Okay - So I have been I love with this guy for about 2 and a half years . . . But I know (thought) that he didn't feel the same way that I did so I accepted it and attempted to move on. Three boyfriends later he is still on my mind, so I say to myself that maybe I should be alone for a while a that might help me get over him. . . . . . He calls today and asks to speak with me. Here is how that conversation went :
Him : Did you dump your loser boyfriend?
Me : Yeah . . .
Him : Why?
Me : He isn't who I want to be with . . .
Him : Who do you want to be with then?
Me : You . . .
Him : Me?
Me : Yeah, You . .
Him : You don't show it
Me : Why should I show it?
Him : Why shouldn't you?
Me : Will it matter? I know you don't feel for me in that sense. .
Him : And how do you know that?
Me : I assumed . . .
Him : What will make you assume that?
Me : Well, you don't show it either . . . So I guess we were both misled
What do you think he feels for me?
2007-08-19 15:33:55 · 16 answers · asked by tiny_person_89 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
*We did ''talk'' to eack other for a while . . . .
2007-08-19 15:42:34 · update #1
Well, from the way that the conversation started I think that he cares about you because why would he be worried about who you are with if he did not give a darn? I say that you and him should talk it out and maybe that would help if you and him work out and tell each other how you feel then it would be better then you just sitting there thinking about him if you are not going to do anything about the way you feel about him. Sit down and just talk about how you guys feel about each other and maybe you should just strat off being good friends then if you and him are both ready maybe you should try to have a relationship again. If he does not want to be with you anymore then you should ket that situation go and learn from it. You have to let your feelings out about the way that you feel about him. So sit down talk it out and try to make the best out of the whole situation you only live once so why spend your days on earth sitting around being depressed about something in the past do something about it. I wish the best of luck for you and maybe your soon to be boyfriend again. Always Love LADY J.
PS: Try to talk to him about what he likes and he could ask you about a few things that interest you that could be a start.
2007-08-19 15:49:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the 21/2 years you have been secretly in love with this guy, what sort of relationship did you guys have?I mean did you talk on the phone frequently, go out to the movies or dinner, or visit one another in a platonic fashion .If the answer is yes, how come the subject of your respective feelings towards each other was never discussed.The answers could help clarify if he was just shy, thought he could not get you or did not want to damage a good friendship or because you were involved.While it seems he is currently interested, it could also be surprise, a feeling of power,or curiosity.I suggest that since the issue has now been raised, that you call him and have a complete, open and honest talk about your individual feelings for each other and if you want to pursue a romance.I hope he says yes (since you obviously care for him)and means it.I hope he does not use this knowledge to use you, abuse you disrespect you,and/or manipulate you.You deserve a man who is interested in loving you the way you love him. I wish you all of the best and hope your heart's desire is realized.
2007-08-19 23:01:07 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is the thing about relationships. You both have to have an understanding that it's forever.
You both have to love a one man one woman marriage.
You both have to enjoy each other and find comfort in one another.
Now I'm no genius but if you marry that guy and foster his children it sounds like you may be heading for a train wreck.
I'm not judging but I assume.
There is no such thing as a soul mate. Two people can be sexualy attracted to one another but that is just reckless lust.
Be smart. Date and find out what he likes.
If you two are opposites then fess up to him that he's not your type and look for the one who is.
Go to eharmony and give it a shot. It's the rest of your life so don't just look for the first one because you are lonely.
Your beautiful and some one is waiting to make you happy. Oh and give the nice guys a shot ok? Don't shoot them down because they are not a ss holes. Why are women so attracted to the a ss holes any way???
2007-08-19 22:45:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there, from my point of view, he juz wan some attention to show that he is still wanted, he is still needed. Some guys have this mentality that as long as there is someone out there that likes/love him, he is still attractive and will still flirt with other gals. He will be more confident when he face other gals knowing that he is attractive. When he called you to ask u those questions, it might be a way for him to boost his confidence.
2007-08-19 22:49:06 · answer #4 · answered by snowfox3010 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
question is hunny
why doe.s he still want to get in touch ;with you . sounds like he just wants to gloat . he feels nothing for you ;sad truth is if he never loved you then .he will not love you now . pick yourself up and start again . get that freaking *** . out of your life . all the best .
2007-08-19 22:45:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the girl i liked said that she liked me, i wouldnt keep asking. If the girl i did not liked said that she liked me, i would so uhh...and slowly back out of the conversation. So i think from that convo, he doesnt like you, but there is some interest.
2007-08-19 22:43:13 · answer #6 · answered by ChocolateBurger 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what he feels - no more head games or beating aroud the bush. Either he does like you or he just likes the power of knowing you like him. Ask him straight up - no games.
2007-08-19 22:38:38 · answer #7 · answered by geminijeanna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im kinda in the same situation i had a bf and its been a while that we stoped dating but managed to keep in touch i love him but he does not love me so I think that it may work or it may not. if love comes your way dont push it give him time and let him tell you that he wants you....
2007-08-19 22:43:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say gather up your courage and ask him. It is better to ask him directly than forever think of what may happen if you do. Remember, regrets won't do you good.
2007-08-19 22:41:20 · answer #9 · answered by rochelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your conversation is almost as ridiculous as your question. Have you read what you just wrote. Your question is pointless as you have already answered it yourself.Open your eyes and read between the lines.
2007-08-19 22:45:26 · answer #10 · answered by loza500 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋