boyfriend of 4 years just sent me an EMAIL to tell me he doesnt have the passion anymore to make our relationship work. He said that we should take some time apart, so that he can figure out what he wants. This was out of the blue...we've been looking at houses to move into together. I cant stop crying and feel rejected and hopeless. I didnt respond to the EMAIL, its been 4 days. We have never gone more than 12 hours without speaking to each other in 4 years.... should I or shouldnt I demand at least a face to face discussion? Or should i hold my head up and walk away? brokenhearted and miserable
2007-08-19 11:23:47 · 12 answers · asked by sayrevillejw 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Boy oh boy, this guy really is a drama king. Send an email when you can compose yourself and tell him that although you are very sad to see him go, that you respect his decision and will move on with your life. Leave it at that, and have no further contact except to send his personal effects in the mail to his house. This is a huge red flag. The guy has commitment issues and/or another woman on the side he is interested in. If he was just too busy for you he would have said so. Do your own thing, be strong, and don't go begging. There is more to life than a man and I bet you have a ton of people who would love to spend time with you. Get a new hobby, or a dog and throw yourself into it. Do volunteer work, but do not give him the time of day. He was cold and calculating, and I am betting he is waiting to hear you beg to get him back. Don't fall for it, a man who does this once would do it again. Maybe he really does need time to sort this out. When he is ready, and if you are still available, you will hear from him. Be strong, the misery will pass. you can email me to talk at ladydagger27@yahoo.com if you want to talk
2007-08-19 11:33:33 · answer #1 · answered by Ladydagger27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitly contact him again. Maybe he feels that you have lost your passion and that has caused him to lose his passion. Maybe the email was a desperate attempt by him to get the two of you talking about your relationship. Myabe he really does want to start over with someone else. You have to find out for sure. It can't hurt to ask.
2007-08-19 18:31:00 · answer #2 · answered by steve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most of the time i would suggest that you just walk away and forget about him but in your situation i think you should tell him you need to speak in person just because you seemed pretty serious because you even started te process of searching for houses you deserve an explination you invested too much on him for him to just walk out like that scott free its not your fault he doesnt know how to be a man and obviously hes afraid of commitment if he doesnt give you an explination when you ask for one dont push for one let him be
2007-08-19 18:38:26 · answer #3 · answered by dwat45 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't bother confronting him. You will fall apart. Just move on. When guys say they want to take time off and figure things out means he wants fresh meat. Sorry hun but most men get bored. At least he broke it off before he cheated. Who knows if he was cheating already and felt bad..
2007-08-19 18:42:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would hold my head up either way. face to face will be painful for both you and him. is there someone else? did he just "fall out of love" with you? moving in together is a big step, is he looking for the kindest way to say "i need more time"? i dont know all the details, just trying to see what might be going on thru his eyes...
2007-08-19 18:33:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im so sorry :[ its pretty lame to send someone an email breaking up with them if theyve been together for 4 years. i think you should discuss this with him in person and that should make you feel way better about it
2007-08-19 18:29:34 · answer #6 · answered by k a t e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st i will do all what i can to return him or know what going in his mind .. if u failed u r the winner cuz u take an experience in that way and u can find more cuz ur heart bigger than him .. don't cray cuz i don't like that .
set with ur self alone and know where is the wrong .. and open new paper ..
2007-08-19 18:34:01 · answer #7 · answered by joe1985 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
walk away. he has told you as easily as he knows how to and you need to let him know that your strong enough to keep on going. get your self out and look around and enjoy the things in life that you let slip away. i wouldnt even try to contact him at all,i know it will be hard, but it will be easier on you in the long run.it will also show him that you arent just sitting around waiting on him.
2007-08-19 18:33:34 · answer #8 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its been fourdays already so I think about now you should ask for a REal explination.
If he doesnt have an honest one.. then walk away. . if he cares he will walk after you to atleast explain. if he doesnt then Move on...
2007-08-19 18:30:39 · answer #9 · answered by Ceci 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he did this via E-MAIL!. what kind of person does that? he's a coward. plain and simple. just let it go and get on with your life. it may be hard but if you remember what kind of guy he is, it may help
2007-08-19 18:31:37 · answer #10 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋