I have been in a relationship with the same guy for almost 5 years now.We started going out when i just joined campus,but things have been bad for the last two years.
He has cheated on me, and he lies so much..we broken up and made up enough times..
My greatest problem is, i always forgive him and give him another chance, and he seems to change but for just a little while. I feel and i know i have to move on without him, but i have not been able to do exactly that.
What should i do in order to get him completely out of my life?
There are other guys interested in me but i cant move on till i'm sure he's completely out of my life.
Please give your honest opinion and advice..thanks
2007-08-19 23:17:58 · 9 answers · asked by eversmiling1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are going to have to learn to be OK without him. He keeps coming back to you after he has been treating you like garbage because you trained him to know that you will give in again...and again...and again.
When you have finally got to the point that you will no longer take the garbage, you will firmly say no to him and everything in your voice, your look and your body language will communicate that to him. More importantly is, YOU will know it.
How is that done? I don't know, but I do know that when a girl REALLY means it, the guy will go away.
It just happened to me. I was the guy who just tonight got the final NO. She was very sure that she was through with me and that she was loving herself enough to not go through my instability any more. She was also loving me enough to allow me to take care of my own demons and not be dependent upon her any longer.
I thank her for that. I love her and I miss her terribly, but I am also glad that she is healing and doing so well that she will not be anyones healer, they (me) will have to take care of their demons and not be weak any more.
It ain't easy, but it will all be better when you decide to be good to you and not allow him to drag you down any more. The more you love yourself and take care of yourself, the stronger you will get and one day, a really amazing guy will be there and see your strength and beauty and he will help uplift you and edify you without draining you.
God Bless you Honey and best of luck in your growth and healing!
2007-08-19 23:41:57 · answer #1 · answered by Alvin York 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The relationship is already over. He has moved on. Just let him know if he asks I guess.
There is no such thing, technically, of cheating on a girlfriend though, because the right to intercourse is in nothing less than marriage.
Oh, by the way, some girls never stop the relationship and end out having bad, even abusive, relationships. So congrats to you for knowing to move on.
2007-08-20 06:31:36 · answer #2 · answered by Robert B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand up for yourself.. stop giving him chances, he is not good enough for u.
Brake it of .. and then try to find a way to get your mind of him.. find someone else, go out , find some projects to get involved in .. anything that makes u think about something else, don`t return his phones, avoid meeting and talking to him.. in a few words don`t give yourself the chance to forgive him because if u do this for long enough u will find that u are better off without him.
If u have decided u don`t want anything to do with him respect your decision, and saty away from him .. don`t try to make the brake up easy because it wil only get u 2 back togather... brake up in such a way that it would make him so upset that he wouldn`t want to talk to u. if u have the courage. if not do it easy and avoid him as much as possible until u have the courage to see him and not forgive him
2007-08-20 06:35:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the game he's playing..does something bad, begs for forgiveness...then does it all over again...dump him, and start dating with someone else. If he sees you've moved over, he'll stop. even if you don't date, go out with another guy...the basic is that he sees you in company of a guy :)
2007-08-20 06:28:55 · answer #4 · answered by yoyo_kiss_2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you have to do is forget about him and think of all the good things that are yet to come, dont feel guilty or anything about this guy i mean you seemed to be too nice for him forgiving him so many times.....dont worry about him, just carry on with your life and pretend as if he were not there...idk
2007-08-20 06:27:53 · answer #5 · answered by Buttercup 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you've joined a religious order that prevents you from having sex or any physical contact with the opposite sex, but that you want to remain 'friends' with him until you take your vows. You'll need to do a little research in order to field any questions that might arise, but that ought to do it...
2007-08-20 06:31:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let go of him and this time no turning back..you surely gave him another chance, girl, change will happen if that person is willingly to do so..
with your charms and wit, u can find someone better than him..go out there, girl :)
2007-08-20 06:45:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
giv him a taste of his own medicine
n scare the sh** out him...
if u know who it iz u shood scare her too
trust me same thang iz happnen wit my uncle rite now n my mom and aunts are ready to kick sum @$$!!!lol
2007-08-20 06:30:03 · answer #8 · answered by v p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him and this time don't go back to him... decide you want the very best for yourself and you will be able to do this...
2007-08-20 06:26:41 · answer #9 · answered by I Heart 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋