Dropped a set of his beeds into our pond outside that have goldfish in it. He is NOT allowed to do any of these things and knows that I am really upset. He is really acting out and I have no idea what to do. Sometimes his manners are so great and he is such an angel then he wants attention so bad it is like he will do anything to get it. What can I do? I made a behavior chart and started it today. But has anyone else's child done the outside thing? I am so grossed out. To top it off... my dog was eating the poo... ARGHHHHHHH! SICK!
2007-08-20 01:36:38 · 13 answers · asked by jodilynn0303 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
My pond is like a little man made thing in my back garden like a foot away from the door. I could see his head from the kitchen window just not what he had in his arms. So he was not left alone. He often plays out there when I am cleaning dishes as I can see him then.
2007-08-20 01:50:26 · update #1
that is a typical kiddie acting up for attention.. do you praise him when he's good and really tell him off when he's naughty, normally taking a favourite toy or blanket etc away if he his misbehaved is gooe, and maybe have a naughty step to put him on when he plays up, did he get a smacked botty for toileting outside?perhaps thats what he needs.xx
2007-08-21 15:43:34 · answer #1 · answered by looby looxxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, why is it that some people seem to think that smacking a child's a*s*s is the answer for everything they do wrong. First I suggest take him outdoors and ask him to explain why he did this in the pond instead of in the potty where he should have. Boys more then girls in my opinion act out more at this age. My son will pee outside if he knows he can not make it to the potty in time. But he is funny about doing no. 2 any where but at home indoors on the potty. Just sit him down and explain to him that this was not a good thing to do or maybe like I said, he just had to go and felt he could not make it in time.
2007-08-20 01:53:56 · answer #2 · answered by Muzikgoddess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just potty trained my son and daughter. I like an approach where I don't have to pressure or push my child. What worked for me was The Potty Stool http://www.thepottystool.com I started by just setting it at the toilet. My kids immediately climbed up on the stool and discovered that they could safely use the toilet. This got them very interested in using the toilet and they were potty trained very quickly.
I like that I don't have to double the steps of potty training by training them first in a potty and then training them to stop using a potty. And not dumping and cleaning a potty each time is great. The best thing is that kids use it for years. I hope this helps you.
2007-08-20 11:04:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
A friend of my mom's had this problem with her daughter. She was playing outside and didn't want to come in to use the bathroom. Her mom happened to be looking out her kitchen window and saw her going potty behind a dirt pile. She didn't say anything at first, but a couple of hours later when her daughter was inside she said "I am going to go outside. I have to go to the bathroom." Her daughter said "YOU WOULDN'T!". My mom's friend replied "Why not, I saw you do it today." She never peed outside again because she was so suprised that her mom would actually do that.
2007-08-20 01:48:05 · answer #4 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, please do not follow the advice left by chubbiguy40!! While you are clearly concerned by this behaviour, punishing him and teaching him that it is wrong to explore his curiosity about his body will just give him severe psychological issues for life - my friend's parents used to "punish" him for even looking at girls in the street and at the age of 25 he still cant bring himself to show any sign of affection to the opposite sex, even his sister, without hurting himself afterwards as "punishment". What you need to do is sit him down the next time he touches and ask him why he does that. Listen to his answer (it will probably be "I dont know" or "I saw --- doing it") in which case you calmly explain that it is not something to do in front of other people. If he must touch his privates, he can do so in his own bedroom with the door shut and nobody else in there. But it upsets mummy when he does it in front of her or anyone else. Then let him make up a secret codeword that only you and him know (and maybe dad too, if he spends much time with him without you around) so that if he starts doing it at an inappropriate time you can say this word and he knows to stop. It is important that you say the word AS SOON AS he starts doing it and that he learns he must respond instantly. This makes it easier in that he will know what you mean and you dont have to have an embarrassing scene. For the record, it is normal. My cousin when he was three went through a stage of asking everyone to play with his. It was very embarrassing, but as soon as we stopped reacting openly and gave him this codeword, he soon got the idea. Please also remember that at three or four (or even five) years old children are not fully aware of the difference between acceptable and unacceptable behaviour - they are learning, and as a parent it is your responsibility not only to ensure they follow social etiquette but understand WHY they are allowed to behave one way and not another.
2016-05-17 22:31:58 · answer #5 · answered by lona 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not uncommon for boys around that age to potty outside. What I do if one of my kids broke a rule was to give them a time out.
Just make him come inside and go to his room with NO TV or videogames whenever you see him doing it. And don't get overemotional. Kids that age love to push their parents buttons if they overreact to bad behavior.
He'll soon decide that having to stay in his room with not much to do isn't worth going potty outside.
2007-08-20 03:07:17 · answer #6 · answered by Clare 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beat His *** And Show Him You Mean Buissness And If He Still Does It Go In His Room Take His TV And Toys And Games And Dont Let Him Watch Cartoons And Tell Him He Has A Bed Time And DONT CRACK UNDER PRESSURE
2007-08-20 01:42:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
I agree with Gemma but,also, think you could count yourself lucky that he only pooped in your goldfish pond rather than drowned in it.
2007-08-20 01:51:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont pay him no attention when he's doing things that upset you. tell him he was naughty and put him in his room. he will soon get bored. i used to tell my kids off when they were naughty but it didnt work because good or bad i was still paying them attention so i learned to walk over, pick them up and put them to bed for a while and pay no attention to them whatsoever
2007-08-20 01:42:30 · answer #9 · answered by gemma r 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Give him the attention he's craving.
2007-08-20 01:40:48 · answer #10 · answered by rustybones 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋