My wedding has been post poned to next year because somethings were not finished. My matron of hoor was going to give me a bridal shower. She has cancelled it until next year. Who should she inivite. I know she only invited the bridal party her mom and my sister in law. Shouldn't she invited my sister and My Aunt ( My Mom's sister) The flower girl and her mom also ?Should I have say in who comes to my shower?
My sister and Aunt were very hurt not being invited.
2007-08-19 12:11:43 · 21 answers · asked by pandazoogurl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Your Maid of Honor should ask you for a list of those you wish to invite. Unless of course it is a surprise. She may have limited funds to give you this party and so it limited the number invited. You should of course address this with her in a non threatening manner and maybe even offer to have a family member assist her with the arrangements.
2007-08-19 12:20:15 · answer #1 · answered by Diane B 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it is to be a small shower then close family and the bridal party should be invited. If a larger one, then all the women on the guest list should be invited.
So to answer your question yes your aunt and the flower girl and her family should have been invited. Maybe your maid of honor really doesn't know who should and shouldn't be inivited. If I were you I would definitely talk to her and let her know who you would like to be invited. If you don't feel cofortable doing this, then have your mom or her mom tell her and give your guest list to them.
I am sure it will work out sound sliek she really didn't know what she was doing.
Good luck!
2007-08-19 16:16:13 · answer #2 · answered by Reba 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't invite people to the shower who are not invited to the wedding. That would be rude. Invite women in the bridal party and those who are also invited to the wedding.
2016-05-17 10:45:45 · answer #3 · answered by leonarda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is my understanding that in a "female only" bridal shower (some people go co-ed) you are to invite: the mothers of the both bride and groom, siblings of both bride and groom, close female relatives of bride and groom, the bride's side of the bridal party and any other close female friends of the bride. I feel she should have invited your sister and your aunt to the bridal shower. I believe you should have a say in who attends a party being throw in your honor, but if your matron of honor is paying for everything it could be a quite touchy subject inviting more people than she can afford. I would sit down and explain your feelings in a kind manner and see if you can come to medium.
2007-08-19 13:14:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depending on how many people you need to invite, you may want to hold a family shower and a friends shower separately. I attended my cousin's family bridal shower, there were tons of people there, and she still had a separate shower held by and attended only by her friends.
Now that it is my turn, I am having a friends only shower. We have a small family and it would've been only the moms, my grandma and that cousin (who I think sucks anyway) invited from our family. My mom gave her approval that they didn't have to be invited, and she'd be the one to suffer that decision since she lives near them and I don't. So friends shower only, it is.
My MOH is hosting my shower/bachelorette and asked me who I wanted to invite, since I had to get their info (from coworkers she doesn't know, since she doesn't work with us). I think you should have input into who is invited. I don't understand why your MOH invited *her* mother but didn't invite your sister?
I imagine the bridal party, including the flower girl and her mother, can be at the shower, but will definitely be at the rehearsal dinner. Maybe that will be good enough for the flower girl and her mom, at least. Bridal showers can get a little adult for a kid young enough to be a flower girl..sometimes they are focused around lingerie or uhm...worse.
Remember that the point of the bridal shower is to "shower the bride with gifts." So gifts are expected (they are not expected of wedding guests), and for a family member to hold the shower is not considered good etiquette since it gives the appearance of the family asking for gifts. Keep that in mind if you like the idea of the separate friends and family showers. Maybe the mother in law-to-be can host the family shower and your MOH can host the friends shower.
2007-08-19 12:29:15 · answer #5 · answered by Sistinas 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A bridal shower should include any or all of the female friends of the bride, ALL the female family members of both the bride and the groom (and in rare cases close female friends of the groom).
As the bride, you absolutely should have complete say in WHO gets invited to your shower. If she is not going to go along with you.. Let your sister know this wasn't your idea and you tried and get your sister to have a different shower/more normal one for you.
2007-08-19 12:22:11 · answer #6 · answered by tgrx 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Any female involved in the wedding should be invited. It is up to the party giver to ask for a list of people you want to invite. If she hasn't asked for it, just send her an email list and say, "Oh, I forgot to mention that these ladies are also involved in the wedding, and I'd feel rotten if we couldn't invite them.. Is there room to accommodate them?" She may just not have known everyones name and address. She really should have asked, but it's not too late to let your matron of honor know about the changes you'd like made to the list. Any female relative or friend is eligible as a guest. Your matron of honor may have only made an innocent mistake. If she wants to keep it small, she should ask you your choice of whom to invite. It is your wedding, after all, and you deserve to have your friends celebrate with you.
2007-08-19 12:24:34 · answer #7 · answered by Serena 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a bizarre concept!
We don't do this in the UK , it's hard enough getting the actual wedding guests to buy anythng decent.
We have Hen Nights out. All the wedding party females go out and watch the chippendales or similar, or worse!
Baby showers seem to be catching on in the UK at the moment, I have been to one!!
You Americans. Weird man. You love spending money.
2007-08-19 12:21:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should not have a say in who is invited to your shower. The hostess gets to decide that.
However, everyshower that I have ever been to has included every woman invited to the wedding.
How anyone can give a shower without inviting the bride's sister is beyond me.
2007-08-19 13:52:03 · answer #9 · answered by ee 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should invite your bridal party, mother, sisters, sister-in-laws, future mother-in-law, all grandmothers (both sides), close friends, and family (including aunts, cousins, ect..) it's in your honor invite who you want. If expense is an issue for her, let the bridesmaids chip in.
2007-08-19 13:11:03 · answer #10 · answered by jennifer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋