How much more should I change my clothes for my BF who doesn't like how I dress?

Question

I know that I don't dress risque by wearing midriff tops, daisy dukes, or mini skirts. He doesn't like that most of my jeans are figure hugging (tight), or that I like tight shirts. If I wear any sheer shirts, I wear camisoles underneath them. I also wear plain t-shirts from Old-Navy and loose-fitting jeans sometimes. He just doesn't like the attention I get in those figure-hugging jeans and shirts.

But the twist on this is that he doesn't object to ALL my tight clothes, he has even picked out a couple outfits that are worse than what we fight about, just because he likes how they look on me. So when I recently bought something similar to what he said was cute, we fought about me wearing it or putting something on over it, eventhough it's summer. I have compromised some with him, and we still argue. I have purchased more clothing he would approve of but I don't feel I should lose who I am completely just to appease him. What would you do/say?

Answer 1

You don't...he likes you for who you are..not for what he expects you to be...

Answer 2

I say you can dress how you are comfortable, from what you have said it is all very modest, then there should be no problem; now if you were wearing shorts that showed off half of your butt cheeks and the top was cut to your navel or it was so short that it showed off too much chest then yeah I'd see a reason for him to not like it. Does he not realize that 95% of the jeans now days are tight fitting and the shirts are tight that is just how they are making them. I'd really think about the relationship if he's controlling about something as petty as your clothes, what else is he going to try and control.

Answer 3

If you aren't dressing in a risque manner, then what's the problem ? A secure man can appreciate a woman taking care of herself and dressing nicely. He must think that he doesn't have what it takes to keep YOU ! Instead of worrying about if someone else is checking for you, he might feel better if he works on his own self esteem issues. Good luck with that one ;) !!!

Answer 4

Are you serious, How long have you been dating him? What were you wearing when you met him.? You don't change anything. I mean nothing..... I hope you understand. You don't change who your are or what you wear for anybody. He needs to accept things the way they are. He is suppose to think you are hot no matter what you wear. If he is not into what you wear. He is gonna cheat on you and blame you for it. Trust me, Leave him now or make sure he understands that what you wear is who you are and if he does not like it Then Sorry, You need a New Boyfriend one that can appreciate you for who you are. Don't change you for anyone. That is crazy.

Good Luck

Answer 5

What do I say/do? I dress the way I like, and if my man doesn't like it, he doesn't have to look. But I don't have that problem because my man is mature enough to know that it's none of his business what I wear. I don't tell him what to wear, he doesn't tell me what to wear. If you are buying clothes just for him to "approve" of, then that says he is a controlling person and you are tolerating it. He's not your father, he has no right to "disapprove" of anything you wear. Grow a backbone and tell him you will wear what YOU want to wear. If it starts an argument, then remember that it takes two to make an argument and refuse to discuss it with him. Just tell him, "That's the way it is, take it or leave it."

Answer 6

just tell him its your life, ur body and you decide wot goes on top of it n if he doesn't like it he knows where to go. its up to you what u wear, its what you feel comfortable in. is he your personal stylist.....no, so y should he be telling you what to wear and what not to wear? by the sound of it, its not like your dressing so it all hangs out, so i don't see hes problem there. and if guys are giving u attention its probably because you have a pretty face....what he going to do next make you go under the knife! He should be happy that a pretty girl that all the guys want picked him not them! :D

Answer 7

I'd tell him goodbye. He met you wearing tight clothes so whats the problem?

I am saying get out no because this could be the start of something terrible. First it's clothes then it's friends, family and god knows what else. Leave and find someone that will like you as you like you.

Answer 8

He has nerve I would never tell a girl what to where, might question something extreme like a bikini on the street, but its ur choice and if can't get that then he has a problem. U could turn the table and start telling him what to wear see what happens.

Answer 9

You shouldn't have to change the way you dress for your boyfriend. That's saying he's looking at your outside and not your inside. It's disrespectful and rude. Talk to him and tell him before it gets out of control. If he can't accept the way you dress, leave him. I didn't have to change anything about myself for my boyfriend, other than I had to gain some independence. But the point is I didn't have to change anything about my looks. I just had to be a little bit more responsible in our relationship.

Answer 10

He doesn't have a clothing issue--he has a control issue. He wants all the control. If it wasn't in this area, he will find another area (talking on the phone, how many times you can see your friends a day, eating too much sugar and might get fat, etc, etc, etc. You need to dump him fast. Life just goes downhill from here with him!

Answer 11

Wear what makes you comfortable. He obviously likes it. It sounds like he's just insecure in your relationship. He doesn't want you attracting attention of other guys because he's afraid they might steal you away or something.

You should try talking to him about his feelings, because this isn't really about clothes. This is about jealousy and he needs to learn that he can trust you. He CAN trust you, right?

If he doesn't seem capable of trusting you, or refuses to talk about it, this may not be the right relationship for either of you, afterall.

Good Luck.