Why do people call it "rude" or "abusive" when you tell them the truth?

Question

There are several people in here who "tell it like it is" and they are acused of being rude or abusive? Now why is that? Do you not want to know the truth? Do you only want us to agree that you have done the right thing, even though you didn't?

Here are some answers that are not rude, but will answer most of the questions in here:

No, there is no home remedy for Parvo. Either get a vet to treat your dog, or be prepared for its death.

No, it is not a good idea to breed your dog. If you are in here asking questions, you haven't done nearly enough research.

If your dog isn't acting normally, call your vet. They can tell you what to do better than we can.

We don't know you or your dog, therefore, we don't care what you name it!

Are there any questions that I missed? What do the rest of you think?

Answer 1

The "What to name the dog" question doesn't bother me. The one that chaps my cheeks is "I'm gonna bread (All misuse of language is intentional here for display purposes) my sheltidachsahuahua to my friend's dobepitador. Don't say not to cause I'm gonna do it, so fluck you and just tell me how! I want the puppies to come so I can sell 'em at Christmas, so they need to be here 6 weeks before that. And how much are they worth?"--THEN they add to the edit: "They are TOO purebreads because I can register them on (insert your favorite crappy bogus registery here)".

Then to REALLY get my fire cracklin' you see an answer like, "Ignore the people who have decades of experience, or who get to decide who dies every day at their shelter...they're just stupid. Go ahead and breed your dog..so what if it likes to eat kids for lunch. And you can be the first to name the new breed and you can sell them for hundreds, maybe even a grand!"

The person who answers that way is never around to answer, "OMG! My dog just died and I have 9 sickly puppies and I can't afford to take them to the vet and I don't know how to feed them, and two just died, and who should I give them to who can take care of them....and do you think I can get them back from the shelter to sell them? They ARE mine, you know?"

And folks say we're mean or rude? Man, just be glad a whole lotta cables seperate us in reality. I just would love to drag some of these folks around by the ear to show them the REALITY of what they are promoting.

Answer 2

You have it bang on Kats. A lot don't want to hear the truth. I don;t think I have ever been mean to anyone, not my way, but I will tell it how it is. If someone wants to breed their dobielabapoo to their friends cute Rottiepitadoodle I'm not going to agree with it. I'm also not going to agree that the dog dying of parvo really will get better if you give it a pat on the head and some Gatoraid.

I try to be helpful, but often that's not what is really wanted. People seem to think they can come here and get free vet treatment because they don't want to pay for it. Some want to learn in 1 minute all they should have learned over several months when their dog goes into labour and they don;t know how to deal with it. They are also probably the people who asked a few days before how long their dog would be pregnant.

In part that's why I don;t answer much here anymore. It seems the worst advice is often the one taken because it's what they want to hear. Why waste my time! I am very picky about what I answer now. I only reply to what seems like a genuine request by someone who truly wants to hear different aspects on the subject rather than just wanting to hear they are right, they are always right. I try to pick out those who really are looking for a good answer to their question. I thought that was what it was supposed to be all about.

Answer 3

I agree with you , Kat...some people can't take the truth. However, sometimes, things are said with lots of angry emotion and I think that is why people get offended. Many times, the people asking these questions have no idea how they sound....most of the breeders and experience dog people have seen so much and I think it's assumed the asker knows the things that the breeders know. I understand that many of the experience dog people have seen it all....irresponsible breeding, neglect, abuse...I totally understand the feeling of some. But I think some of the people who are asking questions are totally ignorant to what goes on in the dog world and they don't know how ignorant they are. I also think that sometimes, people ask questions just to get the dog people riled up. I also get irritated that people come on here asking for advice only a vet could answer....why are they asking these questions here?? They need to pick up the phone and call their vet. And, when they say they can't afford vet care???.....it even makes it worse because people who own a pet need to realize that they need to budget for veterinary care for their pet. Owning a pet means being responsible for it and not having the money is no excuse!!

Answer 4

I find your question RUDE and OFFENSIVE!! Just kidding.
I do find it extremely annoying that people do this. I answered a question about someone needing to feed their dog better food and I got a nasty email from them telling me to screw off and what's funny is she totally denied that any of her dog's problems were from food. I responded with "Why did you ask if you already know what the problem is?"
Another time I got an even NASTIER email when I answered a question about breeding with some stats on how many animals are put to sleep each year. How is that rude?? She told me that her dog is smarter than me and that I am a jack@$$. Well, then, aparantly she doesn't care about dogs being put to sleep, she just wants her $200 bucks for each puppy. And I AM A JACK@$$?????

Answer 5

I can only speak for myself.

I'm here to share information and hopefully learn a few things, not make friends (although I have exchanged one or 2 friendly e-mails with some people on here).

I'd rather have an answer from somebody rude but knowledgeable than a polite know-nothing.

Some people seem to have already decided what they are going to do, just want somebody else to justify it for them.

I refuse to get too worked up by people asking for a name for their new pet. I just assume it's an over-excited child, essentially harmless - so I ignore those questions.

Similarly, I won't get too upset by anybody asking a genuine question - no matter how basic, as long as they are open-minded enough to take notice of answers that might not be what they want to read.

The only ones who bother me are those who GIVE bad answers, and those who WON'T ACCEPT good ones from knowledgeable people (double check them - you'll often find they are right).

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St Lady - GitEmGang is still about, under a different name now. I'm surprised you've not seen her.

Answer 6

lol... yeah, unfortunately there are those kinds of questions on each and every category on here. You should see some of the questions people ask in the Parenting section. This is the reason why I don't usually stay on here for long periods of time. I start to get angry at those people with no common sense whatsoever. But, also keep in mind that some people will ask things like that just to get a rise out of you. Some could be lying through their teeth just to see everyone's reaction.

Answer 7

I think that sometimes telling the blunt truth can make people feel helpless, or sometimes if thier animal is not acting (behaviorly right) the problem is sometimes the human, not the animal and nobody likes to be told they are "doing it wrong". Even though if they made small changes it would work and make a huge differance. Also sometimes someone asking the question may feel stupid, even though that may not be the intention of the answering person it may be percieved that way. People just respond in differant ways to differant things. No I don't believe that telling the truth even bluntly is rude or abusive.

Answer 8

I totally agree.
One time the question was: What to do? My dog is bleeding and urinating. Help!!!
I answered: Take him to the vet! They know better advice than we do. Be a better owner!


It was probably an 8 year old.
She gave me back an e-mail saying how people like me shouldn't respond to questions because they don't know (or something like that).
Anyways the point of the matter is some people are stupid.
-Pet Lover

Answer 9

How on earth did you manage to ask a question and the ML didn't show up? Personally I am looking (hoping and praying) for the return of GitemGang. Being kind to many of these people certainly didn't help. The questions just keep getting dumber and more disturbing everyday. Perhaps a good "SPANKING" would open their eyes to their brainless, neglectful and sometimes abusive treatment of their dogs? One can only hope!

Answer 10

McCain commenting on Hamas supporting was not name calling. Obama is a very childish person. Obama doesn't think there are 57 states, he thinks there's 59. He said he had been to 57 but he wasn't able to go to Alaska or Hawaii. And JonJon is right, we shouldn't listen to what Hamas says. Since Hamas wants Obama, we shouldn't vote for him. We don't want Hamas to win.

Answer 11

this is a very good question and some would say Ive asked daft questions in the past on here about my dog ,and you know what your so right I'm 1 of them ,I'm not trying to justify it lol but i not be doing it again ,the only thing i get made with is people pulling you up on spellings ,y should it matter ,know 1s perfect ,but b4 i came on here i didn't realise just how much silly questions there are ,but i did take on board everything people would say to me ,so to all of you that answered any of my silly 1s thanks and sorry if i p1ssed you off lol