If you should send a gift, do you do it when you send the RSVP that you can't attend. Or do you send it closer to the date of the wedding. A cousin is getting married and it's too far and too costly for me to attend with transportion and hotel fees included.
2007-08-19 22:35:58 · 15 answers · asked by Niko- 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
RVSP now - to say you cant attend.
You have a year from the date of the wedding to send a gift and still be proper. If you arent going to attend, you should still send a gift - as a wedding gift isnt in exchange for 'the price of admission' to the party.
I would send your gift after the couple gets back from the honeymoon and enclose a note to express your regret that you couldnt attend.
2007-08-20 05:31:34 · answer #1 · answered by Valerie H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not feel obligated to send a wedding gift if you are not attending the wedding. Just send a nice "best wishes" card.
If you wish to send a gift then why don't you send your cousin a brief note of "regrets" and a gift certificate in the same envelope. Just include the RSVP card with the note.
Or you can return the RSVP card now marked "can not attend" and then send a wedding gift two - four weeks before the wedding date.
Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant
2007-08-20 00:57:11 · answer #2 · answered by Avis B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You´re so nice to ask.
No one (not even a guest, or someone that is not a guest) is obligated to give a gift when someone marries, it is simply a nice gesture. There were people that attended our wedding, and did not give us a gift-heck, they spent money just to attend, which is what was important to me!
If you are going to get a gift, then yes, send it right away, along with a note on the RSVP saying how sorry you are that you cannot attend. This way, before the wedding, the bride and groom will be classy, and send you a thank you note.
2007-08-20 00:56:50 · answer #3 · answered by Learning is fun! 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to give anyone a gift for their wedding whether you can attend or not, only if you WANT to.
I would send back the rsvp with regrets, then send out the card/gift in the mail.
2007-08-20 03:04:06 · answer #4 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree 1,000% with the other answerers. Gift giving is not an obligation, but rather a gesture of good wishes.
For me personally - if I can't attend a wedding (or shower, or birthday party), I still ALWAYS send a gift. Always. Again, I know it's not required, but I do anyway.
As for when to send it, you can send it at any time. You may want to wait until closer to the wedding, but that's entirely up to you!
2007-08-20 02:41:59 · answer #5 · answered by sylvia 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wedding gifts are completely optional. If you aren't attending the wedding of a close family member, like your cousin, then I would definitely suggest sending a gift. You can do it before or after the wedding, it is up to you.
2007-08-20 01:50:44 · answer #6 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you aren't obligated to buy a gift but if you want to buy one send it with a guest that is attending the wedding.
2007-08-20 00:53:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd send a gift since it was family, but I'd do it close to the wedding date.
2007-08-19 23:54:10 · answer #8 · answered by melouofs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
send it when it's closer to the date or else he or she will think that you are trying to pay back by sending a gift for not going to the wedding.
2007-08-19 22:46:28 · answer #9 · answered by cakilguldal 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is always better to send it closer to the wedding day.
2007-08-19 22:45:06 · answer #10 · answered by Star 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋