I am 16 and my mom left me, my sister, and stepdad a year ago. It really effected me. Especially since my stepdad blamed it on me at first. When she left i had to do all the cleaning, cooking, and continue to go to school and keep up my grades.
I got really sad and depressed from always being stressed.
I felt like I had no one to talk to. My stepdad didnt wanna lisren and my sister could have cared less about my feelings.
She is younger than me but she always makes me feel bad, calls me fat, and rubs it in that guys think shes hot but not me.
it makes me feel even worse.
i dont know what to do.
i feel bad constantly.
what do i do?
thanks for any help
2007-08-19 13:45:53 · 9 answers · asked by edtkkfif 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
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2007-08-19 14:03:33 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first off, let me congratulate you for ur strength and courage. being only 16, doing all the chores and also keeping up ur grades isn't easy, that too, after all the things that happened to you. i admire that in you and it tells me that u r very hard working. Keep this up and you are bound to end up in a good and strong place in your life. It is easy to be depressed in the situation you are in and also because of ur age. But try to make more friends and talk to them n hang out with them and u will feel less lonely. busy urself with work and studies. DO NOT listen to or pay heed to what ur stepfather says or how ur sister acts towards you. If ur stepdad had the better judgment the world would have been a better place, but guess tht he does not. Also busy urself wth various activities, like music or art or a game, anything u r good at. the world is a lot bigger than ur sister, ur mother or your stepfather. There are people out there waiting to embrace you with love, Have faith and ALWAYS belive that.
2007-08-19 21:09:32 · answer #2 · answered by Natasha K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there an adult, someone you trust that you can talk to about this? A counselor at school maybe?
Remember these things:
1. It is NOT your fault that your mom left. Adults have complex reasons for doing things, but no one can be blamed for another person's lack of responsibility.
2. Your sister's being a jerk. She maybe pretty on the outside, but not on the inside, where it really counts. The outer shell will fade, but inner beauty is priceless!
3. Work on finding your peace. What do you like to do? Read? Write poetry? Journal? Do well in school? You're old enough to be thinking about your future. Set yourself up for success...study hard!
4. Your diet and exercise can affect depression. Try to take a multivitamin and make sure you're eating a balanced diet. Walk when you can...do sit ups in your room, whatever to get the seratonin flowing.
This is a short season in your life....there will be a lot of good days ahead of you. Think positively!
I'm rooting for you...I suffered with depression when I was a teenager. If you need someone to write to, you can write to me.
2007-08-19 20:59:36 · answer #3 · answered by thesweetestgift 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please get some support for what you are going through. You are old enough to make decisions about your personal welfare, and there is help out there for you. Contact a womens' shelter or public health office. They will have information for your immediate needs and can point you in the right direction for anything else you need.
I hope you will leave the environment you are in. You are not responsible for your stepdad or younger sister. You are responsible for taking care of yourself. Those people you live with have problems that you can't help them with, but they will wear you down and destroy you if you stay there. You have done great to have stayed in school and manage a household. Keep your head on straight, keep your life together and move forward. You CAN do it. G bless you!
2007-08-19 21:18:33 · answer #4 · answered by bin there dun that 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sry to here that...well the only thing i can think of is to go get some counseling or family counseling..it seems like your stepdad has some issues that tie with this situation, as well as your sister. younger siblings tend to annoy the older ones but she shouldnt call you fat, shes just insecure about herself. thats all the advice i can give i hope it helps i know what you are going through sweetie it will get better listen to your heart and godbless
2007-08-19 21:02:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did nothing wrong. Unfortunately you were born into a bad situation. You are lucky that your step father liked _loved you & your sister enough to continue looking after you. Give him a break_he could have walked away after your mother left & forgot about you. He kept you in his life because he wanted you to be a part of his life.
2007-08-19 21:14:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, it was wrong of your stepfather to blame you. You should talk to a counselor or other professional to help you. This is a lot for anyone to handle. Good luck to you.
2007-08-19 20:52:07 · answer #7 · answered by la buena bruja 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitly talk to a school counselor of a teacher about this, and know that it's not your fault.
2007-08-19 22:05:50 · answer #8 · answered by Terri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get to doctor have yourself treated for depression and then start working on them they have to see its not your fault and you know that. she left because she watned to she didn't care about you are the other s i guess. its sad and doe shappen. my mom left be at one day how about that and i lved trhough it.
2007-08-22 23:21:59 · answer #9 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋