Christian Help with a Sexual/Relationship!?!?

Question

I am a married Christian woman with a 1 year old son.

I have this .... problem? That I love my husband more than anyone or anything in the world. Our relationship is amazing. Our sex is great. The problem? I find women extremely attractive. I have no desire to look at men (which is great, as I think my hubby is the best looking man in the world) but I am sexually attracted to women.

I guess I'm just looking for thoughts?

Hmmm... Sounds like most of you are right. I should talk to my husband about it.

Here's part of the other dilemma. I am an EXTREMELY jealous woman. I get upset everytime there is an even remotely attractive woman on the sidewalk (or anywhere) that my husband might notice, track, etc.

Something that seems to spark and intensify this, curiosity, is that I have a lot of dreams of it. I've told him about these dreams, and we joke and laugh them off. But they are what originally created the initial temptation.

Answer 1

Don't worry about it. Don't cheat on your husband. The end.

Answer 2

Sounds like you might be bisexual maybe even leaning towards lesbian. I wouldn't worry too much though unless you find this interferes with your marriage somehow. But so long as you still love your husband and don't cheat on him it souldn't be a problem. There may be some on here who will tell you to "pray to god to be released from these sinful thoughts" or something of the like. well if you think about it if certain thoughts were sinful then everyone would be on their way to hell as everyone has "bad" thoughts and your thoughts cannot be controled just like who you are attracted to cannot be controlled. Should we be punished for something beyond our control? But like I said unless you feel it interferes with your marriage I wouldn't worry. Though it sounds like it isn't so I'm sure you can relax.

Answer 3

You asked- so please do not say I am judging, I am just stating what God feels, and you say you are a married Christan woman. What does God say about marriage, first of all- you are to remain faithful to your spouse. Now, you say you are not attracted to any other man, but women. What does God say about that. Being sexually attracted to women, regardless if you are married or not is wrong. Romans 1 states what God feels.
Just because you feel attracted to women, you do not have to act on that feeling. Live your life the way that God would have you live, you know the answer to that.

Answer 4

From a Christian standpoint you made your bed you have to lie in it.

Lusting is an IFFY crime.

Adultery, even with a woman, is not.

From a purely Christian point of view it's that simple.

Even from a non-Christian or Secular point of view the matter is the same, unless we all want to have orgies in the world.

If so, your Husband is entitled also, to have other women. Will that make you feel good to know he had someone before he came to bed with you.

Your husband probably notices other women, so long as he doesn't act upon it, things are cool.

So you are entitled, somewhat, to the same rights.

That's about the extent of it.

To do further than that is to make Paganism a way of life.

Answer 5

Well the reason your attracted to women is because its taboo and forbidden for women to like women. That and your probably just confused every body goes through this stage everybody what you need to do is depend on god because to break your vows is to break a vow to god. Your husband isn't the only one who you made a vow to on your wedding day. You should tell you husband about this for you are one for you to hide this from is like lying to him plus another reason you maybe confused is because you have been thinking about women in a sexual way probably out of curiosity and that is the problem .Your too curious just remember that its the devil trying to threw twisted ideas into your head because we were not born originally with this sort of curiosity just stay away from materials that relate to that or people like that because your friends show who you are. That and remember that to be gay is a decision no one is born gay or else why would you even be attracted to men in the first place you know how men make you feel inside when your excited so just remember if you really did like women then why were the first thoughts about you being happy with some one. The thoughts of you being happy with a man.

Answer 6

Some people seem to have an attraction to members of the same sex just like some other people have a predilection for drinking alcohol to excess or some people have trouble controlling their anger.

It would seem that you have a vulnerability that could sabotage your marriage if you don't take proactive steps to "crucify" this urge of the flesh.

The best advice is to stay close to the Lord and to love your husband and to stay away from temptation.

As a single man I have an attraction to women to whom I'm not married. I don't look at porn, or allow myself to fantasize about women whom I come into contact with, or watch TV shows whose primary pull it to fill the screen with attractive women in alluring and scanty clothing.

Philippians 4:6 do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. 7 And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

8 Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. 9 What you have learned and received and heard and seen in me--practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you.

Answer 7

According to your religion, your thoughts are a sin and your attraction to women an abomination...

In my opinion, this is natural. As long as you have impulse control and are faithful to your marriage. If you really feel the need to pursue these attractions, you owe it to your husband to let him out of the relationship first. I hope you find peace with this "problem" in spite of what christianity says about you and your feelings.

Answer 8

Your problem is in the first statement you made after you said you have a problem; that "I love my husband more than anyone or anything in the world." While you say "in the world", it seems that you are implying that you are putting your husband first in your life; first, and before God. You should love Jesus more than anyone or anything in the world. You need to start by examining your relationship with God, not your husband.

Christians can have temptations, but true Christians are those living a life outside of sin. To receive salvation (and become a true Christian), one must repent of their sins and put their faith in Jesus. Many people think that they are good, but if we look at the Ten Commandments, you'll find that everyone falls short of God. That's because God is perfect. God's standard is perfect. We can't be perfect. But Jesus Christ was. And he died on a cross 2000 years ago so that you wouldn't have to suffer the consequences of your sins, which is hell. All you have to do is respond to what Jesus did by repenting of sins and believing in him.

If you put God first in your life, you'll find that everything will work out in the end. You'll overcome temptations for women and you'll find that with Jesus, you can overcome anything. Put your faith in him and see what happens. God bless!

Answer 9

Read Romans 1 and get a grip on it.
Heb 10:26 For if we sin wilfully after that we have received the knowledge of the truth, there remaineth no more sacrifice for sins,
Heb 10:27 But a certain fearful looking for of judgment and fiery indignation, which shall devour the adversaries.
Heb 10:28 He that despised Moses' law died without mercy under two or three witnesses:
Heb 10:29 Of how much sorer punishment, suppose ye, shall he be thought worthy, who hath trodden under foot the Son of God, and hath counted the blood of the covenant, wherewith he was sanctified, an unholy thing, and hath done despite unto the Spirit of grace?
Have you confessed this to your husband? That would help tame it too.

Answer 10

Just because you "feel" something doesn't mean that you have to entertain it or give into it. Pray about this. If you are Christian, then you know what the Bible says about homosexuality. I have felt attraction FROM other women, and like anything else, it was tempting but honestly, I gave it no heed. I didn't entertain the thought, I didn't find it flattering or interesting; I didn't find it to be anything. Listen to Martin S. and C. Thomas.

Answer 11

I believe your attraction to other women is an attack from the devil, I think you should pray hard about it and bind the devil in the name of Jesus and take authority over your life. The devil comes to steal, kill and destroy, and if he can ake your marriage he has done all three to your marriage at once.