why me god?

Question

I am well rounded person, with tons of gifts and talents. I work hard for money and do things for many people. I am not that bad looking and I am not a bad guy. I am not a drunk, or a drug abuser. I am not crazy, acception for asking the question "Why me god?" and I don't understand what god has planned for me. So I ask, "Why me god?" I have battled intestinal tract problems "crohn's disease," over 7 years and suffered through meningitis, colapsed lung, and lyme disease. I feel I have no control over my life yet feel my life descions were already made for me. Living with my rents hasn't made things easier. I help my grandmother out 1 or 2 times a week. I am a nice guy everyone tells me so, yet a lot of older adults don't give me the time of day, why? I don't feel in control of my life at all. I want to know "why me?" I feel like I am going for a run and every step I take I loose 3 steps for effort. is there a reason for all of this? what is it? why me god?

Answer 1

I know how you feel. I'm waiting on a CT brain scan results right now. I was diagnosed bipolar last year. I get to go crazy (depressed or manic, all bad) every now and then and can't do a damn thing about it except take my meds. I'm pissed at the world right now. I'm mad I have this illness. I more mad that I wasn't diagnosed years ago. And I'm mad that I messed up my life. Now this. Could it at least be a different body organ. I really don't want epilepsy or a tumor, you know. I'm a good person, too. I take care of my parents, lots of school, good job, never hurt anyone, etc.

Basically, life isn't fair. We didn't do anything to get the hand dealt. That's just the way it is. Many people have physical problems, we just don't usually tell others. The challenge is to deal with it and live the best life possible.

I really believe that anyone with a chronic disease should see a therapist even if it is infrequently. It creates baggage others don't have to cope with, and it can cause depression that is better handled thru talk therapy than pills IMHO.

Deep breath. Try to see the beauty of the sky and nature. Life is what you make it.

Answer 2

wow sweety , you have been ill alot and i can understand how continually being ill could probably make you question your life. crohns disease is such an awful disease and sweety iam sorry you have been suffering, but you sound like you have absolutely no self esteem whats so ever, and honey when that changes you will notice and see things in such a different way.
now the cool positive side is that you do recognise the wonderful things you have to offer, and despite everything from an outsiders point of view you sound like an amazingly talented person, with a very kind heart. however knowing what you have to offer and believing those offerings are worthy to give others is another thing. what I am saying is that you need to believe that the person you are is worthy of being liked and loved.
I have had self esteem issues from time to time and believe me everyone has, its not rare, its as common as sand grains,but i have developed a little trick that for me anyway seems to work in situations when i am feeling inferior or intimidated. Ok when i am having a day when i have the hates for myself for whatever reason , and i know i have to go out and mingle with the world,i do what i call the BIG CON.
I could feel like crap but i go out and fake it, i smile at everyone , i talk heaps i really put myself out there , even though at first im **** scared,i fake it and totally take control of each situation, making myself look like i am a confident person with loads of self esteem, no one would no any different and as the time rolls on , i actually do feel like that person.
seriously it has worked for me so many times, and i end up having a wonderful time.
being ill like you have been doesnt mean your less of a person, or that you deserve less. people sense when people are negative , and because life causes so may pressures, i think we are all looking to others for positive affirmations, so maybe others are sensing your negativity and feeling awkward by it.
In any case you are the only one sweety who can make a difference to your situation.
I wish you so much happiness and i hope you soon will realise that you are so worthy of it.
wanda

Answer 3

Don't forget that you do have tons of gifts and talents that many people would gladly swap for perfect health and no gifts or talents.

Also, remember that all of your experiences have shaped you into the person that you are today. I would guess that your health problems have made you a lot more appreciative of life; your challenges have given you a special insight into things that most people don't have. You are stronger emotionally than someone who has never had to face any problems. Your negative health problems have given you positive personality traits.

When you ask yourself "why?," think about the people you can help. There are people out there who are just being diagnosed with crohn's disease of meningitis today, and they need someone like you to guide them through their difficult times. Your experience can benefit others. God has something special in mind for you-- you're uniquely qualified to help others with similar health problems.

Try this prayer: "God, thank you for everything, exactly the way it is. Thy will, not mine, be done."

Answer 4

It sounds silly but these things all make you stronger. I'm 32 and have had intestinal problems for 15 years. My father died 3 months after I was diagnosed. I've been in and out of the hospital for it, but I'm okay. Things are okay, they just get crappy once in a while. If things are crappy for you now, they can only get better. These things make you rely on yourself to be a strong person with will and determination. My advice is to have a few good friends that you can talk to, and don't be afraid to talk to your doctor. Intestinal problems can cause you to feel really down and sad about things, and there are medications that can help that. Everyone has problems. I was such a dork when I was a teenager, goofy looking and unpopular. But now I am popular, have friends, a great personality and a rockin bod. Still have intestinal problems, but I've learned to do things that make me feel better, like running every day and watching what I eat. But hey, I wouldn't look as great as I do if my tummy didn't force me to eat that way!

Take care and have faith. Everything will work out.

Answer 5

Oh, that's unfortunate.

The worst thing about this crazy thing called "life" is that we don't know what God's will is. It's like when a lab rat tries to figure out what the scientist is doing.... it's just beyond us to know.

In my life, I have noted several things that at the time were horrible to happen.... things that I wish were just bad dreams. Some of them took several years to see the outcome of them to actually see that they ended up being good.

I lost one of the potentially best jobs when I was literally the 2nd highest person in our office because of layoffs (our location was shut down). It took me a few months to find any job (which I couldn't afford no income with the bills I had), and I had to leave that shortly after for health reasons.
A few more months passed, and I was forced to pick up odd jobs for little pay..... but I found a company that I started working for that has been the best job I've ever had. I'm actually happier here than I've been at any other job. Thing is, I never would have found this job if I wasn't laid off, and I realized (when looking back) that I would have gotten sick of that job I was laid off from.... and I would have resented it and either been miserable or quit, not to mention that I wouldn't have found this job.

God had a plan for me, and it actually made me happier in the long run to get laid off. Who could have seen THAT coming? LOL!

Point is, we don't know why things happen until somewhere down the road... and maybe not until we reach the afterlife and see time after we leave earth. Maybe your illness is to humble you, maybe it's to reach and impact someone else.

If you feel this way, I would consider talking to your pastor/priest. Remember... all things work for the good of those who love God. (Romans 8:28)

Answer 6

It sounds like you're taking on too much. Try getting away from your parents so you'll feel like you have more control over your life. If you can't afford a place on your own, you could get a roommate. Take some time out just for you. Do whatever YOU like to do, preferably with others, but at least get out of the house. Go to a beach, park, lake, etc.

Answer 7

God gives all of us challenges. I really feel for you, but it really could be worse. It's difficult, but when you can be happy with the lot God has given you in life, then you can be truly happy in any adversity.


One of my smaller challenges (since i dont want to share the big ones) is that I'm very short. 5'5" and done growing to be exact. My friends are all mean about it, but over time I've come to the conclusion that, even tho I don't know why, God has given me that particular challenge, and that it must be for my good in some way, so I can be happy that I have a strong body (I'm sorry you don't have that luxury) and that I'm very self confident so that the potentially hurtful things ppl say just roll off me.

In short, although God rarely lets us know exactly why we have our particular challenges, we must have faith that he loves us and is looking out for us in all our adversity. It requires lots of faith, but any burden can be lessened by that belief.

My advice to you is to pray daily for strength and to study God's Holy Word for answers.

Also, giving service and losing yourself in Christlike work toward those in need is one of the best ways to forget your own problems and feel the Love of God

Answer 8

um wow I ask the same question, I am 26 and I have been to 10 funerals. My life has been turned upside down so many times. But my life modo is if it doesnt kill you it will make you stronger. I think that life is not suppose to be easy and I really hope that someday it will get better you just have to have faith.

Answer 9

wow i think you should see a therapist or become one with yourself. try doing something like yoga to relax and distress. Also, helping your Grandma is good unless it brings you down. Sometimes you need to focus on your life Rather than others take care of you before them. by doing this you are an all round good person and can spread positive things rather than negative feed back

Answer 10

If you read your question you sound alot more fortunate than others. You have family,a place to live, you are caring with talents. So instead of WHY me god. How about THANK god!