What to do what to do what to do..........?

Question

How does depression affect a relationship? My ex's depression ended ours. I'm trying to be patient. We were going out for about 3 months when he told me it wouldn't work out for now because he had to fix things in his life so he could be happy. This all happened about 6 months ago. Still has not given a definite answer on the relationship, he just doesn't know what will happen. I've been offering support as a friend, and every once in a while I write an email to see how he's doing and to let him know I am there. Some he responds to, some he doesn't. He did respond to me last week, a few days after I had sent him an email encouraging him to get help. He said things have been painful and agonizing, and that the help he is getting isn't enough because his mind is still really uncomfortable. He plays in a band, and said that's all he really needs but everything else in his life still seems to be a disaster. I'm just looking for any input on his situation and what, if anything, I should do.

I did consider that he was taking the cowardly way out, and even brought it up a few times through emails to him. But each time he assured me that I had nothing to do with it, I did not provoke anything, it was everything in his life he is exposed to that made him unhappy. He said he was not happy and that's all there is to it. He does have trust issues because his ex of 5 years cheated on him (which caused his depression in the first place), but he was honest with me about all of this in the beginning of our relationship. I completely believe him that he wasn't taking the easy way out, and that he just was not happy, period. I want to get through to him, but don't want to push him. I don't know if I should let him go at this point and see if he contacts me when he's ready to talk, or if I should keep in light contact now and again? He knows I'm always here for him

Answer 1

Now I take Yahoo! Answers extremely seriously so I hope to any higher power you believe in, that you take what I say the same way. I've ether ran into a question just like this last week or your changing your user name in hopes to get a different response, ether way I don't change. The point is that depression is never a product of the outside world as much as its a product of how we react to the outside world, with that said. Yes its a cope out, and he'll continue to cope out as long as ladies like you exsist to let him. Go ahead keep socialize with him, keep relating with him, its your life. But if he can't get over his own failures (his ex-girlfirend, it wasn't her fault she cheated, theres always cheaters in our world, but its his fault for picking her.) what hope do you think he'll have in helping you? All that aside ether you see the truth to a person's purpose in life and how important it is, or your just blinded by love, which one do you think you are? realize thats his UNDERLINING problem, no purpose and no out to fix it, just another comformist going thru the motions of living a bland exsistence for no other reason then he is to weak to take the alternitive.... because quite frankly if you live for a reason, its hard to be depressed.... hence why religion has been around since, well, since we have, we need a purpose, or were pretty much amoral, depressed, purposeless, ******* like your bf there....

Answer 2

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