I dated a guy who had been my best friend for years. We never had intercourse. We broke up under, what I had percieved and at the time we agreed upon was good terms. It has been years and I am married.
my husband and i made a list of names for baby, and discussed the source, meaning, and even sound of the names with eachother and in the end agreed to use his name. my husband knew the man, and we were both respectful of him.
I emailed the ex to tell him briefly about the honor.
He responded by freaking out and blasting me on his blog with a lot of shocking stuff that never happened. I got appalled and angry...but we voted to keep the name after I simmered down a bit.
Does anyone else see a problem with this? Why would an ex of years ago act this way? This is my second marriage, and it was all past...why freak out? Did I breach ettiquette by selecting an ex's name even with my husbands approval?
2007-08-19 20:07:53 · 10 answers · asked by cthulhu_kisses 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Alright, that's great. My HUSBAND ALSO KNOWS THIS MAN. he ALSO AGREED TO THE NAME. HE is the one to step up and say "let's keep it anyway." so don't cuss me out.
2007-08-19 20:16:57 · update #1
I repeat: my husband still wants to use the name. Not me. I have already said this, and I'm still getting critisized for it.
2007-08-19 21:19:42 · update #2
If it is only this dopey ex opposing the name then keep it! I think he was being immature- I think he took your email the wrong way but what were you to do right. We had a name picked out but ended up that my sister had an abusive boyfriend by that name and so we choose a new one for her sake. But since you dont have a problem like that I would keep it. You choose that name for a reason dont let stupid people make you change it.
2007-08-20 04:57:20 · answer #1 · answered by Emily R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that is quite unfortunate. Maybe in hindsight you shouldnt have told this guy, did you have good contact with him in recent years? thats really neither here nor there. It is a little weird though in my opinion.
The issue at hand is that keeping with this name may bring back some negative feelings in the future. Especially if him putting you "on blast" like that made you feel akward or embarrassed. You should explain this to your husband, and really think this out. After all your baby will have this name forever and is saying that name, writing that name, explaining how you got the name going to be akward for you now that the ex has shown his a** a bit??
I would suggest maybe trying to come up with a different name just to squash the issue. BUT If this is a name you guys are dead set on, maybe you could find a way to associate it with something/someone else, so that it has a positive meaning?
Good luck, hope this helps!
2007-08-19 21:38:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was you and your husbands choice but a lot of people will find it a strange one.
I have some very good male pals that I have known my whole life but to name a baby after someone and actually acknowledging them as the namesake is a big honour and I don't think an ex is that high on the list of baby names, no matter how good the breakup was.
As for your ex's response, well that shows that he doesn't want to have that hanging over him either.
I would change the name, if you like the name so much put it as a middle name and don't go about telling people he is named after an ex.
2007-08-19 20:42:45 · answer #3 · answered by wickedly_funny66 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah don't feel bad my dad named me after an ex girlfriend and when my mom was really mad at me boy she used to yell my name louder than my brothers and sister and I caused her the most trouble, don't worry about it, it was my dads turn to name the baby so that is the name I got, (this is a true story and I don't recommend naming your child after an ex cause they are an ex for a reason ya know)
let your husband name the next one after one of his ex girlfriends and you will be even.
on the other hand it sounds like you have decided what you are going to to anyway so you have to stand by your decision and make the best of it.
Good Luck..
2007-08-19 20:44:31 · answer #4 · answered by justwondering 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex may perceive that by doing this you have your hooks on him after all of this time. If you have chosen this name because you really like it I cant think of a reason for telling your ex if he is no longer in your life.
2007-08-20 00:45:22 · answer #5 · answered by scatty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i like the names: Addison Evelyn Hazel Lilliean Opal Sutton( Suten) wintry climate Amber Autumn wish faith Hollia (holly Uh) Kayseri (Kay sir Ee) Kilayna (kie lay Nuh) For boys: Bentley Thayer (thay er) Caiden Aiden Glenn Taite (Tate) Tyson Brayden Cooper Braxton Blake (for toddler)
2016-10-16 05:01:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didnt but the ex might feel defensive that you still feel things for him that arent there. Men get funny when yes yrs from the relationship you mention things like that so dont take it personal and if you want to pursue it then best to do it in person and explain to him that "you are my best friend and I want to use your name for my child in honor of our friendship"
2007-08-19 20:15:55 · answer #7 · answered by Christine H 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If it were me, I'd pick another name..........
None of the answers here are criticizing you - you've asked for people's opinions, and that's what you've got! Sounds to me like you don't like the replies and now you're getting all defensive about it??
Your baby, your life.............do what you want!!!!
2007-08-19 20:16:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Pick a new name.
2007-08-20 00:37:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what the hell is wrong with you. out of all the names in the world, dont name your baby after that asshole. come on lady.
2007-08-19 20:14:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋