Ok me and my significant other has been together for 2 years and counting. At first the relationship was good, sex was good, and so on and so forth. I'd say after about a year everything just got dull. I'm 21 and he's 27, but he acts like we are an old couple and i dont like that. It's like i'm the one wanting sex all the time, usually its the opposite (a man cheating because his woman wont give him no lovin' lol) but in my case its me on the verge of cheating. I dont want to but i feel he's driving me on the edge. I've tried talking, asking him what he wants out of sex if he wants to try new things, but he just sits there and looks dumb or say no its not that. No he's not cheating we are around eachother basically 24/7, alot of people say thats the problem but when i try to give us space he doesnt want me to leave. I am pullin my hair out in frustration, and i dont want to leave him but damn...what's a girl to do?
2007-08-19 10:47:28 · 4 answers · asked by MsAirrika 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell him if he doesn't learn to excite you you'll leave. it's blunt and hurtful but you've got to be honest and say something that'll make him pay attention. don't cheat. if he doesn't respond to a talk, break up, but please don't cheat.
2007-08-19 10:53:09 · answer #1 · answered by Yooo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's maturing into the relationship and you're not yet...it could be because you're younger, or it could just be because you have a higher drive than he does. He's not neglecting you just because he has a lower drive, no moreso than a woman would be neglecting her man if the situations were reversed. But he probably realizes there's much more to a relationship than just sex, and you've yet to figure that out, so if you really feel you're likely to "cheat", you should probably just break it off cleanly with him because he doesn't deserve that...he's not mistreating you. That'll free him up to find someone better suited to him and who can appreciate him on more than a one dimensional level. There are those guys who will be at you all the time, but won't really give a damn about you....still, maybe, you'd enjoy that for awhile. It's all part of the learning curve. Good luck to you.
2007-08-19 11:04:38 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl.. think about it. u r around him 24/7??? n then u say hes not wanting sex?? give him space to breathe. guys will never ever truly talk about issues like this. its complicated for them. they arent like us who like discussing things. they;d much rather just "figure it out " on their own..
as far as this guy goes, space is all he needs. n initially sex was good. then got dull.. think about how often did u have it? did u give in too easily? did u have it when u wanted to, or did he take the calls most of the times? n by the way.. cheeating him aint the answer.. he'll think u were just in it for sex.
think about wot else could be bothering him?? is it just the sex? or does he think u were in it only for tht? mayb he feels its time to move on, coz this physical intimacy isnt what he needs nemre. hes thinking deeper and mpre meaningful stuff now.. which at 21, are stuff u might not necessarily b too bothered bout.
2007-08-19 10:59:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you both need some time alone to see if you miss each other,,want to get back together or go on with your life
2007-08-19 10:58:22 · answer #4 · answered by goodwitch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋