my cousin is getting married, but you see he is the groom. and his fiancee chose me to be one of her bridesmaids. she is offering to buy me my dress too, but I was just wondering if the brides usually do that, or if I should buy it, since i'm on the grooms side of the family?? what do you guys think is more appropriate?
2007-08-19 14:10:52 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Typically the bridesmaids each buy their own dress, but depending on the financial situation of the bride, it is an extremely generous offer for the bride to cover the the bridesmaids' dresses. It does not matter what side of the family you come from. A bridesmaid is still a bridesmaid, no matter what side she comes from.
PS if she covers your dress, be sure to get her a kick a$$ present :)
2007-08-19 14:15:14 · answer #1 · answered by dma 3 · 8⤊ 0⤋
In the USA: No, you are not responsible for their attire. However - you ARE responsible for asking them beforehand, "How much do you want to spend on the outfit?" And then you are obligated to choose something in a price that everyone can afford. Do this with each of them privately ... don't ask in a group or in a mass email, where they will all see each other's answers and may feel embarrassed or shy to tell you the truth about what you can afford. If they all tell you that they can spend up to $125 on a dress/tux, and you find something you love for $150, then kick in the extra $25/person yourself. If you don't want to do that, then pick something less expensive. Remind them that they may need to pay for alterations, too, so they should factor that into their budget. If you tell all the bridesmaids that you want them to wear matching/dyed shoes, that they have to get their hair and nails and makeup professionally done, or that they have to stay at the hotel with you the night before, then you have to pay for it. If you give them the option ("Wear any silver sandals that you want" or "Get your hair done by whoever you want, or style it yourself"), then you do not have to pay. In some other countries, the bride and groom are expected to buy the attire. No matter what, talk to all of your attendants individually and see what their budgets and expectations are, and then go from there. As long as you are all on the same page, and if you are upfront with them and if you're considerate of their money, you shouldn't have a problem. The problems and fights arise when people make assumptions or when the bride/groom gets greedy or doesn't care about their friends' feelings and money.
2016-05-17 11:25:35 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its usually the bridesmaid buys her own dress. If its at the last minute and they ask you then the bride/groom buy the dress. If fiancally you couldn't afford it then thats fine too and she knows you can't afford it,then its fine if she pays
2007-08-19 16:38:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woah woah woah, what are you all talking about?
I've been a bridesmade 6 times and 4 of those times i was part of the grooms family!!
And i never ever payed for my dress!
If the bride is paying for the bridesmaids dresses on her side of the family then i wouldn't worry about paying!!
Or even offer!
But if shes not paying for them you should most deffinetly pay for yours!!
Hope this is helpful, much love x
2007-08-19 14:26:57 · answer #4 · answered by Eve M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually if the bride offers to buy one, she buys for all unless there is a financial situation involved. Typically however, brides don't buy the bridesmaids dresses at all.
2007-08-19 16:03:33 · answer #5 · answered by its about time 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The old-fashioned / traditional / etiquette thing calls for the bridesmaids to each pay for their own dress. But these days people are doing their own thing...including male brides"maids" and female best "men"...so I think it's whatever the marrying couple decide. Personally, if I were being forced to wear an ugly dress, I sure as hell would not be paying for it.
2007-08-19 14:35:58 · answer #6 · answered by concretebrunette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the bride is supposed to pay for the bridesmaidsdresses.the maid of honor is supposed to buy her own dress.
hair nails makeup is covered by the bride usually
it doesnt matter which side bride or groom...youre still a bridesmaid
2007-08-19 19:22:15 · answer #7 · answered by i<3laura 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally the bridesmaid buys her own dress, but in some cases when she cannot afford it, the bride will incur the expense.
2007-08-20 13:16:03 · answer #8 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually the BMs buy their own dresses but if she is offering to buy them for everyone then that's great news for you. You might offer to buy it yourself since you are from the grooms side but I hope she would treat all the BMs the same. If you don't end up buying your dress make sure you chip in for the shower or bachelorette party.
2007-08-19 14:16:31 · answer #9 · answered by az 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my mom got married my grandparents paid for the bridesmaid dresses but that was years and years ago. When I got married my bridesmaids paid for their own. I think it really is what the couple can afford or whoever may be paying for the wedding. We did pay for our flower girl and or ring bears dress and tux.
2007-08-19 15:02:03 · answer #10 · answered by reagans_n_kanes_mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋