ok.. so my boyfriend and i have been together for 8 and half months. he went off to college and always told me he loves me & i love him too. he gave me a promise ring and even has an engagement ring! the thing is .. once he got to college he made a lot of new friends.. especially girl ones.. no big deal. the thing is there is a certain girl in perticular that he seems to always be around when im not there. and im there quit alot. but the other day hes like i started to like her or sumthing my feelings are so confused. i no i thought ur the girl for me and that i love you but right now i just dont no. and then today he said he wanted to have my kids and loves me. but i kno sumwhere shes still there... so my question is if you were me ... what would u do? thanks everyone!
2007-08-19 12:45:14 · 13 answers · asked by Amara D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is really hard. I don't know how old you are but it seems like you are young. I feel that you need to be out there more. He is getting into different experiences in college and i feel that you should too. Once you both have been out there and are sure that you still want to be together, then you can live without a doubt that you have made a right decision. Don't let him use you as a back-up plan and don't let him be your only choice.
Don't limit yourself, I think you know what to do.
2007-08-19 12:52:49 · answer #1 · answered by beautifulinsideandoutinjc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly don't know....that's quite a blow, and even though he's being honest about it, it's still got to sting quite a bit and make you feel completely uncertain whether or not you two have a future together. I can see some value in waiting for a bit to gauge how things are progressing, but at the same time, usually when people know you're standing by waiting on their next move you get pushed into the background because they trust that you'll always be there. It may be helpful if you gave every appearance of moving forward with your life (however that manifests itself) just so you don't look like a proverbial doormat. Maybe the implied threat of losing you may shake him up enough to realize the value in what he has with you and make him fight to protect it. Even if that didn't work you're no worse off than you are now. I wish you all the best.
P.S. Jacie is right.....I couldn't agree more.
2007-08-19 13:05:30 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're both pretty young and it sounds like this is probably the first real serious relationship you both ever had. Hes away in college while you're at home, so its hard to get that affection and attention you both need. I think it would be best if you give the relationship a rest for awhile and just let him explore new experiences has well as you should. He is trying to be a good guy but its hard cause hes never had the temptation when you were closer, so your young, let it go, if its meant to be, he will come back to you
2007-08-19 12:54:45 · answer #3 · answered by Jersey Sweetheart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 21:48:26 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that he is confused about his feelings for her, but doesn't really want to let you go either. If I were you, I would back up a little. You're on the edge of getting hurt badly here, because there is a good chance he will test his feelings for this other girl.
2007-08-19 12:56:25 · answer #5 · answered by Jacie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel bad for you. I recently moved into college and I have already seen relationships starting to crumble. You might have to accept that long distance relationships (I am not sure how close you two are) are nearly impossible. It is only natural for him to meet new people and want a relationship with someone he sees a lot.
2007-08-19 12:50:08 · answer #6 · answered by twid392™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he needs to make up his mind now. tell him that u aren't going to wait for him. besides, if u do wait for him to make his decision, who knows if he is seeing this other girl in the meantime. if he loves u and wants to be with u, he wont even need to think twice about it. if i were u, idk what i would do. for me, it would be extremely difficult to just throw my boyfriend away. but, once we were married, the thought would always be there. somewhere in the back of my head i would be wondering if he was really being faithful. but its completely up to u, this ones a hard one.
2007-08-19 12:57:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talking to him and see what he says is up. Tell him that them always together makes you feel uncomfortable. Maybe you should take a break until hes ready to commit to you and you only
GOOD LUCKK
2007-08-19 12:49:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd probably do the same thing you did. I'd be confused but I'd just go with it. I'd talk to my friends and get their opinions and maybe even talk to my mom. Just gather opinions but at the same time attempt to be patient and see how things go.
2007-08-19 12:54:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just dump the guy, and quit getting into a relationship until say you really need to.
2007-08-19 12:53:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋