How much of the bridal shower should a bridesmaid pay?

Question

my sister is getting married and i need to know how much i am expected/the other bridesmaids are expected to pay if any. i'm the youngets bridesmaid and i think they all know but i feel rude asking them to pay if they aren;t supposed to

my mom will be paying for most of it--i don't know if bridesmaids are expected to pay some or just give a gift and help set up

ok so i get it that they should pay some, but how much--like what percentage

the brides and grooms mom are contributing as well--they will be spliting most of the cost

Answer 1

Don't feel rude--just ask them how much you should chip-in for the party.

My bridal shower was simple--everyone just brought a dish and it was held at a bride's maid's house. Pretty simple. The gift I bought for my sister-in-law when she was married was around $20, so nothing fancy.

Answer 2

No the mother should not give a shower. Nor are you obligated. A person, a friend , a bridesmaid or a maid of honor ( anyone BUT the mother or mother in law) goes to the bride and asks if she would like a shower. If the bride answers yes, that person gets a list of whom the bride wishes to be invited and invites them for her. That person pays for the shower . ( sometimes she and another person offer together to host the shower). You need to tell your maid of honor that no way did you offer to have the shower and so you will not be contributing to it. Do it now. And if you know any other bridesmaids, it would help if you would tell them what you are doing just so they know they have the option. Tell your maid of honor she may want to read Peggy Post wedding etiquette book

Answer 3

I'm a year away from being a maid of honor, and fretting over the same. For the bachelorette party, I figure all guests contribute their share, and everyone chips in for the bride's check. As for the shower, I would divide it up between the bridesmaids, and consider asking the couple's mothers to contribute. If you're too young to foot the bill, explain it to the other ladies, but offer to help in other ways, like cooking or decorating.

Answer 4

For my sister's shower, we split the main costs evenly between the bridesmaids, mother of the bride and mother of the groom.

As the maid of honor, I picked up a few extra things like invitations and favors.

Answer 5

If your mom and you are hosting it, then you are covering the costs together. Bridesmaids can help out by bringing food, for example, and helping with the planning.
Where I'm from, the family does the bulk of the planning, brings the food, does the decorating, etc.

Answer 6

It is usually split up equally amongst the bridesmaids unless the maid of honor (or mothers) decide to pay for more or all. If they all have money and they know you don't, its courteous to offer to cover part of your share, but they aren't required to do that, so you might be paying equal amount as the other ladies.

Answer 7

Typically all of the brides maids/maid of honor are invloved in planning the shower. If the other bridesmaids areinvolved then they should also be chipping in, you shouldn't have to carry all the costs yourself!

Answer 8

I think it's supposed to be divided equally between the number of bridesmaids. Don't be afraid to ask. If you are younger than the rest they shouldn't mind you asking. Good luck!

Answer 9

Divide whatever is leftover
after moms contribute
among the girls
but make sure they are
involved in the planning
of the shower or WATCH OUT

Answer 10

If the bridesmaids are hosting the shower, they pay for all of it.