Omigosh I think I have ruined the best thing I have had in a long time. Its weird though. Hard to explain.
A guy I used to work with, we woukd go out to eat every week and maybe do things through the week. He had previously said he only wanted to be friends. So I thought we were just really good friends. I've ruined it all now. I thought about how close we were getting and another friend brought it up, so I thought we were dating until I remebered what he had said before. We never really talked about us just did things together.
So on my Facebook page on a whim, I just changed my relationship status to "in a relationship" don't have a clue why. Because I thought we were friends and I thought it wouldn't matter. Take into account I really like this guy and a relationship is all I ever wanted but if friends was all he wanted, thats what I would take.
He gets mad, at the facebook change and then I have to explain. Can you help? Advice please to fix this?!!!?
2007-08-19 13:23:22 · 36 answers · asked by p_shell1987 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wait is he mad because he thinks your dating another guy, or is he mad cause he thinks your making people think your dating him but really aren't?
Solution, just be like its a joke between a good friend of mine, be like we were both just being goofy, and joking around about her being my gf and me being her boyfriend, people actually do this --- so hopefully he'll be like oh alright, sorry about being an ***. and you guys will be back to normal. - if you already told him, just be like i'm sorry i like you, it was just a picture in my head, everyone knows i'm not dating you, if you just want to be friends, i'm fine with that, but i was just being a girl. Hope he understands.
Hope I Helped ---
2007-08-19 13:30:58 · answer #1 · answered by ilovedancing <3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok sounds like you are dating?? Just b/c he had said before that he only wanted to be friends doesn't mean he hasn't changed his mind!! I have said that plenty of times then a month or so into it I realized I wanted something more. If he says anything about the Status thing I would feel him up and see what he thinks before answering. Just joke about it like your girlfriend changed it or whatever. Or say I thought you was getting serious with me so I wanted to take myself off the market b/c I'm getting date offers!! Good luck sweetie. Maybe this could be what you have been waiting for.
2007-08-19 13:49:21 · answer #2 · answered by Electra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didn't ruin anything. If this guy gets mad over a profile on the internet then he's childish. He obviously doesn't want to be with you at the point of anger so don't ever think he'll be more then a friend&that comes from personal exp.
Here is what you say if you want to keep this guy around (which I don't know why you wud) P.S. always tell the truth becasue your free and that is a reward for the free.
"I didn't mean to change it, i wasn't thinking we were in a relationship but i didn't want people contact me abt relationships."
Hope it helps.
2007-08-19 13:46:21 · answer #3 · answered by Matthew T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friendships, whether platonic or romantic, is built on mutual trust. When that trust is broken, it hurts and needs to be repaired and sometimes may never be fixed. However, having said that I do not believe that your slight indiscretion rises to the level of murder that calls for his kind of reaction.He sounds like he is so full of his own self importance or himself and maybe taking advantage of his knowledge of your romantic interest in him.Either way, you have apologized and explained and that should be the end of it. If he is still carrying a chip on his shoulder, then in spite of your stated romantic interest in him ,you might have to think of cutting him off including being his platonic friend.After all , all you did was express affection for him and that is not something to get mad for or crucify someone for.I wish you all the best. Don't let him abuse or disrespect you. You deserve the best .
2007-08-19 14:19:46 · answer #4 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think there are two ways to go...
one way would be to tell him the truth and hope for the best. i mean honestly, why would he get mad at that if he didnt like you? that just seems weird to me. and if it doesnt turn out well, i think you've obviously lost nothing. even though youve heard it many times, trust me when i say there are more fish in the sea.
the second way to go would be to lie. you could say that your best friend went on your facebook and messed around with all your stuff. and then you could just change it back to 'single' and hopefully continue the "friend" relationship you have.
2007-08-19 13:35:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you can either tell him you started dating someone else and then later invent a break-up.
You could claim that you didn't change it and facebook simply had a glitch or something (computer errors happen all the time).
Or if you really dont want to be honest with him for the sake of saving a friendship just tell him you changed it because you were getting lots of messages from guys on facebook and that was stopping all the random online guys so it was just to get rid of them not the truth.
2007-08-19 13:33:11 · answer #6 · answered by kitty_witty18 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This hardly sounds reasonable to me. He got angry enough that you two are fighting I would say walk away now! This is not a good start to any type of relationship! Friendship or dating!
Maybe you changed it to keep guys from hitting on you or something? I mean you cannot walk on egg shells just to appease his desires. Do as YOU see fit and go from there.
May you be blessed on this journey for it is never easy!
2007-08-19 13:34:05 · answer #7 · answered by angelskisses75 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lack of communication is the killer of every relationship!
Because you think it is one thing, and he thinks it is another you are messed up. Assume makes an *** out of U and ME - it's an old saying - but in this case it is relevant. Don't lie when you explain, you will compound the problem! If he can not forgive, you should not bother with him anyway, be glad he is out, and move on, he will.
2007-08-19 13:35:59 · answer #8 · answered by Pastey Pat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If his name is not mentioned at facebook then do not worry. If it is then write an explanation and if he is not satisfied maybe he was never really a friend. A true friend will try to help you find solutions.
If you need a friend only I am placing my facebook link and my 360 from yahoo
2007-08-19 13:34:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you already explain to him why you changed your status?
If not, you could just lie and say it was a joke between you and your best friend or something along those lines.
But if you already told him why you did it, and he's still mad, just tell him that it's not fair to you that he keeps stringing you along. You've liked him for a long time, and if he wants to keep doing these weekly hangouts, then it's only fair for him to know how you feel.
2007-08-19 13:30:32 · answer #10 · answered by Bri x 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋