my mom moved to a very small town with me and my older brother. every 2 weeks i would get 250 dollars. she met this guy named Tim. and it all went down hill from there.
This Tim guy would call her Lesbian, *****, slut, whore, you name it he has said it. he is just a 100% asshole. so my mom started going to bars and drinking about once every 2 weeks, then it became once every week, and now its 2 to 3 times a week. when she comes home she yells and screams. my mom stopped working and so did Tim and got on disability. half assing the bills, not getting enough food for the month, plus the drinking taking like 200 to 300 dollars a month. losing the cable, gas shut off and it being cold in -20 degree weather. i gave my mom 75 dollars every 15th. and one day we were low on food very low! and i give my mom the 75 dollars and she goes out and blows it on drinking. i go and i yell at my mom because she spent our food money of beer. and now shes furious at me.do i have a right to be mad at her?
2007-08-19 17:38:25 · 9 answers · asked by Tristen P 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes you have a right to be mad at her, but remember she is your mum and she probably needs some help.
Do your best to help her and maybe even call a cousneller, she may have a alcoholic addiction, but when she is intoxicated, she probably doesn't realise how uch she is hurting you..
Try and get her to see how much it is hurting her and call a counseller
2007-08-19 17:46:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
What a dreadful situation you're in. Of course you're mad at her - you're behaving like an adult, and she, who ought to be setting an example, is behaving like the worst and most selfish child.
She's linked up with a guy who's worthless, but she drinks so much she doesn't do anything to get rid of him. She doesn't work any longer, and waits for the regular hand-out she gets from her own daughter (who does work!) so she can go and waste your hard-earned money on drink.
She has no thought or sense of responsibility for her own two children, and you are living in a cold house because there's no money for the gas bills. Why don't you put that $75 towards getting the gas back on, instead of throwing it away on your irresponsible mother? It's yours, you earned it, you decide how best to spend it.
What's your older brother doing in all this? Does he work? Could the two of you just leave and find rooms or some sort of accommodation somewhere else? I don't think you're going to make much progress with you mother whatever you say to her when she's in her present state, and as long as she keeps swilling the beer.
You have every right to be furious with her - but that isn't going to change anything. You need to DO something to change the situation for yourself and your brother, if he will help you. I don't know how old you are, but could you get any assistance from welfare to enable you to live apart from your mother and get some sort of ordered and more settled life for yourself?
I do hope you find a way to leave and ditch all these problems which are not your fault or your responsibility.
wimsey
2007-08-20 03:04:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be furious at her. You should not have to give money to your mom when she's capable of working for her own money! That Tim guy is like emotionally abusing her and it could get worse. Help your mom to stop drinking, cut off that Tim asshole from your lives forever, and help her to get a job.
2007-08-20 00:50:39 · answer #3 · answered by h1u4sxda 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hard to advise you since you didn't include your age. I would suggest if your brother is old enough(and you are old enough) that you move out and get your own place. Your mom cannot be helped right now, you need to concentrate on yourself. If you aren't old enough to move, then talk to the police, family services, a teacher, a counselor, a minister. Ask them to help you out of this horrible situation.
2007-08-20 01:34:35 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hon, you didnt mention your age, but if you can, you might want to discuss this with a relative or other adult who has a good head on their shoulders and who you respect and trust... even if you have to call someone on the phone (since you've said you moved).
your mother has issues, which probably led her to drinking in the first place. now she has what you describe as a horrible boyfriend, which complicates matters. your mother isn't being fair to you OR herself.
perhaps someone you know can give you advice. try talking to more than one person. i hope there is an alternative to your living arrangements -- a relative or father?
take care and let us know how you are doing, please?
hugs
2007-08-20 01:04:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, i think you have the right too be mad at her she'll realize later on about her condition if not talk too her alot let her know how her life is going too be like.Tell her how you feel and the consequence of her future.
2007-08-20 00:49:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you have every right to be mad at her.
2007-08-20 01:28:38 · answer #7 · answered by ME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id say so, yes. Dont give her any more money.
2007-08-20 00:56:44 · answer #8 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You,can get mad as you want.That does not give you the authority to shout at your mother.That was,unacceptable behavior.
2007-08-20 00:59:36 · answer #9 · answered by yp_will_chicago_369 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋