way is because somehow things got friendly before it got passionate. You guys are way too friendly and not flirty enough for people who are interested in each other. Why did you ask that question to him in the first place? If I see the girl of my dreams, I'm not going to ask her what do you look for in a man, then watch her go off about a guy who may or may not match my description. I'm just going to be the best man I can be around her and try to show her a good time and hope she'll keep me around. I'm not there to be her matchmaker, I'm there to onlly offer myself and no one else.

See what you are doing here? You're making things too friendly too quick, and not driving desire. What if he described some girl who wasn't you? Would you hook him up with one of your friends? I highly doubt it. Stop being so damn friendly /w him.

Answer 4

regardless if it's overly flirtatious, there is every possibility he wants some sort of relationship. If he even knows what he wants at all.

I'm going to go out on a limb here: It sounds like you say what he REALLY looking for like he doesn't care or hasn't told you. I think he doesn't really care. You're obviously good enough and he needs somebody. Girls are like 'i want a man like this and this and my life will be like this." Guys or myself, I'm an opportunist, i don't have a ton of self esteem and i'll take what i can get or what comes my way. It's hard enough I'm not going to hold out until I find a nurse or someone who matches some particular fantasy. for better or for worse, I deal with the world around me and what i can do. but i don't know you or him so.

Answer 5

I have this same problem right now. Theirs this guy who I talked to one day and the next day he was calling me Miss beautiful Valerie. and saying corny things like your eyes are soul grabbing. And he says he wants to be with me. and he has his s*** together as you said. But he isn't usually what i look for and I think it's a bit odd. I mean I know he means it for the best but I was wondering myself what his porogatives are. I mean he seems too nice to be true he's always saying I can talk to him about ANYTHING and he's there for me. But I don't want him to be. I don't know him that well, he lives three hours away, and he's older than me. But since he lives farther away I guess I don't have to worry about him just wanting a peice of a**. On your situation maybe you should just be open with him. Ask him if theirs anything about you he likes besides your looks. see how he responds. it's the best way to do it.

Answer 6

You could always give him a chance. And not to say your not pretty but a lot of times when a guy is overly nice and always says what you want to hear, that normally means he's full of **** and wants a peice of A. Ive delt with this kind before. But try it out and figure out what his motives are before you give in-

Answer 7

My husband is always telling me how pretty and great I am---he is just trying to be romantic and reassure me--and I love it. I want him to think I am the prettiest woman in the world.

I think your new bf really likes you and wants to compliment you--he might feel that girls tend to be insecure. You might let him know that he is really nice, but to like you for the person you are. He sounds like a nice guy--see where this goes.

Answer 8

hes a guy, and that does not necessarly mean that he just wants a piece of a**.. that might just be his method of gettin u to notice/like him... he could be into u, in something more then a sexual way.. best thing to do is next time he makes a comment like that just straight up ask him.. "what is it that makes u attracted to me, is it just my look???" and if he can say something else past ur beauty .. then theres u answer there... "

Answer 9

Does he talk about other things besides your looks? Some guys are merely looking for a good charm on their arm, and for this type its all about how they look walking next to you.
Beware of this type of man, and steer clear of the insecure type. Good luck,

Answer 10

speaking from experience, guys who are overly flirtatious tend to not mean what they say half of the time, be careful, I dont think you should get serious with this guys, he might be a flirt with other chicks too.