I have had a lot of invitations from men recently. They seem to appreciate my good 'vibes' and 'energy'.. Though the only one that I really liked and opened my life to, rejected me telling me that he was not ready for engagement because he had other travelling projects..
Why do the one I liked has to end up being the guy that rejected me?
2007-08-19 09:13:21 · 33 answers · asked by Azucar 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There's actually a legitimate answer to this. People are naturally attracted to others who are higher than them on a social level. This is biologically imprinted in us in an attempt to breed better offspring.
Anyway, I'll bet that your not attracted to the guys hitting on you because on a social scale, they aren't as high as what you would be attracted to. On the other hand, you are more attractive to them because you are higher. So they pursue you.
But you are attracted to a "higher up" who may himself be attracted to women who are higher than him, or at the very least the same level. Since you may not be high enough on the social level that he's attracted to, he rejects you.
This may not be the case here, but alot of times it often is.
2007-08-19 09:27:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean when you say you opened your life to this man? Was it too much and too soon? Never appear overly eager to become seriously involved with a guy but simply take things slowly as you enjoy each moment of being with someone you really like. Pressure tactics only push people away so please avoid doing this. Also, if this guy rejected you then he's not the one you are meant to have in your life. Relax! He is "not" the last boat floating.
2007-08-19 09:27:47 · answer #2 · answered by Bethany 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is Life........Move on...
You sound young and not experienced at all...You are going to have many men ask you out, but you need to be very choosy.....if you feel about talking in IM's and emails for at least every day for a month, then meeting with a guy will help....you need chemistry with the guy, if not, move on again...this might keep happening to you until your 40 even....but don't give up...if you really want only one true love, you will have to work at it.......
2007-08-19 09:23:21 · answer #3 · answered by lodger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A very sad fact if life, and one we all find hard to accept is that not everybody we like is going to like us back in the same way. That just means that relationship is not "the one" for you. I can promise you the right one IS out there somewhere. You just aren't meant to hook up with this particular guy at this particular time.
2007-08-19 09:20:01 · answer #4 · answered by kj 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's just a fact of life that not everyone we like will like us back (or in the same way) and vice versa..."fair" has nothing to do with it.
If it worked out so easily, every time we met someone we liked, we'd never appreciate it appropriately.
2007-08-19 09:22:08 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the part of life that sucks. So sorry but this has been going on for centuries - many a story written about unrequited love. Move on - there will be another.
:-)
2007-08-19 09:18:31 · answer #6 · answered by Rechelvis 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that is so unfair. But then again, when was life ever fair? Don't worry. I am sure that somewhere there is a guy out there for you. Good Luck with everything!
2007-08-19 09:18:44 · answer #7 · answered by Cleveland Browns Girl! Go team! 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Life is never easy and this will happen to everyone at least once in their life.
No-one likes rejection.
2007-08-19 09:18:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because you weren't on the same page at the same time.....it doesn't mean he didn't like you....it means that he had something else he wanted to do with his life at the moment.
2007-08-19 09:27:18 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems very unfair. You see it seems like the ones you don't want chase and the ones you do run from you. sorry
2007-08-19 09:18:30 · answer #10 · answered by friend 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋