i have recently found out that i may be suffering from mild depression. I have almost every symptom. I am not sure how to tell my boyfriend. He is also my best friend but i am afriad of his reaction. He is the kind of guy that is really really smart and knows everything about everything. He will be too stubborn to even consider what i have to say. i also dont want him to think he is the cause. because depression doesnt even have to have a cause. i just dont want him to blame himself and break up with me becuase the second that word (depression) comes out of my mouth he'll think its his fault and there will be no changing his mind.we are already having problems and i know no matter what he'll be here for me but im still not sure. how do i reassure him that it isnt his fault in a smart, convincing manner? He is sooo smart and he can see through everytihng. it can be annoying sometimes. I know he'll ask me ALOT of questions first which i will answer.ADVICE PLEASE!!!!!!!!!! thanks.
2007-08-20 01:39:38 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I don't get it. If he's so smart, why would he think *he* is the cause of your depression? Why would anyone think that they could be the cause of somebody elses' depression?
Perhaps you could start out by talking about depression with him just as a topic rather than coming straight out and personalising it and say that you are suffering from it. See how much he knows about depression. Then explain to him the various causes of depression. He may be curious as to why you know so much depression and you can lead into how you think you might be suffering from depression.
Btw, did you get a diagnosis from a doctor?
If the depression is mild, which most people at some times will suffer due to stress, hormonal changes, difficult personal or work situation etc. heck, it might even be seasonal affective disorder as result of changes in season. It can pass.
Maybe you can take up meditation that helps centre your mind and your thoughts towards the positive.
But if you are concerned about it, maybe you should visit a doctor and get a proper diagnosis.
2007-08-20 01:52:37 · answer #1 · answered by Brain Tickler 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if your boyfriend is smart and "knows everything about everything," he'll know that depression is typically caused by a chemical imbalance. The only thing that he could possibly be blamed for is exacerbating it.
So you have to tell him that you have something to tell him and you need his support in getting through this or coping with this. From what I've read, guys like to feel they're helping solve a problem. His mission, should he choose to accept, is to support you in your therapy.
2007-08-20 15:14:20 · answer #2 · answered by VeggieTart -- Let's Go Caps! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to him that it can take many factors for depression to form. It may not be such a bad thing if you two break up if he has an issue listing to your concerns. Your partner is suppose to be someone who cares about you. Talk to him. If there is a problem, find someone else. Maybe he is the cause of your depression symptoms.
2007-08-20 01:52:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back yourself up with facts about depression. You can get books at the library, pamphlets at the pharmacy. If you're getting professional help, tell him. If not, look into it ASAP.
Telling him the truth and informing yourself, and him, as much as possible, is the key.
From there, you let go and let things work out the way they're supposed to.
2007-08-20 03:11:06 · answer #4 · answered by Bob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him for HIS help with your problems make sure he knows that ur not trying to get away from him and that you want him to be involved.
2007-08-20 01:48:53 · answer #5 · answered by StewedScrewedandTa2d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋