i just had to make a really tough decision. did i make the right one?

Question

i just had to chose whether or not i ever wanted to see my dad again because of his ______ wife i chose to leave was i right?

Answer 1

im sure there is alot to this story so i will tell you what i think. i think you may have done the right thing and ill tell you why. im sure this was building up and you felt tlike everything was building up against you. your dad wasn't taking your side. so i think what eventually will happen after some time has passed you will cool off and your dad will miss you and you will talk alone and you can tell your dad how you feel and felt and things may get better for you. even if you call your dad at work and say please meet me after work before going home so i can talk to you alone. then spill your guts, but remember to be respectful to his wife while your talking to him, you dont have to like her but being nasty about her wont help anything. if im almost close as to what has been going on you did what you had to do. it will get better and good luck.

Answer 2

I'm going to disagree with everyone on this one. I think by leaving, you made the right choice. Maybe at this point in your life, it is the best decision, so long as you're not doing this as a power struggle. But if you honestly cannot live with your step-mother and your father is giving that sort of ultimatum (of accepting his wife or no relationship with your father), then I don't think this is the sort of relationhip I'd want to continue.
After everything is said and done, you're the only one who truly knows if this was the "right" decision.

Answer 3

Only you can answer that.There has to be a way to compromise so that you can keep in touch with your dad.
Don't give up on your dad.He's the only one you'll ever have.The two of you need to have a good talk and figure things out.
You may have to give in a little but it'll be worth it in the long run.Life is far too short to be at odds with each other and you never know what's around the corner in this life.Don't wait till it's too late to talk to your dad about how you're feeling.
Communication is the key.I'm sure he loves you as you do him so you need to talk to each other calmly and quietly.No yelling and screaming.
Good Luck.

Answer 4

Depends on how old you are.
Depends on if you hate her because she took your mom's place, or that she is a witch.
Depends on if you can live without Dad and what other brothers and sisters you have.
And depends on if you can maintain an income to be reasonably independant.

Moving out is going to cost you... it will damage your relationship with your Dad, because this is the choice he's made, and he isn't going to divorce her because you moved out. That would be manipulation if you did it for that reason, and that would just be wrong.

If you are younger, how are you going to take care of yourself? Are you on the street? (Rough place to be) At a friend's home? (Their parents aren't going to harbor you forever) Is punishing your Dad worth the broken trust and the pain you are going to have to deal with too?

Oh sweetie, whatever you do, do it because it is the right thing to do, not because you want to be in control of this situation by forcing your Dad to do something. That never, ever works.

Answer 5

You didn't really give us enough details, but we can't be the judge of this, only you. I am sure that regardless of the circumstances, you must have felt that you no other choice but to make this painful decision. However, you might want to rethink it. Is being out of your Fathers life going to cause you even more pain than putting up with his wife? Have you tried other solutions first? You only have one Dad.

Answer 6

So your dad likes a little something between his legs. Every now and then I bet he likes to take in a game. He married her.. not you. Of course she hates your guts, you remind her of the fact he did someone else and made a child. To bad your dad still does not know how to pick a mate.

Answer 7

Well I understand what your saying, and I know its hard, But your not wrong or right,, its something you need to work out.

I would at least speak to your father and tell him how you feel,, its the best thing you can do.

If nothing becomes of it, at least you did what was right..

But don't shut him out over her, thats what she may wont you to do,, leave them alone,, so keep seeing him,, don't let her get her way, he is your Father and you and him need each other no matter what age,,,

tell him how you feel...

Answer 8

Fraid not.

The advice given already is right, you should keep the relationship with your Dad, but seperate yourself from his wife.

Think how your Dad feels, you basically put him in a position that he either stands by the woman he loves (regardless if you like her or not) and his daughter.

Not very fair.

Answer 9

Not a good move............ you need to grow up ... deal with his new wife........ if he loves her, you should respect him and treat her with respect also........ you were very wrong to choose not to see him.......... you will regret it ....I just went to a funeral on Saturday, the young man was 36.... he and his mother hadnt been speaking because of some stupid thing... and he died..... now she has to live with that for the rest of her life....... so you get going..... you go apologize to your dad.......and try to make the best of the new wife.........and stop calling her names........ that isnt very grown up either....... .

Answer 10

Hmm. I can't imagine a scenario where these would be your only choices. If you have to ask if you made the right choice, maybe your didn't. Only you know the answer to this.