Stupid Mistakes?

Question

hi i have made a lot of really stupid mistakes in my life. I cannot stop thinking about them. I feel depressed, its ruining my life! have you ever made any really bad mistakes in your life? What happened?

Answer 1

We all have done things in the past that we wish that we hadn't. We have all made mistakes. But those mistakes are ALWAYS beneficial, because we learn from them. Sometimes, this is the only way that we CAN learn something. Experience is always the best teacher. Do not dwell on the past, because it cannot be changed. The past is the past, and the future will be determined by how you are in the present, and what you do in the present. So the present is all that matters right now. Dwelling on the past, is to keep it in the present with you, and this will only continue to affect your future negatively. Take what you have learned, and move on. I have made many mistakes in my past also. But without them, I wouldn't have learned what I do NOT desire in my life, and who I do NOT desire to be. Life is about learning and growing, and also about finding and experiencing the joy that exists right now. Don't focus on the past, or you will miss out on all the good things that you could be experiencing right now. Think about all the good things that you have accomplished in your life, and remember all the lessons you have learned. Know that you are always moving forward. Don't let those mistakes bring you down. You do not have to make those same mistakes again, if you do not want to- and let that be your motivation. The desire to always move forward. You can do anything, and be anyone you desire to be. Look at those mistakes as experiences that are bringing you closer to knowing what you DO desire in your life. :) Good luck to you! :)

Answer 2

We have all made mistakes in our lives which, if we had to do it over again, would be done differently. The point is to try and learn from those mistakes and not repeat them. It sounds as though you are really down on yourself right now and although it's quite normal to be down when faced with what you call "stupid mistakes" it's another thing altogether to allow them enough space in your head to ruin your life!

May I suggest that when you think about the mistakes you have made that you also think about what you can do better when faced with the same set of circumstances in the future? If you can do that you can turn a mistake into a life lesson and learning experience.

When we make a mistake or error in judgment the first thing to do is to own it! When you do that it allows you to apologize to those you may have hurt or injured in the process and ask their forgiveness. It also gives you the opportunity to hold your head up and know you've done the right thing by not running away from a problem.

You ask "what happened?" The answer to that is that either something did or nothing did! Sometimes when nothing happens it's a sign that all is well and that it's time to move ahead. By the same token, when something does happen, that can also be a good thing. If someone is angry and turns their back on you it may be a signal to let time pass before approaching that person again. A cooling off period, so to speak. It gives both of you time to think and that is always a good thing.

What's the worst thing that can happen? Depending on the type of mistake you've made I suppose it can run the gamut of nothing to losing something or someone dear to you. The one thing that life gives us is time! Time to think, time to reflect, time to re-group, time to cry and time to love and laugh again. If, as you say, you cannot stop thinking about these mistakes and these thoughts are ruining your life, it may be time to reach out for help with these problems. Talk to a great friend, someone you look up to or, conversely, someone who doesn't know you at all and will make no judgements about you. Just get it out so you can start to deal with it. Good luck!

Answer 3

Forgive yourself, you are human. It's MUCH easier said than done, I know. I have made horrible mistakes, almost lost marriage over VERY bad choices. For a long time, I felt so guilty and depressed, however, with time, and making sure I LEARNED from mistakes, instead of continuing to repeat behavior, I slowly began to feel good about self again.
You're a good person or you wouldn't even be thinking about this, but you must move forward with life. Everyday I just try to do a little better than the day before. I really wish you the best!!!!!!

Answer 4

Everybody has made "stupid mistakes" and/or bad choices in life. Sometimes we know it stupid even before we do it, sometimes not. The fact is, you can't change the "mistake" that's already made...you can avoid the same choice in the future.

Learn to take your time with important decisions. Don't make snap decisions or do things you're not entirely comfortable with to keep other people happy. You have to consider the consequences of what you do.

Either way, don't spend your time wishing the past were different. Instead, work toward bettering your future. What can you do to improve your situation right here, right now? That's what you should focus on.

Good luck!

Answer 5

The best thing to do is learn from them and move on. If they're so bad, then you shouldn't do them again and your mind will keep telling you that and will make you not do the same things again because of the feeling afterwards. Everyone makes mistakes. What matters is if you're actually going to continue living on like nothing happened, but also learn from them. It takes courage and self-determination. But you can't always dwell on the past. It leaves no room for the future. What's done is done and nothing can be done to fix it now. Think about that and focus more on the future.
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Answer 6

Yes everyone has made stupid mistakes in life. Making mistakes is how we learn. Don't feel bad. The problem is when you keep making the same mistake.That means you didn't learn.

Stop beating yourself up. This is a part of life and everyone has to got through it.

Answer 7

Well , everyone has made stupid mistakes in the past . you just have to understand all decisions in life are leaning experiences and learn from your mistakes You have to keep your head up or if that doesn't work you can always purchase a high caliber gun and end it all , but that to may be considered a mistake ..

Answer 8

Welcome to the show! hey we all make mistakes but some of us take it very personal and just wont forgive ourselves for it...I made a big mistake at my place of work that I will regret for the rest of my life....it cost me my job, I had to leave my friends, coworkers for 10 yrs. I couldn't stop thinking about it for over 2 months...I prayed about it and I realized that sometimes we have to learn from our mistakes...Now I view life in a total different way...I have learned that being honest and having ethics is most important. I fell very depressed for a long time, it was ruining my life... but I realized that this is how we move forward, learning from our mistakes...don't beat your self up...you'll get through it... try praying and meditating, writing down your thoughts in a journal and thinking about what you learned from this experience. Good Luck!

Answer 9

Everyone makes stupid mistakes, some just affect us more than others. If you have been feeling extremely depressed, cannot stop thinking about it, and it is cutting into your everyday life, then you should really think about talking to someone!

Answer 10

Everyone makes a few mistakes, stupid or otherwise. The thing to do is find something to look forward to and try to forget the past, you cant undo what already happened. I know that's hard some times but you will feel better for it.