how do i comfort my wife , she lost her daddy and he was the world to her. how can i be there for her?

Answer 1

By being present, holding her and saying nothing.

Your skill at comforting and at thoughtfulness will be appreciated by her for the rest of her life. It's a very deep kind of grief counseling.

The small but obviously genuine gestures of protection and love you show are the best therapy for her.

Answer 2

Just be there for her. Let her know that when she is ready you will be there. That you will always be there to lean on and help her out when things get tough. You need to give her time to except things. Let her know that her father will always be there watching and in her heart always. Relaxing and taking a holiday or just even lying there together in bed or somewhere alone together relaxing and letting her speak or letting her cry so hard and telling her that maybe afterwards you both could make dinner together. Even if she keeps a diary of her thoughts, photos and other special events etc, that your wife can always have the diary (her father) near her heart and when things get tough she can write how she is feeling or read back on the times she spent with her father.

If things really get tough maybe she should see a councellor.

Answer 3

You are a sweet person and you can help her by being there for her, anytime she wants to talk of memories about him, hold her close. Take the cue from her if she has times she can't bear to talk about him because it hurts so much but let her know you are there for her.

If she can handle it, don't leave him out of conversations when it is appropriate to mention something about him -he is still very much alive in her mind and not talking about him to her makes her feel he is being forgotten or doesn't count anymore. Never cut her off about him even if it seems she is taking a long time to grieve. There is no time limit-some can get on with life sooner than others but mostly it takes at least 1-2 years if not longer. God bless you both.

Answer 4

To most females their Daddy is the most important person in their lives. She was his princess possible and now her prince charming is gone. Daddy's can love in a way no one else can for little girls. so maybe think of her as a little girl whose daddy just died because we really do revert back to children under stress. Most grown men will call out for mommy in severe pain, and women want their daddy. Men often try to solve problems when women just want compassion, so if you just listen and offer compassion, but you don't really need to say much. Hold her and just be there, but don't try to verbally, or logically solve it, love her, hold her, PAMPER HER. Only time will heal this HUGE loss. Time really is a good healer, but such patience is required.

Answer 5

Hug her and kiss her a lot, understand if she broods for the next few months. Its not easy. Be really attentive and sweet, like do some stuff for her that she would normally do to you, fix her a meal or even just a glass of juice or milk at bedtime will do. and also, plan a weekend together and just hug her all the time - no words of consolation can actually ease the pain of a loved one gone. You hugging her silently is a sign of emotional support. If that happens to me, I'd appreciate my man so much.

Answer 6

Tell her how much you love her. Listen to her if she wants to talk. Don't always try to solve her problems she may just want to vent you decide which. Help her out with the housework, kids, funeral arrangements whatever. Let her get somedown time to take some time for herself a mini vacation, a spa vacation or something when she is ready. Most of all let her mourn in her own way everyone does it differntly. Best of luck. Sorry for the loss.

Answer 7

When a love one dies supportive and loving words is comforting and letting know that you'll there for her in every way. Allow her to mourn and share the memories with her of the good times and special moments she shared with her daddy. Assure her that her dad will always be apart of her life. It will take time and remember we all have our own ways of mourning. God Bless

Answer 8

Unfortunately, there is really nothing you can do to comfort her. My mother past away a year ago and I was very close to her as well. There was nothing anyone could say or do that made me feel better. The only thing I can think of is to help her with her choirs around the house and give her time to grief.

Answer 9

I am sorry for your families loss. From my experience of losing my mother, my husband sat and let me cry and scream and talk and cry some more and just sat and listened and that was the best thing he could have done for me. Six years after her death especially around the anniversary of her death I get very emotional and he does the same things for me still. It will be very hard for her now and for years to come and the only thing you can do it to let her cry and get all of her many emotions that are to come out and be supportive in any way that she may ask of you. Again I am sorry for you and your wife's loss. Stay strong.

Answer 10

That is really kind of you. One of the best things you can do for her is to listen. Not to offer answers, or try to fix it, but just to be open to her and listening to her talk. Also, to let her go through being angry and despondant for a while. Cook for her, too, if you know how, and do small, nice things for her if you can. It is really the mark of a man that you want to help her. You are a good person.