a girl plays hard to get? i kinda have a crush on this guy at work and he knows i like him and he thinks i'm cute and well we're kinda dating, i tend to act like a ***** sometimes w/out thinking twice and today i kinda rejected him when he was gonna hug me because i didn't want the managers to see...sooo i tried calling him and he didn't answer, is it me or is he seriously mad? and do you think a simple i'm sorry will fix things? i sent him messages apologizing...are guys usually moved by apologies???? idk i'm really tripping i cant even sleep
2007-08-19 23:06:25 · 18 answers · asked by Buttercup 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
turns out he forgot his phone at work thats why he didn't take my calls lol, boy did i blow things out of proportion
2007-08-20 20:55:06 · update #1
No, we don't mind, but if you play hard to get, play hard to get, don't worry about it so much. I think you're reacting a little to much, maybe he just didn't answer his phone. It didn't seem like something he would be mad about.
2007-08-19 23:13:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep blowing him off and you'll lose him for good. What you did was offend him in public. If your "kind of" dating and the office knows (and it's not a problem in the office), you snubbed him and he's pi$Sed. A simple sorry will not suffice. Have him meet you for dinner, YOU PICK UP THE TAB and set some hard and fast relationship guidelines. If you you have a list of social guidelines he needs to follow to keep you happy, you may push him away forever.
Come to a happy compromise (you have to give in sometimes) or start looking for a new partner. No man likes to be snubbed, especially in front of people he knows.
2007-08-20 02:25:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are too serious for playing. If the playing is dishonest, then yes, we might get mad.
It makes sense not to want a hug in front of managers. And you attempted contacting him too often.
About apologies, no, we're not usually moved by apologies unless we deserve them and we indicate that we need them.
You are way too freaking out. He shouldn't attempt to hug you in front of managers! I don't want a manager to know a thing!
2007-08-19 23:22:25 · answer #3 · answered by Robert B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're already kinda dating, it's not really playing hard to get, you're just randomly rejecting him. Nobody, including guys, likes rejection. An apology with an explaination will probably do the trick.
2007-08-19 23:14:38 · answer #4 · answered by wxyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you played to hard to get too much. A guy will only take so many rejections before he gives up and goes out with someone else. You have been giving all the wrong signals and have chased him away sorry!!!!!!!
2007-08-19 23:16:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If a chick plays hard to get with me I just move along to the next one. Life's too short to put up with stupid BS like that. What are you trying to accomplish by acting this way? Do you think that you're all high and mighty or something? If you know he likes you, and you like him, then why are you pushing him away?
2007-08-19 23:16:41 · answer #6 · answered by The Ball Coach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we dont like it.... we just dont mind it sometimes its just sometimes you want to be with one person and you accept the fact that to get her... i gotta go through this process.. but when she is in that playing hug to get thing and u trying so hard when sometimes it feels like it aint working.. and she denies or rejects you... it can get you mad as hell... its no fun liking someone so much and her being the first person to ignore you in front of people... what you can do is just explain to him that its only because the manager was there... let him understand.. but just know though that its ok to play hard to get... but u do it too much you will end up hurting yourself as that person will lose hope as you start ignoring him and not realize he is hurting by your actions and getting tired... you like each other enough be together.. stop playing games or someone might get hurt... good luck!
2007-08-19 23:21:04 · answer #7 · answered by fLaKe! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the type of men. I think that u should talk to him before or after work and maybe kiss. Because a kiss will make him think of ur apology
2007-08-19 23:12:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys tend to get annoyed when girls don't wanna publicize the relationship they have. Don't ask me, but that's just what i think... I"m sure he's not really mad at you. Cuz it's nothing to be really mad about xD. And if the guy really loves you, he'll eventually forgive you for everything, but if he doesn't he's most likely to pretend stranger ... gl :S
2007-08-19 23:13:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
playing hard to get is one thing, rejection of affection as simple as a hug is quite another thing... yes he is mad at you, would you really like him to be that way with you ??? no I dont think you would, you would have hurt feelings too...
2007-08-19 23:11:20 · answer #10 · answered by I Heart 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋