consider my ex to be acting out of negligence concerning our son in many ways & he refuses to listen to my concerns so I'm at a loss at what I can do to get him to listen before it is too late. Our son is 6 but tonight my ex put him in the front seat of his truck (even though there is a back seat). I asked our son to move to the back my ex told him not to. My son has also came home on many occasions without being in a booster seat (for over a year now) and my son told me the other day my ex let him ride WITHOUT a seatbelt at all a few weeks ago because his back was sunburnt and it hurt. My son's grandmother (my ex's mother) also told me my ex told our son NOT to wear a helmet on his bike (plus it is the law). I really feel like my ex is putting our son's safety in jeopardy for no reason or just to spite me and its stupid. I'm not a person to sue but I certainly will sue the pants off him if our son ends up hurt but then it might be too late.
I need suggestions to get my ex to stop!
2007-08-19 16:57:36 · 7 answers · asked by jenny s 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I know some of the stuff isn't "against the law" but it is certainly not the safest way to go. The other thing he was doing was having my son share a seatbelt with his stepbrother (that is against the law).
I don't want to interfere with their time together but it really worries me that he is so careless about these obvious things- makes me wonder what else he neglets with our son.
2007-08-19 17:14:48 · update #1
Talk to your ex one more time, and talk to your son and explain you depend on him to remember sometimes to help keep himself safe.
After that, butt out of your ex's life and time with his child.
Yes, it is all very convenient, how this comes up as negligence, but my feeling from the way you have written is that it as much a control issue for you, as anything else.
Relax a little, prepare the boy as well as you can, but dont smother him, or try to hold a hammer over your ex.
Peace, and no offense intended.
2007-08-23 15:30:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is all stuff to get proof of and bring up to a lawyer if you and your ex can't work something out. The front seat thing isn't as big of a deal. It isn't illegal, just recommend that they be in the back. I know many people that will do that if it is just them and their child. The booster seat isn't a law here yet past age 4 and 40 lbs. Now the seat belt though is something to be really concerned about as that is a law so he is doing something illegal. If he pulls away without a seatbelt on your son call the cops and give his license plate number. You can do it without giving your name so if they pull him over they can get him for child endangerment. The helmet is also a big deal as this is a safety issue, unfortuantly a lot of men were raised to be "manly men" and that helmets and stuff are for whimps. Someone needs to notice your son (like law enforcment) riding without a helmet and they can again get your ex for child endangerment. As for the sunburn. Make sure to pack sunscreen in his bag and tell his father. If he stills comes home with a burn take him to the Dr or ER to have it noted. This will all work to your advantage if something should come up and you need to block his visits or make them supervised. Good luck. If his grandmother is willing to give you information then maybe she would be willing to repeat the information she sees to your lawyer and in court if needed (hard to say though).
2007-08-19 17:09:56 · answer #2 · answered by momof3boys 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Call your local police station non emergency number. Explain what you have seen and ask what you can do. They may arrest him for child endangerment. Keep a camera with you and take pictures. Make sure your son knows the rules about bike safety and he can refuse to ride his bike unless helmeted.
It may be necessary to take him back to court and try to get his visitation limited or supervised. But do not wait. Your son's safety is in jeopardy.
2007-08-19 17:12:49 · answer #3 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to tell dad that if he wants to continue to see his son, he has to start following the law. tell him you have no problem keeping him from his negligent father and he will be better off without him. Your son obviously knows what is happening and knows it is a bad thing, because he is telling you, so you better tell dad to smarten up before you take his custody away. the courts will not stand for negligence, and you could lose him if you knew about it and did nothing.
2007-08-19 17:24:42 · answer #4 · answered by bubbas_mama1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to the father and express your concerns and if he doesn't stop I would seek legal action for supervised visitation. Regret is the last thing you need.
2007-08-23 16:19:17 · answer #5 · answered by mendnjoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about if you talk to your son's pediatrician and ask him/her to talk to your son's father about safety? Or is there someone your ex trusts who could talk to him, maybe another dad who is a friend of his?
2007-08-19 17:23:16 · answer #6 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
instead of waiting for something to happen and sue, perhaps for the safety of the child, be proactive and get his rights to the child limited.
2007-08-19 17:01:33 · answer #7 · answered by Maren 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋