Girls how long did you know someone before he popped the question?

Question

How long where you with someone before he said that he loves you and wants to marry you?

I have been dating a guy for a few weeks and he already said that he wants to marry me. He can see me as his wife in the future, and wants to get engaged in a couple of months, and to start planning a wedding.

He asked me what i think about all this, and wants an answer.
At first i was really freaking out. I do enjoy spending time with him. I am not as scared and freaked out as i was before, as i never had a boyfriend before.

Has anything like this happened to anyone before?

Thanks everyone, i just have to stop freaking out and talk to the guy =)

Answer 1

I met my ex-husband when I was 12 (he was 17). We started dating the July after I turned 16 and we were engaged by October. Married the next August, divorced one month shy of two years later.

A former boyfriend asked me to marry him after only 5 weeks of knowing each other and dating. (I said no.)

My current boyfriend and I have been together 3 years, we have talked about marriage, but are not yet engaged. We plan on being married before March, though. ;-)

If this is your first boyfriend I would be careful, especially if you are young.

Answer 2

Most guys would actually think you (or I) are a wife material even after a few days of meeting (if that is not a sign of desperation, I dont know what is), but the question lies with YOU. IS your boyfriend a HUSBAND / FATHER material?

You should set these things in your head before saying "I Do". Doesn't matter how long or short the time is, the most important think to ask yourselves are these questions:

1) Do you share the same faith?
2) Do you both have stable jobs?
3) Will both your families meld harmoniously? Remember, you need to go to some reunions Christmas / Hannukah, graduations, pregnancies etc of both sides of the family.
4) Do you share the same ambition / dreams for you and your future family?
5) Are you BOTH emotionally stable?

These are the top 5 i can think of, if youve BOTH answered the same to the questions above, then you can get married.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Regardless of anyone else's experience, he's moving waaay too fast. And never having had a boyfriend, it will likely take you longer to know whether he's the right guy for you, having had no boyfriends to compare him to.

There's an old expression, "marry in haste, repent at leisure." I highly recommend you wait.

Now in my case, prior to our first date, I had met my boyfriend once before had corresponded with him for a while by email and phone. We were smitten by each other and even talked about marriage and a future together ON THE FIRST DATE! However, I told him I believe a couple should be together a year before getting engaged. (And for younger couples even longer.) He couldn't wait that long and proposed on our 9 month anniversary. I accepted, but we're not getting officially engaged until we've been together between 12 to 18 months.

Answer 4

I have a wonderful relationship with my fiance and after the first 2 weeks, we discussed how much we cared about each other and maybe spending our lives together. Everyone told me that it was too soon to have such strong feelings, but I am a living example of true love from the start. He told me he loved me after 6 weeks and he proposed after 2 years. I would suggest to wait a little longer than a few weeks to get married. I am not saying you cannot be engaged, but a LOT changes in time, and you want to be sure that you can handle any and everything that comes your way. Good luck!!

Answer 5

Yeah, it happened to me! I'm an intelligent, college educated woman who just happened to meet the "man of her dreams" a couple years back. Within a couple weeks we were talking about marriage, and within a month he bought me a very expensive condo. Problem was, that it was down the street from his WIFE! No, not his ex. His actual WIFE.
The bottom line is, learn from my mistake. A few weeks isn't long enough for someone to even prove friendship, let alone a loving committment to another human being. Give it time! If you truly love each other in the forever sense, there is no reason to rush because you'll have the rest of your lives together.

Answer 6

6 years

Answer 7

It took me 8 years to be ready. Make sure this is what you want....Don't rush into anything. Think things through and if you can see yourself with this guy in 20 years. Do you even know him well enough. Everything is roses and rainbows when you first start dating, but after a few years there needs to be some substance. Marriage is hard work and you need the right person to be with you. Good luck :)

Answer 8

My fiance and I dated for two months before he proposed. He started telling me that he wanted to be with me forever and have a family with me about 2 weeks to 1 month into our relationship. Like you said, I was a little freaked out at first, but I love him to death. I can't imagine spending my life with anyone else in the entire world. I guess it's true what the say: when you know, you know.

Answer 9

I met my husband online in September of 05 and we realized that we were neighbors (had lived 2 miles from one another all our lives)... had even gone to the same school. Some how we had never met... maybe because he is 7 years older than me. We decided to finally go on a date October 1st. It was perfect... I felt like I had known him all my life. He told me he loved me on October 10th and proposed on October 24th. We were married January 14, 2006. It has been almost two years (20 months!) and every single day is greater than the first! He is my soul mate... my best friend.

Answer 10

17 days, that was how long (short?!) it was into my relationship with my fiance. We have been together for a year and a half now, not married yet but hoping next year.
I understand how you may be freaking out- just tell him to take a step back! Be strong. However, I am a believer of love at first sight and also when you know you have 'found the one'. I didn't hesitate at all when I was proposed to because I I knew already then, that this was my soul mate and I wanted to be with him for the rest of my life!
All the best!