shouting at children?

Question

as it is not right that we smack children, are we, as parents going to be banned from shounting at them. i personally have never had to smack my kids, but other perents have smacked theirs. what do you think?

Answer 1

right, i am not a parent, fact im 14, but i believe that there are certain things that need to be done in the name of disciplineand i personally believe that smacking and shouting need to be done.

For instance, if its allowed for people who have no link to the child (cops, teachers) to shout, then the parents should rightly be allowed to shout.

Answer 2

I think it's funny that a 14 year old makes more sense than some of the parents responding. Lots of people yell at and can hit your kids, and they didn't make your kids. Within reason, smaking for the sake of discipline, is not a bad thing. Nor is shouting...if your kid were going to walk into traffic, you wouldn't shout? Don't be ridiculous!! Everything has a place, time, and reason. If those components match then it's all right with me. I'd much rather smack and yell at my child now than have the police beat and shout her down to the ground because she is unruly and undisciplined!!

Answer 3

It depends on several factors first of all, you can't raise a child on no discipline at all, you can try but the problem with youth today is everyone is so afraid of losing their children they let them run wild. The only way you can approach children that doesn't involve shouting at them or spanking them is by redirection. Well, when you have to constantly pull a child away from a situation by redirection it gets a little exhausting believe me I know. To say it's not right to smack or shout at children is like saying every parent in America for every generation has been wrong all along and I don't agree with this. If my son is redirected several times, he gets a verbal warning not necessarily screamed at but there are times when I do feel i have to raise my voice toward him. As far as spanking, he's never been spanked my stearn voice is typically all it takes, he has had his hand smacked but that's the extent of it. As far as asking other parents what they think, you will have some people for it and some people not but your the parent and no matter what you do as far as your children in life people are always going to pry and say you know I don't think you should do that, my key ignore them and go with what you believe. Everyone wants to say spanking is wrong and out of context of course it is but there are certain circumstances where redirection and explanation is no longer helping and in cases where it becomes dangerous (child runs into street) it only takes one time. If i listened to every single parent about something they felt strongly about I would be a bad mom for not breastfeeding, or I would be a bad mom for having to have a cesarean. I go with my gut and know what's best for my son.

Answer 4

I used to smack my daughter occasionally as my parents did with me but realised It was wrong and never worked for me and plus I didn't need too. I don't shout either because I find it counter-productive. She starts sobbing hysterically and doesn't hear why I'm reprimanding her so I hold her and get on her level and speak firmly. Explaining why her behaviour was unacceptable.
Normally works or I occasionally send her to her room.
Having said that I do have bad days and i scream at her than lock myself in my room with a coffee to calm down. Don't we all? I don't think shouting really helps but we all do it sometimes I'm sure.
I also attended a parenting course ran by sure start which showed us it wasn't the children's behaviour that was the problem it how we deal with it as the adult that's key .

Answer 5

Hmm.... so are the powers that be going to ban shouting all together then? So next time my daughter shouts at me in a strop, shall I call the police? This is completely unenforceable, and I will continue to give my kids a boll**king when they deserve it. They are 2 well behaved kids, who have never been smacked, but certainly given a stern talking to when they needed it. It seems that we cannot do right for doing wrong in this country as far as raising our children is concerned. On one hand we have rafts of legislation that means parents can be held accountable for their children's behaviour, yet the Government is constantly intervening in how we raise our children and not allowing parents to exercise discipline when it is needed most. Screaming and belittling your children is one thing, but raising your voice is another. I for one will be ignoring this legislation if and when it comes in.

Answer 6

i do agree with the none smaking thing its a really good idea you get some mums that smack their kids and theres no need for it,i have never raised my hand to ny of mine they are teens now and they respect me very much i hardly shouted so when i actually did shout at them it used to really scare them and they just was really good,i had to be a mum and a dad to both of my children and they have grown up really good children,if a parent shouts all the time the kids no idea if the parents annoyed or anything they jusr class it as nornal and it has no effect on the child,you should only shout at them if there is a need to thats what i think and its really worked for me

Answer 7

As a child I was not smacked as i never needed to be but my brother did. I now work with children and have one of my own. Yes you get all stressed out at times (with my own of course) but she don,t get smacked. How do you draw the line between a smack and abuse? If a smack leaves a mark is that not abuse?
I raise my voice to my daugher but not shout. At work we not allowed to do nothing like al this, we don't even call children naughty as its seen as labelling them, we have boundaries which we know we can't cross as parents its down to you how far you go so maybe we do need more boundaries as parents

Answer 8

The way parents discipline their children is also how they teach their children to deal with any sort of confrontation. Hitting is never acceptable in my book. Shouting is only acceptable as a means to get attention if a child is about to hurt himself. Talking to children and explaining what is and is not OK is my idea of good parenting. Having meaningful repercussions - not allowing the child to go out at night with friends if he shows up after curfew and didn't call first, withholding an allowance if chores aren't complete - teaches the child that our actions have direct, related consequences.

Answer 9

Shouting at children is alright sometimes, say if they're yelling and you need to make yourself heard.

I think that talking calmly will not only set an example but you can tell them why what they've done is wrong and usually your disappointment upsets them more than you shouting. If they understand why what they did is wrong then next time around maybe they'll think about it and not do it again. It teaches them morals.
Smacking however - totally wrong no matter what - its humiliating and they'll fear you after that. You don't want to be feared by your own kids. And again its setting an example for them and they may start hitting eachother and other people.

Answer 10

I have never smacked my children. Showing disapproval with words worked for me . I know every one is different and what you do is your own business. I was not smacked as a child. what about this naughty step business? I hate to hear folk yelling at their offspring in shops. It makes me cringe, however if a child is screaming i do feel like shouting SHUT UUUUUUP.

Answer 11

Smacking is a MUST when disciplining a child. A smack is vastly different to abuse and people seem to forget that.
I do not believe shouting alone works.