It has almost been 4 years since I join the army.... I was either in iraq or being oversea somewhere. I have been home once for 14 days... And I hated the feeling of being home. Those 14 day felt like hell. I hated the people around me, and felt angry at myself and I don't know why. I feel depress just thinking of going home. I'd be receving a honorable discharge this winter and be heading home right after. I want to start over... But I feel very uneasy inside. What should I do?
2007-08-19 19:41:19 · 6 answers · asked by JD 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hye JD,
I think it is maybe the denial…because you used to be all stressed up and really see the ‘real’ world out there, and then here you are coming back to your peaceful neighborhoods..
Or maybe suddenly you feel that you are not belong…and you feel lost.. the mind has to given a chance to adapt to changes…
It takes time to fit in again… but you can.. firstly, find a good friend that you can trust… start with a hobby..maybe.. then you will get into the groove again…
However, I know deep within your soul the history is there… just accept the facts that you are given the honor to be better in knowledge and better in temperament than most of us because you have gone thru’ a lot of sufferings and challenges...that makes you a good person..
2007-08-19 22:18:34 · answer #1 · answered by Lana_Luna_Soraya 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you left a child and are coming back a man. your personality, lifestyle and your opinions have changed. your family hasn't changed, they are the same people they were before you left, but you have changed - and that's okay. get your honorable discharge, try going back home and see how it feels. if you still feel that it's time for a change in where you live, then you can start looking for a new place to live and work. but, first give yourself a break, relax yourself before you start making decisions. you have been through a lot for 4 years, now it's time to think about what you want and what will make you happy. don't feel uneasy about things, you have already been through so much, the rest of your life is up to you to decide - that should make you happy not fearful. thanks for protecting our country, we salute you. good luck in your new role in life. :)
2007-08-20 01:15:49 · answer #2 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are expressing a lot of "hate" - at being home, people, yourself. Now you're getting out of the service after being in for a period of time, and at least in Iraq? Sounds like you have some of the psychological results from the war overseas. Stress, depression, anxiety and anger are symptoms that can be dealt with through counseling. Please consider getting some counseling.
2007-08-20 03:05:24 · answer #3 · answered by Weezilmom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is very hard to come back from the military to your home town...you have grown yet those around you seem the same...It is only intensified coming back from war. The military offers programs to help deal with this and so do most VA organizations. Look into joining a VFW or something too...the men and women there may be very valuable assisting you in coming home. You don't need to move back to your home town...stay in the military area and live and work there. Look into all the options you have.
2007-08-20 00:04:39 · answer #4 · answered by chris d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a place of your own in a city that you like. You are grown now. It is time for you to decide what you want to do with your life.
2007-08-19 19:47:05 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
?plz answer my question
2007-08-19 20:22:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋