I have never become soo close to anyone... as I did with my ex... I can’t stop thinking about him... I miss him 24/7 but the right thing is to leave him alone... but I find it impossible to give myself the permission to fall out of love with him... the reality is there is no hope for us to get back together...
how do I reason with my heart?
2007-08-19 17:42:43 · 25 answers · asked by . 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he has hurt me over over and over
2007-08-19 17:48:29 · update #1
If only my ex was thinking the same thing...
BUT anyway. You gotta let him go...ESPECIALLY if there is no hope of getting back together. Your the only one holding yourself back from happiness without him. Tell your heart to shut up and let reality take over for a while (metaphorically, of course...or literally, if it helps). You'll find yourself to be much better off.
2007-08-19 18:09:48 · answer #1 · answered by It's a me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think we can fall out of the person we truly are in love with. And there is no reasoning with your heart. You just have to be patient. Some day you will wake up and realize that he isn't the right one for you. It takes time, though. Live your life like there is no tomorrow. Laugh when you feel like crying. Remember the good things, but don't dwell on what is keeping you apart. Find your happiness....and good luck to you. : )
2007-08-20 00:52:20 · answer #2 · answered by lotus princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
reason by telling yourself the old attage..."he's not the one for you." it sounds corny and cliche, but think about it: How many people end up with the first person they ever meet? now i don't know if he's your first love or not...but the truth of the matter is, when you're with someone, if you are a person who is true to her heart, you'll love with all your might...and you'll want it to be forever. but when time passes, and you find someone new, you won't regret the past, but will be glad that you were given the opportunity to find someone who can and wants to be with you equally...your "true love."
let yourself miss him...he was a part of your life for a significant amount of time, it's only human to feel this way. don't think that you have to stop feeling for him just because you are no longer together, but at the same time, put things into perspective. something caused you to feel as if the future is hopeless when it comes to him, and let those reasons motivate you to move on. but don't deny your pain for now. just know that you will heal. how do i know? because the majority of our society wasn't built on unfailed attempts at love...there wouldn't be so many heartbreaking break up songs to listen to if it were all so easy...but you will get through this.
2007-08-20 00:53:35 · answer #3 · answered by StarGazer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn I know exactly what you are feeling...sigh.. ur question just remined me >.<.... anywayz how do you know if leaving him alone is the right thing to do? You didn't give enough descriptions of how you guys fell out... and there always is hope. The moment you loose hope is the moment you really loose it... until then, you have it.
Well, if you really want to get over him...you first tell your heart that you will eventually find someone new... tell yourself that he is happy as it is and you should help him to be happy. If you really loved him, you would wanna see him happy right? After that, try hanging out with friends. I KNOW THAT'S WHAT EVERYOEN SAYS, but trust me, it helps. good luck...really :)
2007-08-20 00:52:16 · answer #4 · answered by dl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my situation, in the rejection of my grown daughter which nearly killed me emotionally, I had to yell at myself "right brain" and then I'd stop using my left brain to go over and over how awful it was, I had to train my brain to do and think other things. Often that would mean action, like doing something I loved liked flower gardening or sewing to distract my brain from the bad habit of fixating on my pain. I had to do it to survive emotionally and I live alone and am 56, so I had to do something or die of a broken heart. It has worked,and now my brain goes into auto "right brain" as I inside shout it to myself and my body knows to move and change subjects. One type of mind control that helped was to start telling favorite stories outloud of my childhood or good times. When my kids were little and sick I used to tell them to think about christmas and Santa Claus and we would talk about all that fun and those good memories would help them calm down, relax and not focus on how bad they were feeling. Good luck it works but it takes practice.
2007-08-20 00:52:52 · answer #5 · answered by I Love Jesus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you break up with him just recently? If so, it would be hard to let go of someone you have had a good relationship with because the good times that you've had keeps on coming back on your mind. One effective method of moving on is to pre-occupy your mind with random things and indulge yourself in activities you enjoy. Go find a sport, watch a movie with a friend, join a dance club, build a social network of friends, whatever pleases you.
2007-08-20 00:49:26 · answer #6 · answered by esnape2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he already hurt u over and over, then what u need to do is...
Forget him....
If one guy really love u with true heart, then he will never hurt u and make u sad...
If he willing to do somethings to hurt u then why he cannot do somethings to love u?
So, the answer is...Forget this guy and love another guy...
Always remember at this world still got so many good guys awaiting for ur love and no need to feel sad anymore since he is not a good guy and no reason for u to sad just for him...
Don't destroy one forest because of one bad tree...
Believe me, i'm sure, 100% sure u will founded ur true love at the future and ur future husband will love u more than this bastard guy...
Wish u founded ur true love soon and have a wonderful life...
Good Luck...
Cheers...
No need to sad, just smile because Foong smile for u...
2007-08-20 02:53:32 · answer #7 · answered by WindWalker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What!?! No! Do not listen to the chocolate idiot. This happened to me with my ex. She left me and i could not forget about her for about 7 months. I thought I would never forget about her and move on. But, it takes time. Take a little bit of time away from guys and just party or hang out with people and have fun. Keep your mind focused on work/school, friends, or family. Or also fun. Have fun with other people that you do not want a relationship with and forget about your ex do not talk to him anymore forget about him and don't listen to those songs that remind you of him either. When I could not forget about my ex people told me it would pass by and I never believed them...i just never felt it ever would but trust me...it will take time. I still even think of her and I am now while I am typing this but at least I can move on and date other people and at least talk about it. Be strong and I wish the best of luck to you. Also if you are christian you can pray to God to help you through it. Trust me. He will help you but you need to do your part too! Suprisingly it took me about 7 minutes to tpe this out for you and I am long after the chocolate guy. PEACE!
2007-08-20 00:52:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do something else with your time. You have GOT to stop thinking about this, and the best way is to find something else to think about. Join a group that mentors teenagers, or that builds houses for poor people, or something like that, to get out of your head. When you think of him, switch thoughts to thinking of something else. Set some goals for yourself. Also, get outdoors and get some exercise, which will help cheer you up.
2007-08-20 00:47:42 · answer #9 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you sound mature and reasonable when you admit that the right thing is to leave him alone. I know it's hard to believe, but time will take care of your heartache and the right guy will come along and make you feel normal again. Good luck to you.
2007-08-20 00:49:33 · answer #10 · answered by jenna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋