knowing that your girlfriend's ex boyfriend is flirting with your girlfriend, and trying to steal her from you... how would u react in this situation? would u be calm or ask him to leave immediately coz he's not part of the group...
2007-08-20 01:00:42 · 17 answers · asked by extian_03 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you ask him to leave, you end up looking like a jealous unconfident loser. If you hit him, you end up looking like a violent thug with anger issues. So you should ask yourself - what do you actually want to happen, which of those things are likely, and how can you act to make the most preferable of those things happen? Probably, you'd quite like it if she showed you affection and made it obvious she was with you to him. So I'd say, go over, introduce yourself, shake his hand, be nice. Your maturity will impress her. Some other time, discuss with her why they broke up. If she dumped his *** for valid reasons, you will have less reason to feel threatened. Of course, it could equally turn out that he dumped her and she really wants to get back together with him. Who knows? Anyway, if she's the kind of girl who'd do that to you, then she's not the kind of girl you want, so don't worry about it, it'll all sort itself out.
2007-08-20 02:33:18 · answer #1 · answered by Chris B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exs are the worst nightmares that can dog a relationship!remember they(your girlfriend and the guy) have history, not only of bad things but good memories too..
i think your galfriend should take care of the situation. if the x is uninvited, he has no business there and your gal should firmly ask him to leave for both of your sakes. you and your girlfriend will not be comfortable with his presence there, thats for a fact.
Avoid ugly scenarios like confronting the guy;let the girl do it. If she does it without u asking her (to tell the ex to leave), then be sure that she cares about you, and you have no reason to worry!!
2007-08-20 08:18:00 · answer #2 · answered by eversmiling1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not your place to decide that. If he truly was uninvited, then you need to leave it up to her or whomever makes the decisions about who should and should not be there. If you make that decision, and you do something, then you could potentially come off as a hot head with a bad temper. She may not like that. However, if you act secure in yourself and you keep a cool head, and if she truly is with you, then you shall prevail.
2007-08-20 08:10:08 · answer #3 · answered by Slim J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In your question, the keyword in uninvited.
Ask your girlfriend what she wants - kick him out, ignore him..
If he is uninvited she`d be well within her rights to send him away (or request you do that on her behalf).
There is a reason he`s an EX.. ask her, talk about this.
Make sure you are on one line with this.
Cheers.
2007-08-20 08:06:27 · answer #4 · answered by U_S_S_Enterprise 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to try to be calm. If you blow up at him it will only probably piss off your girlfriend.
First question, how did he find out about the party?
You should have your girlfriend ask him to leave. If you ask him to leave he would probably just laugh at you or say its not your party. And would stay anyways. If she asked him to leave he would have to respect her wishes because it is her party.
2007-08-20 08:11:58 · answer #5 · answered by GoldenButterflyKisses 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If suppose I'm you, I'll bring my girlfriend to the kitchen and tell what i think and point out some opinion. and if your girlfriend truly loves you she'll avoid him and listen to your advise, right!? But remember don't suddenly go and punch that guy(your girlfriend is not going to like that).
Hope i had help you. and good luck!!
2007-08-20 08:11:40 · answer #6 · answered by CuTe BaBy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is up to you girlfriend or whoever did the inviting/hosting to ask the person to leave.
If this is to be a long-term relationship, his little show will mean nothing. Don't sweat it.
2007-08-20 08:07:19 · answer #7 · answered by Wolfithius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats the reaction of your gf? was she also irritated as you are? how is she reacting with his flirtations? try to open your eyes... well, its good to be calm and asked him to leave but if he is still resistant, you have all the right to kick his ***.
2007-08-20 08:43:26 · answer #8 · answered by brazenlove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless she tells him no, then I have to trust her to withstand the ex. Its her decision to kick him out of the party. If he trys something & then he's not listening to her, then I jump on him.
2007-08-20 08:23:11 · answer #9 · answered by Razor Snake 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just to be a man because if she still love him or communicate and you don’t know then it would worse if you try and do a stupid thing.
I would just welcome him from a clean heart remember they may be in touch behind your knowledge. Try and understand your girl first so that you won’t doubt her
2007-08-20 08:10:09 · answer #10 · answered by tin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋