Im really starting to get into a guy.Hes really sweet and is just the perfect guy for me. But a long time ago (in the past) , I had sex with his friend. I know i have to tell him if we start a relationship but will he hate me for this and not want to talk to me anymore. how do i tell him?? Oh! and how will he feel about me not being a virgin. He's not a virging either. soo plz help!!!
2007-08-19 09:40:47 · 36 answers · asked by sweet girl 408 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Who said you have to tell him? is he going to tell you the people he had sex with?
Listen your young, and if he doesn't want you because your not a virgin then then he's not the right person for you.
If you wanna tell him, then just say did you know that i dated (whatever his name is) that's it, you don't need to go in detail.
2007-08-19 09:46:46 · answer #1 · answered by NJ K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not a virigin, he can't judge you. The only thing that he can be bothered by is the fact that you were with a friend of his but he may or may not care, depending on how long ago or the circumstances behind that. It's best you be up front with him before you start a relationship. You can tell him that you need to talk to him about something serious or important. Tell him that you really like him and how you think you two have great chemistry but before you knew that this would become between you two, a long time ago, you were intimate with a friend of his & you wanted to be honest but you hope he won't judge or hate you for this & see what he says from there. If he reacts rudely, you'll see how sweet and perfect you thought he was. A true gentleman wouldn't disrespect you or hate you b/c of something you did in your past. He may not be able to deal but he shouldn't make you feel bad. Good luck.
2007-08-19 09:47:45 · answer #2 · answered by Unique Soul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you have to tell him? That was the past, well before you got with him, and thus none of his business. If he 'hates' you because you arent' a virgin, then he's not worth being with. Only wanting to date you because you have a hymen, is as shallow as only wanting to date you because you have a pretty face.
If he's worth having, you being a virgin or not won't matter...and his (sexual) past isn't your business nor is your past his.
2007-08-19 09:46:13 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey he may hate you. You'll never know unless you fess up. If you don't you'll always feel like you're hiding something from him. If he does hate you for it, he's not worth staying with because laying a GUILT trip on you is not being the "perfect guy"
2007-08-19 09:47:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he shoudnt mind that much?
if he does then hes proberly not worth it.. explain that you dont want the fact you slept with his friend to come between you. also he cant judge you for being a virgin because hes not a virgin himself.... if your certain he'll mind then just go out somewhere just the two of you and explain!:)
hope it goes well!
x
2007-08-19 09:49:18 · answer #5 · answered by Jess D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it really depends what kind of guy he is. He might hate you, but then he might be okay with it. Tell him straight up and he might appreciate that. Tell him that you care about him, and you want to let go of your past and just be with him. Good luck and I hope my adviced worked.
2007-08-19 09:46:28 · answer #6 · answered by Shiz-nit; :D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I wouldn't tell him, guys never like to hear that. I don't think being a virgin will matter, however tell me you slep with his friend in not a good idea.
2007-08-19 09:44:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can go and get the cherry put back in surgically. Many Muslim women that have had sex before their arranged marriages do this. Its a matter of life or death over there.
2007-08-19 09:44:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he's not a virgin, he obviously doesn't care about whether or not you're deflowered or not. He's in the same position, and should not talk. :x If he has a problem with it, he's shallow and you should stay away from it.
2007-08-19 09:45:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
His bigger problem is that you screwed his friend.. he'll never be able to get that image out of his head. It a man law.. we never take our friend's sloppy seconds.. It is a rule.
Don't say anything to him.. better yet, let this one go.. it will only lead to heartache and woe.
2007-08-19 10:06:55 · answer #10 · answered by dpilipis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋