Dating an artist!!!?

Question

Okay, I'm happily dating an artist, and i love it! But whenever i tell people "hey, I'm dating an arist" they get kinda silent, why is that? My moms an artist, so i've lived with it all my life!
I'm just asking for some comments on what you think it would be like, why you would or would not date an artist, why you think people are conservative about that kinda relationship, and so on! Be as blunt as you bloody want! LOL! thanks! Or you can just comment in general so you can get some measely 2 points!

Answer 1

I think they "get silent" because either they don't believe you - or are afraid that you are going to turn into one of those annoying "name droppers"...

As in - "I just spent my lunch hour with " ;););)

Or perhaps they see all "artists" as either flakes, phonies, or gay (in the case of men) - sometimes it's hard to know EXACTLY what it is that people object to...

Answer 2

I'm an artist so my perspective is somewhat skewed, but most folks have an impression of artists that they're volatile, tempermental, and moody people that are at times very difficult to get along with and remarkably self-absorbed. (And in some ways and at some times we are....but no moreso than the general population...particularly not in this day and time). The fact that your mother is an artist means that you would likely find very little of an artist's life unususal in any way, so the opinion of others should have practically no relevance to you. (Besides, you already know how much of that characterization is factual and how much is a generality). Enjoy yourself.

Answer 3

hey nina.
well for one.. my brother and best friend is an artist. so i know where u coming from..
personally, i wouldnt mind dating an artist at all. in fact i'd love it because they are soo full of creativity, and surprises that they can never bore u, unless ofcourse u rnt interested in art, n the other person is always conversing about tht topic.. which i know isnt the case here.
people get silent when u tell them coz they are proaly thinking " mayb i shud get involved with one, b4 answering this one!" lol..
i dont feel 'ppl are conservative bout this relationship.. n honestly if you love it, y bother about what people say or think ?? the point is. are u happy? n if yes, jus let it b n njoy the phase and feeling. simple.

Answer 4

Interesting.

"Artist" generally translates to --> UNEMPLOYED.

LOL! (but not really)

I was an "artist" all my life. . . from the age of 4, I was banging at the piano/violin CONSTANTLY and in dance classes 6 days a week while other children were busy having childhoods. And instead of baseball, my parents dragged me to the theatre, symphonies, the ballet & operas. I retired from "the arts" 5 years ago and every relationship/fling/thing was with ANOTHER artist.

Usually the life long background & training required to be successful is something not many "normal people" can relate to. In fact, I don't even talk about it anymore (say, on a date) because people have no idea how to engage in the conversation, nor do they have a fundamental understanding or appreciation for the PASSION one must posess to be successful.

In the arts . . . the saying goes . .

"To be the BEST, you have to be OBSESSED."

And since OBSESSION is practically a psychiatric term concerning people and the object of their own obsession, a well-rounded , BALANCED life is nearly impossible to achieve.

There is very little SECURITY in the arts . . . and most only become legends (if ever) when they DIE. I had the good fortune of knowing (and working with) Paul Stanley . . . the lead singer of KISS - the legendary hard rock/heavy metal band.

What astonished me was that he was classically trained and always wanted to be an opera singer. But he "SOLD OUT" to CAPITALIZE on his background and created a multi-billion dollar empire out of wearing rediculous make up and outfits . . . writing mediocre lyrics and best-selling "SONGS THAT SELL" rather than "MUSIC" . . . while going head first into creating the ultimate GIMMICK which sold GAZILLIONS of albums . . . . which got him RICH and LAID beyond all recognition.

The hole in his left hear is sealed (he went partially deaf from his own NOISE) and his voice is totally shot to hell, but it's important to note that he enjoyed a life he would NEVER have . . . had he stayed in "the arts".

Even though he has enjoyed a REDICLOUS amount of success . . . you can BET there is a BIG part of him that wishes he could have enjoyed the same success being "true to his art". And that will forever leave him partially unfulfilled.

A true artist MUST be self-absorbed. They tend to be EXTREMELY critical of themselves, and there is usually very little to "bank" on because an artistic life is filled with uncertainty, doubt, and there is NO CERTAIN ROAD TO SUCCESS.

MOST IMPORTANTLY . . . .
AN ARTISTS FUTURE HANGS ON -->> OPINION.

They seek approval CONSTANTLY. Dancers, musicians, singers go from audition, to audition, to audition , to audition . . . and constantly get disqualified (usually and ultimately by one lone opinion) no matter how hard they practice to hone their art . . . or how talented they REALLY are. It's completely UNFAIR.

There is no guarantee to success.

Everyone else's life and job is rewarded by every bit of effort they put in . . . they WILL get it out. If a man goes to medical school for 10 years and works himself to the bone . . . he WILL become a specialist and earn the highest possible salary. Same is true for almost every profession you can think of.

"ARTISTS" ALMOST NEVER GET OUT WHAT THEY PUT IN. But that's not why they do it. They do it for the joy of passion and expression and their lives are ANYTHING but "dull" . . . even though others don't see much of a "reward" in that.

Dating an(other) artist - in my personal experience - was chaotic at best. VERY fun, exciting, and passionate . . . but with no reassurance or real future regardless of the invested TIME for all of the above reasons I mentioned.

"Good luck", is what I would say to you . . . LOL! . . . .because - depending on how focussed an artist he is - you could be in for a GREAT RIDE for a while, but when it comes time to consider the "FUTURE" . . . .you may find that you are staring a DEAD END in the face.

I was one of the forunate ones who "got out" and sought a life more rewarding. I was not OK with placing my future INTO THE HANDS OF "OPINION" OVER WHICH I HAD NO CONTROL.

I CAN PERSONALLY GUARANTEE YOUR RELATIONSHIP WILL FEEL EXACTLY LIKE THAT AT ONE TIME OR ANOTHER.

Be ready.

:)

Answer 5

yeah, it good to have a date with an artist, but it' sometimes boring cause all your topics would be in arts.