i was inlove with someone else.. and i had prayed and prayed about it.. so i told him the truth.. he like cursed me or some stupid noise like that.. and yeah.. do you think i made the right decision.?
2007-08-19 13:03:52 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The other person i love i have been friends with for years.. he is my best and closest friend.. i never cheated!!
2007-08-19 13:10:32 · update #1
Stop leaving A ss H ole answers because you were ugly and got cheated on MMMK.. i didnt cheat .. i broke it off before it would have appeared i had.
2007-08-19 13:16:35 · update #2
You made the right decision. There is no use staying in a relationship that you're unhappy in and you felt like you didn't love him romantically anymore. I have been there and done that. Me and my son's father broke up last October and I was contemplating about staying with him or not long before we broke up. I knew I wasn't in love with him and that I wasn't happy...so I felt the right thing to do was to break it off. If you really think about it, you wouldn't want someone to be with you and stringing you along when they didn't love you. You made the right decision and he will realize that down the road. Right now he's hurt and of course he's going to say mean things to you...it's only natural. It's not right but some people let their anger get the best of them. I wish you the best in your future relationship(s).
By the way, that was a very mature decision you made. You thought about his feelings as well as yours.
2007-08-19 14:48:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Short answer: yes.
Details: I once heard that dating is not about trying to find the right person, it is about being the right person.
We have an idea of who we are looking for. Take those things, and be them. If you are looking for a man who will listen to you and respect you, then you be a person who listens and respects your boyfriend. If you are looking for a guy who would drop everything to be with you, then you be that type of person for him. Be careful though, to not let him control you. It's about each of you compromising, not controlling each other.
It might help in the future to decide what you are looking for in a guy, and make sure all the things are met before you get seriously involved.
Let's say Sally is looking for a guy who is:
1) A good listener
2) Sweet, kind
3) Doesn't get mad/ yell at his mother
4) Likes the outdoors
And let's say Sally meets Jim, who is a good listener, is sweet and kind, and likes the outdoors, but he's constantly complaining about his mother. Sally chooses to ignore that and hope it goes away.
Sally and Jim get married. Five years have gone by. Now, Sally is at home trying to keep the house in order with their two toddlers. She can hear the car in the driveway. Jim is home. She quickly moves the toys out of the way of the door so he can get in. She knows that if he steps on a toy he will go ballistic and yell at her for being a messy wife.
It happens in households everyday. The signs you see now are a sign of what is to come, outside of a divine intervention. Love is blind. Love is good, but blind. Love allows us to marry an imperfect person. Without love, life would not be fun. We have be careful that we do not allow love to shut off our brain though.
2007-08-19 13:34:37 · answer #2 · answered by konroyb 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you made the right decision! How would he like it if you were married to him, thirty years, and you had no love for him? You are in love with someone else. Soon he will be, too. There's a person out there for everybody, Actually, I think that there is a few people out there for every one person.. Anyway, good luck!
2007-08-19 13:11:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Of course you made the right decision, and the tone of your voice in the question makes me think that you know you did the right thing. I've been there and I prayed long and hard, not wanting to hurt anyone involved... especially myself. If it is reaffirming to have people tell you that you did the right thing... you did what your heart told you to do, so there is no doubt in my mind that what you did was for the best.
2007-08-19 13:14:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
in case you probably did not love him you probably did the final element. It wasn't honest to him or you in case you had stayed jointly in case you knew which you probably did not quite love him. of course, i don't see what Joel has to do with that. except, your bf is mad becasue you're leaving him for the different guy. then you quite could understand, that he could have enjoyed you and is hurting because you do not sense the comparable.
2016-11-12 22:48:50 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you did fine, it's just an emotionally-charged issue. There was no way in hell he was going to be happy about the news, but it was the fair thing to do instead of stringing him along.
2007-08-19 13:11:40 · answer #6 · answered by Captain S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well your not married, but it was good that you stopped two timing him; instead of dragging it on where you'd get caught and their be a fight or something with the two fellas.
2007-08-19 13:09:57 · answer #7 · answered by zindimale 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you did the right thing because you shouldn't have to compromise your happiness for someone elses. Its not fair to either of you!
2007-08-19 13:08:47 · answer #8 · answered by just a girl 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
YES! you did all you could so dont let him get to you if he cuses you out just remember that you did the right thing and nows its him thats acting foolish
2007-08-19 13:08:09 · answer #9 · answered by ♥↔♥ 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
quit being a slut and praying at the same time. other than that, it doesnt matter what decision you made.
2007-08-19 13:11:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋