Mmmmm....Dessert.?

Question

I am getting married this October and my fiance and I have really made and effort to put our personal stamp on the day. We both looooove sweets so for the reception we are having a candy buffet, cookie table, and instead of traditional wedding cake, our favorite bakery is making their famous burnt almond torte into a wedding cake for us. We are so excited! To top it off on a fall evening, we are serving hot caramel apple cider with the cake.

Now I thought this was great, but both my mother and his mother think that people are not going to like this because the cake is smothered in almonds and not everyone likes apple cider. I feel like this is our special day and if they don't like it, we have plenty of other sweets on the candy buffet and cookie table. Do agree and think the majority of people will not enjoy this? I thought it was fantastic...

Of course we will also be serving soft drinks, coffee and alcohol

Answer 1

Sweetie, it's your day, you and your fiance should do what pleases you. Yes, you are having plenty of other items, so if they don't like your choice in cake, too bad. The whole point is it's your wedding cake and you can have it any way you like. Personally, it sounds heavenly!

While I would think most people would like caramel apple cider, you should offer other sort of drinks like coffee, tea, iced tea, and water.

Answer 2

I agree with 'me', to me the torte sounds AWESOME. But consider this...

Perhaps your/his mother is concerned because traditionally, EVERYONE gets a piece of the wedding cake, whereas the cookie/candy buffet is an optional thing. You may want to consider a smaller *coughboringcough* Alternate Cake, for those with nut allergies and whatnot. You know, like a white cake with white frosting or something, that you can have off to the side or even in with the cookies. Nothing fancy or expensive, just an option for those who want to take part in your special day, but don't want any part of almonds for various reasons :) That way, no one will feel left out when it's time to dish out the cake and toast the happy couple!

And as far as the cider is concerned...pssshaw! Of course not everyone will like cider, but really, if other drinks are available throughout the reception, it shouldn't be a big deal.

Well, that's my opinion, hope it helps! And congratulations!

Answer 3

You may find that there are people who don't like it or are allergic to nuts and can't have it, but as you say, you're offering several different dessert items. I wouldn't worry too much if there's one that might not be popular with some guests.

I think most people will at least give it a try and quite a few will probably love it.

If you're looking for something that every single guest will love, you'll have a long search. No matter what you choose there will be someone who doesn't like it or is allergic to an ingrediant. Even a 'safe' flavor like chocolate or vanilla is disliked by some.

As for the apple cider, I know I'd love a cup at the end of the evening with a slice of torte. I think the majority of people like hot apple cider, and those who don't can simply decide not to have some. Chances are any leftover cake or cider will be happily accepted by guests who enjoy them.

I'd have the cake. If some people don't like it, let them eat cookies!

Answer 4

Without a complete run down of everything being offered, I think the problem more is that you aren't going the traditional route with the wedding cake. They may be worried people will think it's strange that you aren't doing the three layered white cake. But, it's more the mom's problem than yours.

It sounds like you are offering many options to your guests. I would also state that, they are correct in that not everyone likes apple cider, but I am going to assume that you are still offering refreshments like soda, coffee, tea, etc. at the same time. If that's the case, then there's no problem.

Congrats on the creativity! Sounds like it will be a fun night!

Answer 5

An alternative is to keep everything you have (the almond torte wedding cake you want) and have some sheet cakes in the back that can be cut and served as traditional wedding cake. No one will ever actually see the sheet cakes until they are cut and on plates. Then it can be the guests choice as to which cake they want. And they can choose between the standard coffee/tea or your apple cider.

Answer 6

You are right it is your day, but if you want others to celebrate and enjoy it with you you need to think of them too. Personally I think it sounds great (I like sweets too) but it is a little over the top. Think of guests that are not sweet eaters or cannot eat sweets. I would go with a nice balance of great fun and some traditional. This way it is still wonderful and unique yet is traditional some too.

You could do a traditional cake and then a small cake like this. Serve cider and offer coffee, tea and water as well then they can choose. I would also offer some things that are not just sugar, so many older people are on low sugar diets.

Answer 7

I think it sounds GREAT! And you're right, if people don't like almonds, they can have some of the other sweets. I don't think what your parents are saying really makes a lot of sense, because anyone could not like the flavor of a wedding cake. This idea is so unique that people will remember and love the wedding cake and sweets table. And that is rare at a wedding.

Answer 8

I agree with you and your fiance. A lot of people actually don't end up eating wedding cake anyways and you'll be left with a lot to take home - so you might as well get something that you're going to love eating for weeks!! If they don't like the cake then there are plenty of other options that should make everyone happy.

Answer 9

I say it doesn't matter what the majority of people will like because you have candy and cookies if they don't like the cake.

This is your wedding have the cake you want, who cares if anyone else doesn't like the cake. You can't plan your wedding around what everyone else likes and you can't please everyone so don't try!

One more thing, since you are having a candy bar, you don't have to do favors. Most weddings that have a candy bar have little goody bags that people can fill up with candy instead of the traditional wedding favors. I think it's a great idea!!!

Good luck!

Answer 10

Yes, you are right. It is your wedding and you can serve whatever you want to. It's not like you want to serve french fries on a formal wedding or anything like that. Wait, I take that back. One time I went to this formal event and they served this french fries smothered with garlic and other things. They served it in a flute glass along with a strip of fry fish. They make it look so elegant! But that was one of the hors d' oeuvres and not main entree. Anyway, I have sweet tooth too and I think it would be wonderful! It is impossible to make everybody happy. Yes, not everyone likes apple cider. They can eat the other sweets.