A little about me: I'm a guy, well educated, with a dream job lined up after graduating from a top-tier business school, and was even recently voted by all the girls in my class as one of the "hottest" guys in school. But I'm finding it real hard to meet girls. It just seems like whoever I meet that is interesting is already taken or is not interested in me. And if they're interested in me, I'm not interested in them. I want a girl who is genuine, good looking, laid-back, chill and just a lot of fun to be around. But I just can't seem to meet anyone. I go to house parties and seldom see anyone attractive. I keep seeing so many guys who have gorgeous girlfriends, fiancees, wives... and can't help but wonder how they got these girls. I do get a little self conscious around very pretty girls (because I have a slight stutter in my speech). I find it hard to be interesting and "on" ALL the time during the date. I'm starting to feel inadequate and worried for the future. Any tips?
2007-08-19 17:26:26 · 15 answers · asked by riddler 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have lots of tips for you:
1) Stop thinking of yourself as God's gift to women. "Dream job" and "top-tier" and "hottest" make you sound arrogant and obnoxious.
2) Really think about why you don't like girls who like you. Do you think they have bad taste?
3) Stop pursuing only the attractive women. Stop basing your decisions only on looks. Get to know some women first.
4) Join Toastmasters (www.toastmasters.org) to learn how to work around that stutter and get more comfortable with girls.
5) Stop being "on" all the time and be yourself. After all, if you're looking for a 'genuine' girl, you need to be genuine yourself.
6) Get involved in church or a volunteer group where you can know someone over several weeks before you go out with them. It takes the pressure off.
7) Learn to like yourself and to be alone. Worry less about finding someone, you're still young and you have time.
2007-08-19 17:35:10 · answer #1 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are trying too hard.
You want a girl who is chill, so why do you have to be "on" all the time? It isn't a contest, or a game, it is a person. It is a relationship.
You might have to just start up conversations with more girls. Maybe you are being too shallow looking for only "gorgeous" girls who seem stereotypically pretty upon first glance. A lot of girls who are fun and laid back aren't going to be putting all of that effort into getting the look going for a house party. Only vain, shallow girls are always showy looking. They are often the ones most concerned about finding a potentially rich guy from a "top tier" business school. Usually, this type of girl does not make the best life partner, but rather pushes you to earn more money to pay for the day spa bill.
Be real, and let girls be real, too. You won't regret it.
2007-08-20 00:39:51 · answer #2 · answered by greengo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you ? Can't be that old since the girls in your class just voted you you the hottest in school...You seemed like a good "catch", don't worry you will meet someone when you least expect it! And don't let your little speech problem stop you! Nobody probably never noticed it but you and if it ever bother someone else, it's there problem, not yours...That's what sets you aside from the rest, i kind of think it is cute...
Don't look for anyone, let them look for you!
GOOD LOOKS + GOOD JOB = SUCCESS IN ALL!
Good luck!
2007-08-20 00:43:20 · answer #3 · answered by sillygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey really just keep doing what your doing.. For now, while you are looking for someone, just make good talk with any girl no matter what she looks like or whatever becuase maybe she'll end up having friends that could be more attractive in your eyes.. Dont be afraid to go right up to a girl and start a conversation becuaes if you are what you say you are im sure you will be fine:) and i had a past boyfriend with the slightest stutter and it was very cute :)
2007-08-20 00:37:42 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women practice dismissal, fear, and preoccupation. Men need an opening line, small talk, and to close with getting a telephone number or a date. The number one dating advice for women is "play hard to get".
Obese blobs, (that are 50% of the population), have immature hysteria that causes delirium in good looking women. The environments in this society are .1% good looking women.
No one has ever seen the start of a relationship. There are 21 organizations spying on the public with plain clothes agents.
2007-08-21 05:35:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are young, and just be yourself. You are going to meet someone eventually that will love everything about you even if you aren't "on" all the time. Don't go looking for love or you will end up with the wrong person. Things will just happen if you don't concentrate on them. You are not inadequate, you just haven't met the right girl yet. Be patient things will go well for you.
2007-08-20 00:36:13 · answer #6 · answered by Roxanne G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what I do: Wait until these young good looking girls(that wouldn't spit on you if you were on fire) turn 30. They start to lose their looks, and out of desperation, lower their standards and are more willing to hook up with losers like you and I.
Like the old saying goes, "Women are a lot like dog ****: The older they get, the easier they are to pick up".
2007-08-20 00:36:07 · answer #7 · answered by Phaze 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people have felt this way one or many times in their life. This moment will pass you'll definitely feel this a lot in your life but you'll meet someone eventually. Just worry about you and your job right now and someone will come.
2007-08-20 00:33:58 · answer #8 · answered by deppfreak6963 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask some of your friends with the good looking gf's and wives to hook you up.
You could try a dating site or two. E-harmony is pretty good at pairing people up by personality. or look me up LOL.
Best wishes!
2007-08-20 00:36:26 · answer #9 · answered by rmdybles30 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe if you looked past the face and really got to know the person as a whole and not for what she looks like then you might get somewhere.looks are going to fade away over the years but her personality wont.
2007-08-20 00:35:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋