Okay I was out with my cousin and friend one night about to have a girls night out. I realized that my tank was very low so I stopped at a gas station and asked my friend and cousin for $5 from both of them. My friend gave me the money and cousin lost her mind and felt that she shouldn’t give me any money because she is family. I had never asked her for gas money as many times I picked up because I'm just a cool person like that. But this time I really needed it and I explain that to them and she just flipped out on me. I haven’t talk to her in like a month and have no plans on calling her. I know this is petty but she said a lot of hurtful things that night that just blow the situation up, when I told her she didn’t even have to give me the money if she is going to act like that!
My question is; do you think its okay to let family get away with more stuff because they are family??
2007-08-19 10:11:14 · 7 answers · asked by Sue Sue2 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
NO- Especially because she is family, she should have offered you gas money before hand. Not offering and expecting you to foot the Bill because you are family would make her a moocher. - You needed help and she should have been there for you another reason she did not act like family.
2007-08-19 10:58:16 · answer #1 · answered by jewelsthomas 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It should have been made clear from the beginning that gas money was going to be needed.
Of course family is not exempt.
Next time budget better. If you are that tight on cash should be really blowing it on a girls night out?
2007-08-19 17:17:20 · answer #2 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Sometimes we help out family more because we like them. But when we do that, it only works if that family member helps us out when we need it, too. If that tit for tat doesn't happen it breeds resentment in the family.
Personally, I wouldn't be available to pick that cousin up for a good long time...until she had some money available to help with the gas costs.
2007-08-20 02:00:54 · answer #3 · answered by Critter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to lose your family friendship over it. You were right, but so what?
You should talk to her like nothing happened. She knows you'll ask for gas money again, and she's prepared for it this time.
It's good to head straight to a gas station with your firends in the car - before continuing on to anyplace. Right there, ask for the gas money. If it doesn't happen, make sure the person who didn't chip in, gets stuck paying for something you purchased while you are out with them.
2007-08-19 17:24:02 · answer #4 · answered by kNOTaLIAwyR 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are people who treat strangers like princes and their own flesh and blood like dirt
i have never understood why the most important people in our lives are treated that way whilst with strangers whose opinion scarcely matters about us get the best out of us
i vote with those who believe that those closest to us ought to get our best
your cousin is used to freeloading off you - time the rules of engagement changed - if you do want to resume the relationship on the same basis that is (although i am sure most of the readers would understand if you don't want to do that)
keep a relationship with her BUT change the rules of engagement so that she doesn't feel entitled to take take take from you and never reciprocate
2007-08-19 17:35:57 · answer #5 · answered by Aslan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no they should help out also if you have a car and are spending the time to pick her up and stuff and she doesn't appreciate it well then forget her also it takes gas to move and these days its higher then normal.
2007-08-22 23:10:15 · answer #6 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, its not right to let family get by with that behavior.
2007-08-19 18:10:07 · answer #7 · answered by professorc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋