If a guy had a broken engagement (exfiancee broke it off cause she only felt like he was a platonic brother figure to her)
Is it in poor taste for him to keep the engagment ring to give to a future new fiancee ?
Isnt that kinda tacky and weird ?
2007-08-19 14:20:38 · 62 answers · asked by Leea 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
w ehave JUST started dating. he told me how his exFiancee left him but he still has the big ring he got for her to give to new girl in future.
i think he was trying to impress me but it seems so GAUCHE.
2007-08-19 14:33:41 · update #1
its not an heirloom. he even had the gaul to tell me how she designed it !(his ex)
2007-08-19 14:36:06 · update #2
and his ex wore it for over a year. ACK.
2007-08-19 14:37:27 · update #3
Oh my Gods. If a man proposed to me with a ring his ex-girlfriend designed and WORE for a year, I would look at him...and say "Are you for real?."
Normally, my response to "I don't like the ring" questions is: You should be more concerned with the relationship than how the ring looks.
However, in this case, it would be the boyfriend who needs to do a reality check on the relationship. How committed is he to his new partner, if he is just going to use an old ring? He is not going to put any thought or energy in choosing something appropriate for the woman he loves...he is going to recycle a used ring from a failed relationship?
To answer your question: Oh yes, this screams Tacky.
2007-08-20 02:40:11 · answer #1 · answered by Kat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not in this situation. Actually it would be tacky of her to keep the ring. It was given to her as a sign of his commitment to their life together. Since she chose not to go through with the wedding the ring should be returned to him. Now, let's say he broke the engagement after the plans were made and and dress paid for. In that case she has probably earned the right to keep the ring. He should use the stones in a different setting for the next time he becomes engaged. Brides don't like the same ring a previous fiancee picked out.
2007-08-19 14:35:27 · answer #2 · answered by Ann D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the jewerly piece. If it's a family heirloom, meaning that it would be given to the guy's fiance, whoever she may be, then no it's not tacky. However, if there was not an emotional or family attachment to the ring, then yeah, it's kinda wrong. When you sell or pawn, you only receive a fraction of what it's normally worth, so what about having the stone(s) reset into a new ring?
2007-08-19 14:27:27 · answer #3 · answered by dma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES very tacky!! My sister-inlaw is wearing a ring from the same situation, every time I see it it makes me think of the other girl. And this is because my brother-inlaw bought a really expensive one on credit maybe he should of made sure before making such a big purchase. The girl also wore it for about a year. Some jewelers will give you some of a credit towards another purchase or try selling it on EBAY.
2007-08-19 14:44:36 · answer #4 · answered by Stacey R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's tacky. He should sell the ring and use the money to buy a new ring for the next woman. Chosing an engagement ring, whether alone or together is one of those special moments in a relationship. What woman would want a ring that he bought for someone he was in love with? Is he keeping the ring because it reminds him of her?
Tacky...............very tacky.
2007-08-19 14:26:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel that it would be tacky for the girl to keep it. On the other hand, I wouldn't want to be the next girl with the cursed ring.
Is it a family heirloom? It should stay in the family.
2007-08-19 14:24:07 · answer #6 · answered by backwardsinheels 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Considering it is a piece of jewellery that the recipient will be likely to wear for the rest of her life, I think that is a bit disrespectful and he should buy a ring especially for her, one that she will like, and the previous fiancee may have different taste to the new fiancee. I would not be happy to be given an engagement ring that was passed on from a previous failed relationship.
2007-08-19 14:25:52 · answer #7 · answered by Han 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is. I think at least an exchange should be done to try to find the ring that is perfect for the person you are with. Of course if the woman has no idea then she won't need to think about whether it is tacky or not.
2007-08-19 14:24:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be making it clear right from the start of the relationship that this would not be ok with you. It wouldnt matter if it was the most expensive and beautiful ring in the world. It would always be another girls ring. And even worse that she helped design it. Tell him to pawn it off now
2007-08-19 18:09:12 · answer #9 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that's seems very tacky. I won't want a ring that was giving to an ex, unless it was handed down in the family.
2007-08-22 08:59:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋