My boyfriend is always getting on my case about other guys. He gets very jealous whenever im talking to another guy. He doesn't trust me to go out anywhere, even though he says he does, he doesn't. Any suggestions on what to do??
2007-08-19 11:41:05 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Are you flirting with these guys and he sees it?
Is he overbearing with where you go and who you are with?
You might need to stand back and take stock of the situation.
If you are, indeed, causing some of the drama, quit it.
If he's pressuring you to "obey him"....he needs to quit it, or he ought to be replaced.
2007-08-19 11:46:43 · answer #1 · answered by bitadkins 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My boyfriend is like that too. You should talk it out and come to a compromise. Most of the time it's the other guys out there that he doesn't trust. I don't trust the girls out there either. I've seen people steal other people's gf/bfs.
Is there anything that could cause him to be jealous? Has he had a bad experience? Do you go out a lot? Are most of your friends guys? Do you have a friendly/flirty personality? My boyfriend gets jealous and controlling too but he agreed that I could do anything I want as long as there are other girls around. Maybe you should talk to him about that kind of arrangement. Be understanding and kind to him. If he REALLY loves you, he won't trap you in a box. Remember, a relationship is give and take, give and take. Make sure he understands that you are fully committed to him and if he is fully committed to you, he'll tone down the jealousy. If he's still not understanding after you nicely explained everything and gave him understanding and kindness, DROP HIM.
2007-08-19 18:52:58 · answer #2 · answered by Maria L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that he has to learn to trust you. Don't let him get away with controlling you. Seriously. Many times a domestic violence situation starts with a man being "a little jealous."
But the flipside to this is: if you tell him to trust you, be trustworthy. Be firm and tell him that these guys are your friends and then act like it. Don't flirt with them or anything. Don't give him a reason to freak out. That way you stay in the right.
But continue to do what you normally do, and don't let him intimidate you. Be reasonable, and eventually, he'll realize that he needs to chill out.
2007-08-19 18:49:00 · answer #3 · answered by demimonde00 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is an issue he needs to get over, and you cant speed up that process. is the trust issue with you, or maybe he just doesnt trust the guys (has he met them) if the issue bothers you and doesnt go away, the guy might have to go... my ex was the same way as he sounds, i gradually gave up friends that she didnt like, i found out she didnt trust them(she could tell what their intentions were when i only thought they were being nice) but i let that get too far and ended up losing alot of friends that she thought wrong of.
2007-08-19 18:46:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems tht ur boyfriend loves u alot and he is very possessive abt u, but if he truely loves u then he should have trust on u.
His jealous is part of his love for you.. and u shud understand tht and make him feel tht u also love him the same and then when he understands this, he won't be jealous at all..
2007-08-19 18:54:10 · answer #5 · answered by DD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your relationship develops into something more serious like marriage I'm afraid he's going to be very controlling as a husband too.
be careful
2007-08-19 18:45:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem...think of it this way....if u havent done anything to make him think that...then bring it to his attention....tell him you havent done anything....and if you did...if u were happy with another guy or not happy with him...you would have left him....tell him if hes not going to trust you...then the relationship u have isnt real
2007-08-19 18:45:56 · answer #7 · answered by Sweetie07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is overly possessive. If he doesn't learn to lighten up, he will only get worse.
2007-08-19 18:50:03 · answer #8 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't talk to other guys as much?
2007-08-19 18:44:20 · answer #9 · answered by shannon_yo7 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it's like a slice of pie drop his *** cuss he will be kicking your butt
2007-08-19 19:04:20 · answer #10 · answered by keth a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋