Is it possible to attract the interest of a girl without a nice car good looks and money to throw around???

Question

Back when I was in high school, and latter college, it always seemed as though any girl I attempted to date would inevitably be asked out by someone who had a better car, more money, a better physical appearance (brought with some of that money), better stories (they could honestly tell her about their summer trip to Europe while I could only tell he about my trip to the neighboring state), and the ability to lavish her with more expensive gifts.

Since these other guys were always better choices then someone like myself, they were always chosen over me.

This fact motivated me to work as hard as I could to get excellent grades, which would allow me to get a high paying job, and then get the money necessary to compete on today’s dating field.

Unfortunately, after graduating college and getting a good job, a police officer pulled me over, struck me several times, and then lied and claimed that I struck her (I have a video tape and the decisions of three grand juries, and the jury in my civil action to support this claim). As a result of the lies of this sow (female pig) and the ensuing actions of the prosecutor, who held me three separate times and dragged me before three separate grand juries in an attempt to produce an indictment relating to this incident, I have been in and out of jail for the past three years.

Now, instead of having the success I hoped would allow me to attract the interests of a woman, I have a crappy job, a crappy apartment, a crappy car, and the promise from the government to START to pay for the damage they caused in two years (and they have only promised this because they were found to have maliciously prosecuted me on a charge they KNEW was false).

So now I find myself at twenty four years old with none of the things I dreamed I could use to attract the interests of a woman, and no prospect on getting these things for at-least several years.

Is it possible for a man in my condition, who lacks money and looks, to attract the interests of a woman, and if it is, how can I go about this???

BTW: A dead pig can tell no lies and it is likely a lot easier to get rid of a pig’s body then to go through what I was put through by the (Democrat run) Injustice system.

Just some thoughts for any of you who might find yourselves in a similar situation.

BTW2 The pig who told those lies is still allowed to serve as a police officer. I’m sure that all of you will find this fact re-assuring.

Answer 1

Of course it is. Reading what you wrote, I have to wonder if you're just looking at the wrong girls. Most young women like a guy who can make her laugh or who will listen to her -- really listen to her. Most nice young women don't care what kind of car you drive or how much money you have.

Only a prostitute cares how much money you have.

But reading on, I see you've been through the school of hard knocks. Best to have a good look at why this stuff is happening. I believe that to some extent we do have a choice about how things are going to be. How we feel affects how people treat us and there is a spiraling effect.

You seem to believe that women want nice cars and guys with money and you have had the experience to support that conclusion. If you could change your belief, your experience might also change.

Some folks just have a lot of bad luck and some create that bad luck. Only you could say which is true for you.

But the fact that you're looking for money in order to be more competetive in dating is a real bad sign. You're going to attract the kind of women who want things from men -- not the kind of women who want a man because he is likeable. Your path is not one of happiness.

Have some faith in women. Women are some of the most wonderful creatures ever created. They're not like a lot of men. Men are overly concerned with how women look. Women care a lot less about how a man looks. You'll see a good lookin' girl with an average guy a lot more often than you ever see it the other way around.

So I submit that these are your beliefs, not those of the average woman. You should get to know women a bit better and you would understand that all the money in the world isn't going to attract the right girl. The best way to attract a girl is by being yourself and finding the girl who really digs guys like you.

Good luck.

Answer 2

It sounds like you've had a few tough breaks. I do applaud you for tenacity in the face of adversity, and that kind of character can be extremely sexy and attractive--even more so than any number of cars or amount of cash to throw around.

Why not try for a better class of female than the type who's easily attracted to superficial things? There are any number of beautiful, wonderful women who volunteer, knit a lot, go to classical music concerts and museums, etc. that you could meet and get to know and then date.

With all that has happened to you, you're still very, very young, and you have too much time on the planet left to spend it being bitter and unapproachable.

Good luck to you!

Answer 3

Well don't go telling any girl this information immediately until you guys have a nice long sit-down conversation. Otherwise it will freak her out. Just don't go looking under every rock and every crook and cranny. She'll come to you. Go out a socalize a little though, that will help for sure. In regards tot eh whole status thing, don't even worry about it. If thats what shes interested in then you don't want her anyway because she will only last as long as the money flow.

Answer 4

Remember you're only 24, you're still young enough to rebilled your life. If a girl is only going for looks, money and a car then she's a very shallow person that will more than likely move onto someone richer when she has her fill.
Why can't you use your qualifications and experience to get a similar job once your name is clear? You shouldn't have a problem once your record is changed. I'd focus on rebillding your life before adding a girl to the equation, they're more hassel than they're worth :-)

Answer 5

Right now it seems like you are a very angry and disillusioned guy with many personal issues to overcome before considering a relationship with any woman. It's not a good idea to bring so much baggage with you when you connect with someone you want to become a part of your life. First things first! Focus on getting rid of the turmoil you're dealing with before trying to find a girlfriend because emotional stability is a very important factor - and you are not ready, my friend.

Answer 6

1. never do things to impress women...
2. them women were obviously only into material things...
3. that really sucks that all of that happened to you...
4. you don't need either of the three in a very expensive way to have a woman like you for you... you are on your feet doing the best you can with what you have and any woman that is only self absorbed in the way of money and other materialistic things isn't a good woman to have around to begin with...

Answer 7

ok you just need to be known
for something good
like your personallity
if no one knows you..
that isnt any good
but if you are known by people
they can tell thier friends about you
and some one will eventually want ur number
just dont come on to strong

Answer 8

yes it it. you want a woman not a girl. alot of girls are still materialistic . you want someone that is humble and doesnt care if you dont have a nice car, good looks and alot of money. just keep being yourself. if she doesnt like you for that then its her loss.

Answer 9

Son, you have issues that this forum couldn't begin to address...not to mention, this is a dating forum; the least of your problems stem from dating!

Answer 10

Just hold your head up high, and keep getting up when life beats you down. You WILL definetly get a nice girl. You deserve one. =]