I was in New York city years ago with my parents and we ate at the Carnegie Deli. On the way out the waiter ran out of the doors and thanked us for coming. It took my dad a second or two to realize that he had forgotten to leave a tip for the waiter. How scuzzy was that for the waiter to come out after us? To me it seems kind of nervy.
2007-08-19 22:29:55 · 15 answers · asked by Peter N 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I usually tip for good service, if its bad service I don't tip at all. That's so retarded, that the waiter did that. Was he not thinking? maybe he just wanted a tip so badly. I can see if they stayed behind the cash registar and they say thank you for coming.
2007-08-19 22:39:33 · answer #1 · answered by butterfliez2002 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
A waiter that embarasses a customer, in such a way doesn't deserve a tip. In the UK, tipping isn't compulsary and you only tip if you believe the waiter / waitress provided a good service. That way, good waiting staff can make a reasonable to good income, bad ones make nothing and leave the job. Waiting staff should only be tipped on -
a) politeness
b) efficiency
c) cleanliness (clean clothes)
Rude, lazy and unclean waiting staff should never be tipped as that is just an encouragement for them to continue with their bad habits. Maybe, other nations should follow suit. Excellent service attracts excellent tips, good service attracts good tips and poor service goes untipped. It's far better than having a "compulsary", fixed percentage (10%, 15% etc) of the total bill. Another problem with tipping a fixed amount is that it's highly likely that the restaurant has already added a "service charge" to your bill and then you pay again with a tip. That's a common scam!
2007-08-20 05:55:53 · answer #2 · answered by kendavi 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That happened to a group of us. My best friend took 3 of us to dinner before my return to another state. It was a nice place, service was OK. Our biggest complaint was that they wouldn't let us take stuff home, like the unused part of a huge antipasto platter - apparently taking the rest home was against their policy; go figure. Anyway, my girlfriend paid the bill with her charge card. As we were getting into the car, the hostess came running out asking if everything was OK. We said yes. It was as we were driving away that we realized no tip had been left on the table. My girlfriend thought the usual 18% had been automatically added to the bill!
2007-08-20 08:59:32 · answer #3 · answered by Lady G 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As a regular person who eats at resturants, yes, it was scuzzy for the waiter to come begging for a tip. But as a sympathetic resturantuer, a waiter rely's on his tips to help with his paycheck. It is like a bonus you would expect at work. Why we even feel obligated to give tips is beyond me. I do it all the time even though it is deserved less than half of the time.
2007-08-20 05:37:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Yeah...for all he knew, you didn't tip because of crappy service. I always tip good service. But i hate people acting like regardless of how I've been treated and served that I better tip. Pizza delivery folks are real bad with it sometimes. They'll pretend they can't make change or they'll stand there and stare at you. If it takes you almost 2 hours and 2 trips to my place to et my order right, don't expect a hefty tip bub.
2007-08-20 05:35:31 · answer #5 · answered by BOB C 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that paying waiters or waitresses 2 or 3 dollars an hour is right. EVERYONE should at least get paid minimum wage so that if someone decides not to tip at least they can pay some of their bills.
2007-08-20 21:43:52 · answer #6 · answered by Ari's Mom 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If the waiter ran out and "thanked you" for coming, how do you know he did it for a tip? Maybe he was just being friendly?
A tip is optional. It's not mandatory, unless you go to one of those restaurants that automatically add it to the bill.
2007-08-20 05:35:59 · answer #7 · answered by Michael B - Prop. 8 Repealed! 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It may have not been the best of manners for him to come after you, however, it was 'scuzzy' that your dad forgot to leave a tip, too. I doubt that if/when dad remembered that he didn't tip him, he'd go back and give him the tip! If he didn't say 'hey where's my tip?' but thanked you for coming, or asked if you were satisfied he may have wondered what he did wrong to make you not want to tip him.
2007-08-20 08:54:12 · answer #8 · answered by J M 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Unfortunately, the tips are a major part of their income. Although minimum wage was increased, it does not rise the same way for employees who get tipped. It may seem nervy if you're not from the city, but that person probably depended on that tip. He went and thanked you for coming, not to yell at you as a cheapskate. Your father got the message and it was an oversight.
If you are ever in a position to depend on tips, you will certainly understand.
2007-08-20 05:36:40 · answer #9 · answered by Tellin' U Da Truth! 7 · 1⤊ 4⤋
if that ever happens to me the Carnegie Deli would be missing a waiter... lol
2007-08-20 07:13:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋