I am currently going into my junior year of undergrad studies (I will be done in Dec/2009), and my boyfriend of 3 years and I have been talking about getting engaged and marriage a lot lately...I was thinking a good wedding date would be 4/24/10 (we have been together since 4/24/04)...if we made our plans official and got engaged now, is 3 years too long to have to plan a wedding? Since I am still in school, I want to wait to save up money and have financial stability and a career in my field in place. It makes sense to me to save for 3 years so that I have the money to have the wedding I want...But is 3 years too much time to plan a wedding... I've already started planning things...like a guest list and little things like finding things i like... i don't know... I just need some feedback from others' experience...thanks! btw my question is is 3 years too long of an engagement?
2007-08-19 15:32:31 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
yeah i am currently working...and so is my bf...i wouldn't expect to be engaged until the end of this year...so it only makes it 2 years and a couple months of an engagement i guess...thanks everyone
2007-08-20 15:17:31 · update #1
Sounds like we're in pretty much the same boat!! And judging from the stress I've seen others go through when planning a wedding, there's no such thing as having too much time. I think as well by just gradually getting bits together here and there for the big day over a long period of time, you may get to avoid being a complete stress case, who no one wants to talk to, for that one month-or-so period before the wedding.
I think the long engagement is a great idea! That's what I'm doing! And you'll probably find getting ready for the wedding more enjoyable, and you'll have lots of time for your fiance and you to enjoy each other, which is the most important!
Congrats, and best of luck!!
2007-08-19 15:47:34 · answer #1 · answered by beth c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 years seems like a long time and I can tell you from a 2 year engagement, that businesses will not to discuss with you booking services until you are closer to your date. You can buy things for the wedding and do mail order stuff (invitations, favors, decorations, etc) ahead of time, but any "real" wedding planning (ceremony location, reception location, florist, etc.) will want to wait until you are about 1 to 1.5 years out.
We didn't need a 2 year engagement, but it ended up that way. There's no real need to be engaged if the point is to save money, since you can do that without the ring. You can also get a career going and gain financial stability without one as well. None of what you want to accomplish needs an engagement ring. I met my husband (of 5.5 years) my sophomore (Feb. '96) year of college. We dated all through college (3 more years - graduated May '99), got engaged the following Dec (1999) and got married in Dec. 2001. I wanted to get engaged in college, but in reality, we wouldn't have gotten married any earlier if we got engaged while in school or not. And it worked out for us.
Good luck. I hope I didn't offend you. I know it's hard when you want to be engaged, but if you're thinking the wedding isn't going to be for 3 years, there's no reason to be engaged this early.
2007-08-19 15:48:29 · answer #2 · answered by higpoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is too long of an engagement. I understand that you would like to save up some money and have financial stability and a carer in place before you get married. But those are pretty tough to achieve right out of college. Do you currently go to school and work? Or do you just go to school? I am assuming that you do both because if not how are you going to save some money? Why don't you finish school first and then try to get a stable job and keep it for at least 2 years? And then, you get engaged? So you will be engaged in 2011 and then get married in around 2012.
2007-08-19 15:43:18 · answer #3 · answered by Caitlyn 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No 3 years is not too long to be engaged, but you wouldn't need to actually start planning until 2 yrs or 18 mos before. You can definitely be engaged and save up for the wedding of your dreams, it's a very smart thing to do!
Good luck!
2007-08-19 15:42:33 · answer #4 · answered by Reba 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hiring a wedding planner does make the planning more simple for you but it can cut into the budget quite a bit. I would spend time looking on websites so that all you need if anything is to consult with a wedding planner for any difficult to find items, as they will know all vendors of all budgets, they will also know who not to work with in the area. If you need a planner, you should be able to find on in the white pages or any rental shop will know a few that they work with often
2016-04-01 08:09:37 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nah it gives you awhile to save up for it.. which is a good thing cause it can be quite expensive depending on what you want..
my guess is do a little here and there.. a lot of the majority of the planning doesn't have to be done for a year or so before..
2007-08-20 00:04:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't bother getting engaged now, too much can happen over so many years. Wait til eight months or a year before you are actually going to get married.
2007-08-20 03:35:13 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋