My bf proposed to me 6 months ago.Our parents had many disagreements.One day before our engagement/4 days before he travelled abroad for his MSc,my mum&his parents had a HUGE fight.In my country parents are deeply involved in this issue.
Now he travelled,we dont know how to fix things,Im stressed out,I feel horrible.We email each other but hes so depressed&even his friends said so to me which is v obvious.He sent me saying that he tore a tender in his right hand&wont be able to use it for a week.Already he fell while playing football&is supposed to reast for 2 months.All this is driving me more crazy.
I havent replied ever since he sent regarding his hand because i got more depressed&because i want someone to look after me.Im fed up with checking on him all the time.I know hes depressed but i also am&ialso need the attention.He hasnt been sending that often lately until he tore the tender&now he wants me to overflow him with love&care!What does he expect me to do?What should I do?
2007-08-19 22:16:03 · 5 answers · asked by she 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well guys i ve been depressed from the beginning this whole fight started from my familyside.im so ashamed of what was said.i feel horrible.hes sending me less&less.he didnt break up but he keeps saying that hes not sure this could be fixed.we have each others emails&passwords.he told his cousin in an email that my mum humiliated hiswhole family(which is true).hes not sure what will happen because families always come first.hes been abroad for 5 weeks now.i begged him to call me,he did once exactly 30 days after he travelled.y not before?theres skype&alot other stuff to be used.he calls his friends but not me.he keeps saying hes great but im nt convinced&his close friends say he still loves me.friends&others who arent as close say that hes fine&having fun.he says hes v happy but im nt convinced.i email,shower him with love,i tell him that im upset,i ask him what he thinks but he sends me every once in a while.he calms me when i get mad@him but gave me no answer yet.
We're both 23.
2007-08-19 22:16:31 · update #1
im not comparing the attention. im stating that i need it as well. im v stressed out.
2007-08-19 22:16:51 · update #2
just stay away from him and drop the whole relationship. it would probably be better for you.
2007-08-19 22:23:46 · answer #1 · answered by oraple 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe what you should do is write shorter messages? Maybe the length gives him so much to read, that's why he's writing less and less? And when you stopped writing, he asked for attention because finally he didn't have to read so much and wants a little to read.
But if he's going to say that maybe this can't be fixed, it sounds like he has already backed out of the relationship. And besides, it's not your fault what your relatives did. If he's going hold that against you, he's going to do other filth too. I would say that you deserve better. Just one word of caution though, when you back away, he might all of a sudden say that this CAN be fixed and that he wants to be with you and doesn't care what your relatives did. All of a sudden, you might see a different tune coming from him. So maybe only back away once you already have the evidence that you need that it definitely won't work.
2007-08-20 05:30:14 · answer #2 · answered by Robert B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should be by your side more. You know that too. I really wish that things did not turn out the way they did and I'm glad you are now better then you were back then, but I am surprised to read this. I always thought he was keen on returning "el maya lemagraha". Seems to me he isn't anymore. Don't anymore. Leave him be. Solve your issues with your own relatives back home and give yourself more love and attention and worry less about him.
Maybe he is fine. Maybe he isn't. We won't know that now but instead we can focus on making you feel stronger and better. Your friends love you and support you. And I personally think that he doesn't deserve you if he isn't going to be your real man when times are darker. What your relatives did is NOT your fault. He knows that as much as you do.
Always wishing you the best.
2007-08-20 07:45:52 · answer #3 · answered by Sherihan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What country are you from and what country is he from? You're 23, that's too young to get married. You should wait until you are at least 25 and have graduated from college and have a stable career, and he should do the same.
2007-08-20 05:32:10 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell urself first if u still love him and from there u'll know what to do
2007-08-20 05:25:58 · answer #5 · answered by skeptic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋