I'm currently 26. I recently got to know a 30 year old lady. We did not know each other's age in the beginning. My 1st impression of her was that she has a mature look. Not old. We started going out more and chat more.
She guessed my age correctly. I actually thought we are of the same age. When she finally revealed her age to me. She was very dissapointed. As for me, I was totally cool about it. Not shocked or surprise.
She finally start to be frank to me. She admit that she likes me but our age difference made it impossible between us. She would prefer that I go for younger ladies as I'm still young and eligible. I don't feel the age difference when I'm with her. I like her too. She's simple and easy going. Not as fussy as younger gals would. She is a very practical lady and I like the way she is. She told me about her feelings towards me but was afraid that she will be a burden to me.
Is it really impossible between older woman and younger man?
2007-08-19 23:49:11 · 15 answers · asked by Incey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it was just her insecurities talkin'. She knew your age before you knew hers and then acted disappointed when SHE revealed her age to YOU....not the other way around. She wasn't shocked and surprised that you were 26 and you weren't shocked and surprised to find that she was 30. I think she's just looking out for your own best interests, if not that she's feeling insecure about the fact that she's older than you are. Continue seeing her and just let her know that you enjoy spending time with her. Hopefully she'll be better able to handle your age difference--though I don't think it's a huge difference.
2007-08-20 00:06:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dated a couple of older guys at least 10 years older than I. Some were really great, others were horrible about the same as guys I've dated around my age. I don' think the relationship's last because of the difference in thinking, I think older guys like the fact they can still attract older women, but older women are more what they want because they can relate better. Older women who date younger men, those relationships do well because women adjust better to different situations. (as long as they don't try to be a "mom") Just my opinion here, but this was a very good question. Take care.
2016-05-17 22:15:33 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to like a guy who was 6 years younger than me and I didn't have any problem with it. I'm 28 and he was 22. The important thing that I loved about this person was the fact that we had so much in common. The age didn't bother me because it was the things that I had in common with this guy that were more important. I think some older women don't realize that theirs nothing wrong with dating a younger man. Women live longer than men. Why do women half to date older men? So many girls that I talk to only rather date older men? Why? By dating a younger man they will get to enjoy them longer if they ever decided to marry that person. Some people too are hung up on age!! So many old men in their 80's date young women. Yuck!! So it's time that women date younger men. I don't approve of old ladies dating a young man. Yuck!! Look at the men celebrities in Hollywood who are dating the older women. So far those relationships seem to be working for them.
2007-08-27 17:24:41 · answer #3 · answered by P 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
very good answers given already. But as an older woman who prefers younger men, I can tell you one thing that some of my friends fear (not me!) Women seem to age more quickly. Men tend to look better as they age. So in 10 years or 20 years, your age difference may show a lot more. Perhaps that bothers her?
Another thing some of my gal pals mentioned, was that some guys (hopefully not YOU), like to trade the older one in for a younger model after several years. Seems as if it is easier for the young women to be competitive.
Personally, I don't think your ages are far apart enough to matter AT ALL...I hope she comes around and that you are happy together. Take good care!
2007-08-27 19:28:11 · answer #4 · answered by Diana D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
shes 30, you're 26? Most wouldn't refer to that as an "older" Lady. This is a dumb *** question but my true advice on the matter is such. Women around 30 don't consider themselves old, and at that age they are looking for older men. It won't be until she's approaching 40 that she will realize older men are now looking for younger women and she will be on the outside looking in. Come back at her when she's 42 and unless you got your **** in order she'll probably consider you too OLD for her then.
As far as desirable women are concerned. you need to date someone younger or at least 12 years older at your current age.
2007-08-20 00:06:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, and I am 35 and have 2 love intrests. One loves me too but we have never even kissed, hes 25, the other is 27 and he was so absolutely into me that night and vice versa that I had a romp with him even though we both had to rush off at 5AM, him to Bethesda, and me to the gym,kids....arg. Soo I didnt get a quick hello from 27 year old, blew up and accused him of not caring! or acknowledging me! then the 25 year old txts me that he loves me but no definition of where he wants to go from here, or end from here or ??? Fact is I want both for different reasons and I am flattered that they both were giving me so much happiness and pleasure one emotional, one physical at the time. So believe me it can happen and be a whole lot of fun together because my mother married 15 years younger and they have remained married 20+ years now...so just have your passion and convince this woman that you absolutely love her. That is who is going to win. Have a good one.-Rachel.
2007-08-27 20:56:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is just second-hand information from women I've dated and talked to about this subject, but as a rule women that have gotten beyond their twenties think that younger men are too unstable for their tastes. There's too much adrenaline and testosterone coursing through their veins and it causes women who know better too much hassle and controversy. True, not all guys in their 20's are bouncing off of walls day and night, but enough of them have proven this theory true to make many grown women skittish...
2007-08-20 00:25:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My fiance is 26, I'm 31, she does not know what she is missing. Girls get paranoid about their age, but really it's only 4 years in your case, tell her my granny was married to my grandad for over 60 years and she was 11 years older than him.
2007-08-19 23:55:41 · answer #8 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on individual. Some ladies can accept younger guys whereas some are unable. You need to convince her that you are the right guy for her.
2007-08-20 03:37:29 · answer #9 · answered by Forgettable 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh my god no way my grandma married someone 7 years younger.
but it depends on the person.
me personally would never date a younger man cause i think about them as my brother. EW
2007-08-27 18:48:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋