do children of divorce have it "harder" than children in a nuclear family?

Question

ok say the parents got divorced when the kids were babies and the kids don't know any better.And say both parents love them and work together to raise them just not in the same home.Do they(kids) still feel like they are "missing" something from not having their parents together?

Answer 1

i know i didn't. i always felt like i actually had more because they get two rooms, two christmases, two birthdays, etc. my parents got divorced when i was younger and i thought i had it better than kids who had both parents in the same house!

Answer 2

There is no blanket answer for this question.

Some parents remarry. Some do not.
Some parents move away. Some do not.
Some parents are drunks, druggies, derelicts, etc. Whiles others are not.

But regardless, they do feel, most of them, that they are missing something. And they are, a normal family life.

Look at this; Mom is a stripper who lives in a hotel. Dad on the other hand is an accountant. Mom lives in a government housing situation with three other kids that she had with three other men. Dad is remarried, lives in a tract home and has four other kids with his new wife.

Now wouldn't you feel "something is missing" in this situation?

Think about.

Answer 3

A lot of times I wish my parents would actually fall through and get a divorce.
They say that as if its like a regular topic.
Imagine two hot heads in the same home.
Yeah, pretty bad.
They say the only way they're together is because of us.
But its hurting us more knowing that our parents don't love each other and fight constantly.
A lot of my friends come crying on my shoulder because their parents got in a fight, left, or were talking about a divorce.
But when that happens to me, I don't cry anymore, and I know that they're going to come back home in a few hours.
Its seriously happened that many times were I just don't care if they get a divorce, fight, or leave.
I swear, my life would have been a lot easier if my parents were divorced.

Answer 4

I don't think so, at least not how you described it. If their family environment in it's entirety is warm and nurturing, then I don't see why there should be any problem. Especially if they have grown up living this way....because it is normal to them. As long as the parents explain their situation and what happened when they were babies, then it should be ok. It's when parents fight over children, or parents break up during critical stages of childhood, that children end up having a hard time.

Answer 5

Well, I am from a family of 2 divorced parents...wondering how...well, my birth and adopted parents are both divorced. And I think i am just fine. I mean, all my parents pay attention to me and my children. So its like nothing really ever changed. Just a place of home. Like my fathers dont live with my moms anymore. But i see them when I want to so Its nothing different to me...Some children take it pretty hard but If they see both parents as much as they would like or parents pay attention to them, then they will know that life is not over...They know that their parents still love them and are there for them...

Answer 6

No! My parents got divorced 3 years ago(I was 16) and it sucked..but as bad as it sucked, it was still better than them fighting all the time..
If my parents had gotten a divorce when I was a baby and were working together, like in your scenario, I would've considered my life better than those with a "nuclear" family..
Chances are, parents get re-married..then you have 2 families..that both love you..can't get much better than that :)

Answer 7

my parents divorced when i was 11 months old. when i was younger, i used to feel a little bit like something was wrong, even though i lived with my dad, who remarried and i visited my mom every weekend, who had also remarried. in time, i realized it all worked out for the best. my parents both cared about me, and wanted what was best for me. if they had stayed together, they wouldnt have been happy, and neither would our family. their divorce actually helped, in my opinion, to make everything better for everyone. sometimes it was kinda hard to deal with my step mom, but that was just her. my 2 stepdads have been the best i could ask for. so anyways, in my opinion, children of divorce do not have it harder. it could be worse, like 2 parents staying together and doing nothing but fight all the time, and upset the children.

Answer 8

they may feel like it at one point but it doesn't sound like they are. i believe in marriage and trying to stick it out, don't get me wrong...

but i think my parents are the kind that should have divorced. i was very emotionally and psychologically damaged by their shaky marriage...

really the situation that involves two loving parents always showing love is a lot better (together or not) than the one where there is animosity. even young kids catch on, it is NOT something you can hide.

Answer 9

Yes it is harder for them. Having two homes with one parent in each is a stress in itself. And if you think they don't notice that other kids have two parents who live together with them, well you're wrong. One of the most important things they miss if they live in two single-parent homes is the support that two parents give each other in the day-to-day tasks of parenting.

Answer 10

I don't think that kids from divorced parents miss anything, they just don't have the same childhood experience than kids with non-divorced parents.

Answer 11

Love is the key whether a child is in a nuclear home, single-family home, grandparents raising their grand children. Love is the key to giving a child the confidence, individualist, compassion, and strong will to be the best they can be.